Decision to get an implant is so difficult if your dick somewhat works

[Gadsiee]

Physically speaking your penis is respondent to medical treatments.
I'm not saying everything is ok. I'm just saying likely you're even overdosing for your body (you need push ups..) but your mind sucks.

Thank you for your comment. It sure does suck. At the same time i’m grateful that I have found something that works sometimes. I guess we all play the cards we’re dealt.

We have pretty much the same dilemma right now Gadsiee.

I go from 1-2 week periods of a very solid working dick (with viagra of course) and a good sex life to the point im thinking "what an idiot i was for considering an implant, im perfectly fine!", and then suddenly i go trough 1-2 week periods of being completely numb down there and being absolutely 0% interested in sex.

Nothing really changes, stress level, work, exercise, you name it, it almost seems random, some weeks i see my girl and i absolutely want to destroy her in the sack, and other weeks i see her and dont think absolutely anything sexual, and actually feel a bit turned off at the fact that i most likely will have to find a way to fuk her so she doesnt realize theres something wrong with me.


Some days i just get rock hard by her laying her legs on top of me, and then other days i simply wont get it up after masturbating furiously while shes laying down using her vibrator. Its just crazy how diff i feel from day to day.

I blame propecia, it fuked up my libido real bad, and also blood from cock goes away pretty damn fast too, the usual VL symptoms. Pills work good to solve my VL problem, but if my libido is dead that particular day, there is no pill in this world that is going to give me an erection.

The way i see it, the implant solves both problems. I dont have to worry about either the drugs or my libido failing me, since i dont need either.

But then somedays im looking at my perfectly natural blood filled cock, standing strong while my girlfriend is getting ready in the bathroom doing her thing, and im thinking id be an absolute idiot to take that away from me with an implant.

Im a bit lost too, i know the struggle.

I feel you. I feel like my problem is a bit of both physical and mental. If my dick was perfectly normal I could probably do with my libido. If my libido was normal I could probably do with my suboptimal dick. Unfortunately both come together to fail me.

I really appreciate your candor.

And I also appreciate the complexities of your dilemma. For years, multiple medical professionals and myself assumed my ED was psychologically based. I tried a variety of approaches to addressing my ED based on that assumption. A few of the things I tried were just taking Viagra with the purpose of having success that would break through whatever barriers I had put up to traditional counseling to sessions with a healer who would unblock my chakras.

Have you seen a counselor, preferably one with experience in this problem?

You're a young man with, most likely, decades of fucking women ahead of you. Once you get the implant, there's no going back. You may want to make sure you've given yourself a fair chance at other options before choosing to get an implant.

Thank you. Do you think your ED was not psychological after all? I saw a sexuologist monday actually, but it’s honestly not helpful.


So just a quick update. My (somewhat) girlfriend came over yesterday night. I had PDE5is and PT141 in my system. When i greeted her I was rock hard. Then when we were naked in bed together I was completely soft again. After probably an hour of foreplay (and hating myself, and taking some ghb) I finally got hard and we had good sex. We only did missionary so far and today we tried cowgirl but of course I went soft upon changing positions. After many tries i finally managed to penetrate. Once I’m inside I have no real problems staying hard (given I have pt141 and viagra in me).

Unfortunately this PT141 makes nocturnal erections pretty much constant so I worry of priapism. So again i was doing pushups and squats all night to get my erection down, and even then I only get it down to like 70%. But of course, in the morning when I wanted to have sex again it went soft. This has to be god’s cruel joke. How in the world can I hardly get my dick down doing PUSHUPS AND SQUATS, but as soon as i want to penetrate it goes soft. The fact that we have to use a condom is not helpful either. But then again normal guys have no issues using condoms

Anyway. I can have succesful sex, but it’s very stressful overall and I’m dead the next day because I’m scared to fall asleep due to priapism fears. It’s not how sex is supposed to be enjoyed

Have you talked to your GF about this?


Btw, i dont even attempt morning sex anymore, i too wake up with a rock hard erection, and half the time when i try to use it i would lose it before penetration or even while already inside, its like my body would say "calm down i was just trying to see if your dick worked, we aint gonna use it right now"


Nowadays i just stay away from morning sex which used to be my favorite, as im actually kind of running on low energy at evenings/nights.

I think i also have to stay away from morning sex. She’s not my gf, although it seems like she wants to be. I‘m holding off for a little bit longer because I think she may now just be in the honeymoon and acceptant of my condition but will no longer be when that wears off.

I told her about my mental struggle, not about my medication/drug use. When I say something like sorry it sucks, she always responds with “shut up i like you”. Which is very sweet but I have a hard time believing it

[Fourtytwo00]

If think you'll lose, you will. Maybe it's just honeymoon but what's wrong with that? You ruled out the possibility that intimacy could somewhat improve. Don't frustrate her feelings with a "sorry but you need a better man instead of me" mood. Expecially if she really loves you. Perhaps you'd better off sharing some of your problems with her. It helps. You don't have to say everything, every single dose, etc. Try to relax with oral sex and giving pleasure to her.

