Missing the boat

[aslanglobal]

Anyone else happy w their implant but just feel they got it a bit late? I feel like I really missed the boat. I was operated on as a 36 year old. I'm just now 38.
ED actually kinda ruined my dating life for a few years, even though I was peaking physically. I had to turn down a number of really attractive women.

Now, a few years later, I feel like I really just missed it. I feel like I'm an older single loser. I know that's not true and I know many of you reading this are older. But as a single guy w no kids and no great prospects currently, I just think, despite this implant being great, I'm going to continue a life of loneliness. I see on social media all the time how 35+ is old and unwanted, even in men. Anyone else have a similar experience and how did you turn it around?

[Gt1956]

I think you're having what is commonly called a mid life crisis. Actually a very common occurrence. Usually passes after a year or two. Yup, it sucks, been there, done that. Had a few younger friends go through it. Take it for what it is. After it passes you return to your old self.
Best of luck to you.

[Franklin_F]

I agree, for us young guys with lifelong ED, this should really have been the immediate next step after pills stopped working.

[misterecz]

I'm 37 and date hot girls all the time. Work out, work on your fitness, figure out text game, figure out how to use dating apps. do cold approach at night, etc.

Really the penis is like a second-line problem, first you need to have a good pipeline of leads and dates.

Watch Playing With Fire on youtube.

[aussiePeyronies]

I agree with Miserecz.

You have to excel in other aspects of life, I know 40 year olds, 36 year olds etc doing great in the dating game, especially the ones with no kids. They just worked on their self-confidence, fitness, and finances.

Women are genetically hardwired to find fit, confident men who can provide resources, attractive. Work on these, and you will be successful in dating.

J

[aslanglobal]

Oh yeah, I hired a therapist for it about 6 months ago. I just hope I evolve a bit and don't simply go back to old self.

quote="Gt1956"]I think you're having what is commonly called a mid life crisis. Actually a very common occurrence. Usually passes after a year or two. Yup, it sucks, been there, done that. Had a few younger friends go through it. Take it for what it is. After it passes you return to your old self.
Best of luck to you.[/quote]

[master1c8]

Anyone else happy w their implant but just feel they got it a bit late? I feel like I really missed the boat. I was operated on as a 36 year old. I'm just now 38.
ED actually kinda ruined my dating life for a few years, even though I was peaking physically. I had to turn down a number of really attractive women.

Now, a few years later, I feel like I really just missed it. I feel like I'm an older single loser. I know that's not true and I know many of you reading this are older. But as a single guy w no kids and no great prospects currently, I just think, despite this implant being great, I'm going to continue a life of loneliness. I see on social media all the time how 35+ is old and unwanted, even in men. Anyone else have a similar experience and how did you turn it around?

I don't feel that, because I got my at 31

[freshkid1234]

Anyone else happy w their implant but just feel they got it a bit late? I feel like I really missed the boat. I was operated on as a 36 year old. I'm just now 38.
ED actually kinda ruined my dating life for a few years, even though I was peaking physically. I had to turn down a number of really attractive women.

Now, a few years later, I feel like I really just missed it. I feel like I'm an older single loser. I know that's not true and I know many of you reading this are older. But as a single guy w no kids and no great prospects currently, I just think, despite this implant being great, I'm going to continue a life of loneliness. I see on social media all the time how 35+ is old and unwanted, even in men. Anyone else have a similar experience and how did you turn it around?

dont be trapped in the looser mentality. If you look at yourself (sports, dress good, stay attractive) then the age isnt more then a number! If you understood everything how girls are attracted by mens then it isnt important which age you have it s just an excuse.

In the looser mentality you are at the age of 18 to young to..... at the age of 25 still not ready.... at the age of 30 its my time but I dont found the right girl... at the age of 35 it s to late. STOP BEING IN THIS LOSER MENTALITY, I know it s hard but I think you suffered your mentality cause of the long ED your suffering and it s no shame but the ED problem is far behind you and it s time to be on the winner street again.

there is a youtube channel called "far from weak" it will help you to get your life back as a real man.

[Hillywilly]

37 is not “old” the peak attractive age for men is higher than women at 25-45 according to studies by Moore Cassidy and Perret. You are in your prime my friend but sounds like your poor outlook is standing in your way.

[ThailandBound]

Careful friend. If you continue with this mentality one day you will wake up and find yourself in the same “condition” as many of us here:

In your 60s and 70s.

If this remains your mindset you will then say to yourself “Damn! i COULD have been fucking and enjoying great sex and relationships for the past 30 years!”. Which COULD be YOUR reality as time unfolds.

The past. It is OVER. Water under the bridge. Never to return. You are her, NOW. It is only in the always present “now” that your life happens. The past exists only in your mind as thoughts.

It’s beyond the scope of this message to discuss present moment awareness and it’s implications for your life, but you need an infusion of new perspective. Which is why you wrote in the first place. For me, books are a great resource. If you are willing to read, i’d suggest as a starting point:

1. “The Untethered Mind”. Michael Singer
2. “The power of Now”. Eckhart Tolle.

Both of those books are available on youtube in their entirety also if you’d prefer to listen.

And fund courage and inspiration from the older men here who, with their implants, are having some of the best sex of their lives. I am!