Transitioning from natural to bionic erections (updated)

[Franklin22]

If you have followed my story I was implanted about 2 months ago. Everything has gone really smooth with recovery and I have gained most my length back with recovery.
I have recently started dating again and have had a couple of opportunities to close the deal after the dates, but haven’t been able to bring myself to try out my new tool.
Apart of me feels pretty scarred from previous failures to where I look at sex as an anxiety filled game of either winning or losing.
I pumped up while the girl was in the bathroom last night and was ready, but I thought she was thicker than what I’m used to and didn’t feel any emotional connection to her. She told me she wanted to wait to have sex and offered a bj , but I told her it wasn’t necessary. Crazy right?
I’m wondering if anyone else has had this problem when they first have their implant ? Like before I would get naturally turned on, but since the erection is fake I feel like if I had sex with her maybe I wouldn’t be into it and not be able to ejaculate?
Obviously, I didn’t go through all this trouble not to use my new toy. But I have these anxieties what if she knows something is up? What if I’m not into it ?
Any advice for people using this the first time would be great.

[wolfpacker]

Sex is very much a mental thing man. If you weren't that into the girl, nothing you can do about that. When you find a girl who are you extremely attracted to, both physically/mentally/emotionally, I think you'll love the implant for giving you a hard dick to put inside her.

[TexasMax]

Brother, I think this is totally normal. Bionic or Not. Attraction makes up a huge part the game. As is previous experiences.
Im sure once you pop new cherry you will be more confident and comfortable for the next one.

[Time2Change]

When I was first cleared for sex,it didn't go that great.

It was over two months later before sex regularly started to feel good. During that two and a half month period,, I experienced pain, discomfort, and lack of pleasurable sensations.

Additionally, I was relearning how to fuck right. For years, my inability to get and keep a good hard on had dramatically altered how I fucked my wife.

I had big problems with confidence that I had to overcome.

But it all eventually got better. I recognize your reluctance to have sex at this early stage, and I imagine it's magnified by being single and having partners who you don't know well.

Perhaps you could just date for a while until you get more used to the implant.

[ThailandBound]

I imagine that if you could find a cool
partner with whom you could simply tell your story and who is open & accepting (they exist), you’d be much more relaxed. Especially if you could voice your apprehension. A nurturing woman would want to help you….and she’d be curious as hell to boot.

While still dating my now girlfriend we had our first sex (at 10 weeks postop). I sneaked into the bathroom and pumped up. Still tender and sore. I was very anxious but she acted like nothing was amiss.

After a couple of days i told her everything. She was so cool about it. My mind relaxed as we explored, together, my new toy. She loves it and now even pumps it up (to 50%, i gotta take over after because of her lack of hand strength). And i’ve got the squeaky classic pump.

Lots of posts on the forum of stealthy guys though. Very few report any adverse reactions from their partners with most impressed with his staying power.

Hang in there. Try to relax buddy.

[Franklin22]

Sex is very much a mental thing man. If you weren't that into the girl, nothing you can do about that. When you find a girl who are you extremely attracted to, both physically/mentally/emotionally, I think you'll love the implant for giving you a hard dick to put inside her.

I think you hit the nail on the head. I think I’m too anxious to try it maybe to get some notches under my belt on the surface. Maybe I should just let it come to me.

[Franklin22]

When I was first cleared for sex,it didn't go that great.

It was over two months later before sex regularly started to feel good. During that two and a half month period,, I experienced pain, discomfort, and lack of pleasurable sensations.

Additionally, I was relearning how to fuck right. For years, my inability to get and keep a good hard on had dramatically altered how I fucked my wife.

I had big problems with confidence that I had to overcome.

But it all eventually got better. I recognize your reluctance to have sex at this early stage, and I imagine it's magnified by being single and having partners who you don't know well.

Perhaps you could just date for a while until you get more used to the implant.

Great advice. It would be much different if I had a wife to try it out on, but being that it’s new for me I’m kinda just out on an island. I guess it’s just like anything you have to get used to it.

[Franklin22]

Appreciate all the replies, it’s really great to get some perspective from you all who have transitioned. My issue before bionic was keeping being hard during sex as I could get turned on just couldn’t finish. So it’s different not having an initiation of erection. I’ve factored all this in. I think maybe that I’m not the type to have sex with girls I’m not attracted to or have any kind of emotional connection to.

[Lost Sheep]

(edited for focus) I think maybe that I’m not the type to have sex with girls I’m not attracted to or have any kind of emotional connection to.

There's your ticket.

My advice: Go out and meet women just for her company. Do this until you find one who wants to have sex with you and you can have a heart-to-heart talk to about your anxiety-and your reasons for it (implant). Most women are hard-wired by nature to be nurturing and if yours is, I bet your experience will be earth-shaking for you both. Even if not, she is likely to take it as a challenge to do better next time, and time and time again.

[frank66665]

Appreciate all the replies, it’s really great to get some perspective from you all who have transitioned. My issue before bionic was keeping being hard during sex as I could get turned on just couldn’t finish. So it’s different not having an initiation of erection. I’ve factored all this in. I think maybe that I’m not the type to have sex with girls I’m not attracted to or have any kind of emotional connection to.

throw yourself mate, put her under the rehabilitation plan, the excitement increases while you are fucking, I fuck everything that has a hole, the more I fuck, the better, now you are at a point that you will have some discomfort while having sex, but if you don't start it slow to improve, go and throw yourself