[slipnslider]

[/quote]I think i also have to stay away from morning sex. She’s not my gf, although it seems like she wants to be. I‘m holding off for a little bit longer because I think she may now just be in the honeymoon and acceptant of my condition but will no longer be when that wears off.

I told her about my mental struggle, not about my medication/drug use. When I say something like sorry it sucks, she always responds with “shut up i like you”. Which is very sweet but I have a hard time believing it[/quote]

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That sounds like some of the girls I've been with. They say they don't care if I have to use meds, because we do still have great sex when I use them, but the lack of spontaneity and having to plan sex does slow damage to a relationship, in my experience. Being able to just fuck whenever is something that bonds a pair together.

[Gadsiee]

If think you'll lose, you will. Maybe it's just honeymoon but what's wrong with that? You ruled out the possibility that intimacy could somewhat improve. Don't frustrate her feelings with a "sorry but you need a better man instead of me" mood. Expecially if she really loves you. Perhaps you'd better off sharing some of your problems with her. It helps. You don't have to say everything, every single dose, etc. Try to relax with oral sex and giving pleasure to her.

That’s true. Maybe I will just come clean and let the chips fall where they may. The thing is, I value true attraction very much. To put it bluntly, I want a girl to get wet because of me, not just tolerate me. I care what a girl tells her girlfriends about me in private when they’re drunk, not what she tells me. I don’t want to be the “good guy” who she sticks with because of my personality or whatever while deep down she wants to get fucked by a potent hot animalistic guy. And I think that’s exactly who you become when she knows you need all these external things in order to perform in bed.

Believe me, I’ve been at these conversations between girls. The first thing they ask each other about a guy they just met is “was he good?”. It really is the foundation of any intimate relationship.

That sounds like some of the girls I've been with. They say they don't care if I have to use meds, because we do still have great sex when I use them, but the lack of spontaneity and having to plan sex does slow damage to a relationship, in my experience. Being able to just fuck whenever is something that bonds a pair together.

This is why I think I’d rather commit to a life of one night stands while using meds. That way I may never have real long-term “love”, but at least I experience true attraction from women because they believe I’m a potent guy

[Fourtytwo00]

No wonder if performance anxiety kills you.

Do you really want to take more drugs than a porn actor for just a one night "show". Because in your mind it should be her once in a life event or you failed.. Chances are you'll be remembered like the one who took so many pills that needed to push up in the middle of the night. You never want to spend an holiday with a girl because peptide once a week and no more? Really? Should be a blowjob while driving a car a stressful experience?
If your penis has no organic problems you'd better if you learn to manage anxiety, expectations and social interactions with girls. As long as you're young and healthy you may have good sex taking PDE5 once you fix your mood a little bit. In a relationship people have sex for several reasons many of which are preatty stupid like ease sleeping, relax from a bad day, stop a quarrel, etc. It hasn't to be a life changing event every time.

You've got a girl interested on you but you talk like a late virgin who feels like a loser if doesn't provide a pornish style experience each time. You're damaging yourself and you don't build up confidence nor self esteem. Even if you're not so interested in her, exploit the situation to make practice without rising the bar each time you meet her.

[seekonk]

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[Time2Change]

I know my ED is from a physical problem.

An MRI revealed that I had damaged my pudendal nerve. I think part of why doctors didn't consider that earlier is because I didn't have other symptoms that often come with that injury, such as numbness or pain.

[Gadsiee]

No wonder if performance anxiety kills you.

Do you really want to take more drugs than a porn actor for just a one night "show". Because in your mind it should be her once in a life event or you failed.. Chances are you'll be remembered like the one who took so many pills that needed to push up in the middle of the night. You never want to spend an holiday with a girl because peptide once a week and no more? Really? Should be a blowjob while driving a car a stressful experience?
If your penis has no organic problems you'd better if you learn to manage anxiety, expectations and social interactions with girls. As long as you're young and healthy you may have good sex taking PDE5 once you fix your mood a little bit. In a relationship people have sex for several reasons many of which are preatty stupid like ease sleeping, relax from a bad day, stop a quarrel, etc. It hasn't to be a life changing event every time.

You've got a girl interested on you but you talk like a late virgin who feels like a loser if doesn't provide a pornish style experience each time. You're damaging yourself and you don't build up confidence nor self esteem. Even if you're not so interested in her, exploit the situation to make practice without rising the bar each time you meet her.

