Photo of my girl pumping me up

[Bigdave]

"I want to pump you up"

Yes, from way back when Saturday Night Live was actually funny. LMAO

[ThailandBound]

Random compliment: wanted to say I respect that in your earlier post about your girlfriend you also included a "oh btw she's a trans who also has a dick." It's great if people are comfortable sharing these things. My opinion on the typical ways men are expected to act "masculine" in our society is seriously outdated. Still seems like most men believe that a MAN only fucks a WOMAN, no MAN would mess around with other MEN. MEN want PUSSY, not DICK. That's bullshit. Sexual experimentation with the same sex has always been common. I know when I was 16 and wanted to find out what getting head felt like and without knowing how to get a woman to do it finding a man on AOL chat was a much easier alternative. I've been with a handful of dudes over the years. It doesn't make me "gay" or "bi." It doesn't make me anything; it makes me a dude who occasionally feels like fucking around with someone else. Think prison: if our bullshit labels are real, then why is it expected and not judged that those who've served serious time likely are with other men? It's only because if women are either unavailable or not in your current interest to pursue, men are an effective sexual alternative. I also think it's likely that maybe a majority of men are like this, but people are still too scared to bring it up because it still makes society say, "hahh, you're GAY!!!"

Anyway, you sharing that your gf is trans is masculine. You hiding that fact and never wanting to admit it would be the opposite of masculinity.

Thank you for the very kind words. Much appreciated, and thank you also for having the courage to speak about your own experiences.

Your post is more about sexuality than implants, but why not? This whole forum, ultimately, is about sexuality. On a forum like this where we can maintain anonymity it can be a bit cathartic actually to open up, maybe for the first time. This is a good thing, and yet again another way this forum is helpful. If nothing else, it exposes many men to ….possibilities.

I gafe come to believe human sexuality is on a continuum that is unique to each person. 100% straight on one end, 100% gay on the other with a BIG bell curve of variation in the middle. Growing up in the bible belt i was of course conditioned to think: “different = bad” reflexively.

My own experience has taught me what i consider universally true:

We do not choose that which excites/arouses us. That’s conditioning.

Rather, we discover, what excites us. I was much surprised to make such a discern in my late 50s, after a lifetime of “normal” sex, when i discovered my interest in trans women. I dealt with personal shame issues in the early days. Now, i accept it as my reality, have come out about it to my best friends (much surprised, but mostly supportive). I don’t really worry anymore about being labeled.

I don’t think i’m gay, per se, because i’m not attracted to masculine faces and bodies. Of course i do not judge our brothers who are wired such. I don’t think i’m gay, but i know i’m not straight either. I’m good with it. Whatever anybody else thinks affects me not, that is theirs to own.

[phliptrip]

Random compliment: wanted to say I respect that in your earlier post about your girlfriend you also included a "oh btw she's a trans who also has a dick." It's great if people are comfortable sharing these things. My opinion on the typical ways men are expected to act "masculine" in our society is seriously outdated. Still seems like most men believe that a MAN only fucks a WOMAN, no MAN would mess around with other MEN. MEN want PUSSY, not DICK. That's bullshit. Sexual experimentation with the same sex has always been common. I know when I was 16 and wanted to find out what getting head felt like and without knowing how to get a woman to do it finding a man on AOL chat was a much easier alternative. I've been with a handful of dudes over the years. It doesn't make me "gay" or "bi." It doesn't make me anything; it makes me a dude who occasionally feels like fucking around with someone else. Think prison: if our bullshit labels are real, then why is it expected and not judged that those who've served serious time likely are with other men? It's only because if women are either unavailable or not in your current interest to pursue, men are an effective sexual alternative. I also think it's likely that maybe a majority of men are like this, but people are still too scared to bring it up because it still makes society say, "hahh, you're GAY!!!"

Anyway, you sharing that your gf is trans is masculine. You hiding that fact and never wanting to admit it would be the opposite of masculinity.

My thought on it is who cares, if he wants to be with a man, a woman, or someone who is trans either direction that's his business. More power to the person and him if they're both happy. Life's too short to be miserable, find someone that works for you all the other bullshit doesn't matter.

[Surfshack]

"I want to pump you up"

Yes, from way back when Saturday Night Live was actually funny. LMAO