Unfortunately I take the drugs not to put on a pornstar show, but to perform 50%, if that, of what a normal guy does. The PT-141 gives me random erections but they are not arousal related (mainly nocturnal), and usually they go away when I want to have sex. I think it does give me a slight boost though. This weekend my girl came over and I was so turned on and almost fully erect during making out (with the help of pt141 and viagra and cialis of course). It was euphoric and I felt so confident. But as soon as I put on the condom (which I can do in 5 seconds now), bam, soft, and it wouldn't get back up for another hour. Eventually I had to make her give me handjob and then put on the condom ASAP and penetrate ASAP, it felt pathetic. The sex felt amazing for me for the 30 seconds/1 minute it lasted though (i was so turned on by this point i came almost instantly).

The rest of the night I kept getting flashbacks to the beginning of the night when I was rock hard taking her clothes off. It was like god wanted to rub in my face what a normal sexual experience is supposed to be like, to then take it away again. Feeling how soaking wet your girl is is bittersweet when you have ED.

I'm asking for a urologist referral tomorrow, I'm going to try injections and hope i can put off the implant as long as possible.

Yesterday I masturbated again for the first time in months because I wanted to see how I would perform without potential performance anxiety. I did not use any drugs. I watched the most arousing stuff possible and never got fully hard, even close to ejaculation. Thinking back to my masturbation days I realize that it has actually always kind of been like that. Without a PDE5i I just can't really get fully erect for more than a second. My problem is more than performance anxiety.

[seekonk]

You can have performance anxiety with masturbation too. Trying to masturbate to check erection quality pretty much guarantees performance anxiety.

I have to say that the expression "perfornance anxiety" isn't a good description, because it doesn't have to feel like anxiety as such. It can feel more like lack of belief that erections will happen, distraction, or loss of confidence and arousal due to thoughts or expectations you may have of what will happen.

Erections are like Tinkerbell. You have to believe.

[Nadie123]

No wonder if performance anxiety kills you.

Do you really want to take more drugs than a porn actor for just a one night "show". Because in your mind it should be her once in a life event or you failed.. Chances are you'll be remembered like the one who took so many pills that needed to push up in the middle of the night. You never want to spend an holiday with a girl because peptide once a week and no more? Really? Should be a blowjob while driving a car a stressful experience?
If your penis has no organic problems you'd better if you learn to manage anxiety, expectations and social interactions with girls. As long as you're young and healthy you may have good sex taking PDE5 once you fix your mood a little bit. In a relationship people have sex for several reasons many of which are preatty stupid like ease sleeping, relax from a bad day, stop a quarrel, etc. It hasn't to be a life changing event every time.

You've got a girl interested on you but you talk like a late virgin who feels like a loser if doesn't provide a pornish style experience each time. You're damaging yourself and you don't build up confidence nor self esteem. Even if you're not so interested in her, exploit the situation to make practice without rising the bar each time you meet her.

Unfortunately I take the drugs not to put on a pornstar show, but to perform 50%, if that, of what a normal guy does. The PT-141 gives me random erections but they are not arousal related (mainly nocturnal), and usually they go away when I want to have sex. I think it does give me a slight boost though. This weekend my girl came over and I was so turned on and almost fully erect during making out (with the help of pt141 and viagra and cialis of course). It was euphoric and I felt so confident. But as soon as I put on the condom (which I can do in 5 seconds now), bam, soft, and it wouldn't get back up for another hour. Eventually I had to make her give me handjob and then put on the condom ASAP and penetrate ASAP, it felt pathetic. The sex felt amazing for me for the 30 seconds/1 minute it lasted though (i was so turned on by this point i came almost instantly).

The rest of the night I kept getting flashbacks to the beginning of the night when I was rock hard taking her clothes off. It was like god wanted to rub in my face what a normal sexual experience is supposed to be like, to then take it away again. Feeling how soaking wet your girl is is bittersweet when you have ED.

I'm asking for a urologist referral tomorrow, I'm going to try injections and hope i can put off the implant as long as possible.

Yesterday I masturbated again for the first time in months because I wanted to see how I would perform without potential performance anxiety. I did not use any drugs. I watched the most arousing stuff possible and never got fully hard, even close to ejaculation. Thinking back to my masturbation days I realize that it has actually always kind of been like that. Without a PDE5i I just can't really get fully erect for more than a second. My problem is more than performance anxiety.

I would risk saying that you have a venous leak... and I am not judging you, we are the same... now you say to dilate an implant because you still have erections. .... I had an ex-girlfriend who helped me with my problem, she left the country and met guys with normal penises, now that she's back, I don't even know why? Because she knew that my penis was shit and there is no more and I do not judge her, she has the right to have a powerful man who CAN please her, your girl does not deserve your fucking penis, stop doubting it and go get her an implant Do you have something to lose? NO, A SHITTING PENIS THAT DOESN'T PLEASE AND HE COME DOWN TO PUT ON A CONDOM.

I REPEAT WE ARE SIMILAR THE DIFFERENCE IS THAT I ONLY WORK LYING DOWN FOR A LITTLE TIME