Transitioning from natural to bionic erections (updated)

[Lost Sheep]

Appreciate all the replies, it’s really great to get some perspective from you all who have transitioned. My issue before bionic was keeping being hard during sex as I could get turned on just couldn’t finish. So it’s different not having an initiation of erection. I’ve factored all this in. I think maybe that I’m not the type to have sex with girls I’m not attracted to or have any kind of emotional connection to.

throw yourself mate, put her under the rehabilitation plan, the excitement increases while you are fucking, I fuck everything that has a hole, the more I fuck, the better, now you are at a point that you will have some discomfort while having sex, but if you don't start it slow to improve, go and throw yourself

Frank66665, please forgive me jumping on your response. You and I have not always agreed on things, but that is OK. We can both be right (for different reasons or in differing circumstances).

I believe (and I opine that Franklin22 is of a similar mind) that just "fucking a hole" is no more than masturbation with another person. Not that masturbation (even with some anonymous person) is necessarily bad. I just believe that for Franklin22, he would be better served by having sex within a relationship, with a woman who is interested in helping him to have a better experience.

Looking at it from the woman's perspective, a woman only interested in riding a pole (hard penis) without regard for the man to whom it is attached would not be optimal for a man with Franlin22's question. I think he needs to find a woman interested in the quality of HIS experience as much as her own.

[Old Guy]

Franklin22- Welcome to being bionic. I think most guys gave some good advice. Sex is more than getting an orgasm. As a single guy I'd assume you'd be out there looking to poke whoever was convenient. Find the connection first, then sex will come. In the meantime, try out some male toys so you know how things work. Best of luck.

[Lost Sheep]

Franklin22.

The aftereffects of the confidence-shaking years (decades) of inability to complete coitus can be debilitating (in your mind). It will take practice and repeated assurances of your own performance and ratification by your partner(s) before the realization sinks in that you are now CAPABLE. The stain and stink of ED lingers long and it takes a lot of coitus to remove. The more supportive your partner is, the more thorough the cleansing of your doubts (and the more fun the rehabilitation is).

Yes, it is a rehabilitation of your mind and confidence as much as it is a rehabilitation of your penis and sexual practices.

ED takes a toll on a man's confidence, even after he KNOWS his erection is infallible. Here's my take on my reluctance to get "back in the saddle" after my ED was rectified by implant.

When I first began to notice my E.D. it was like this:

For a LONG time I was plagued by the nagging anxiety of the questions,

"Will I stay hard long enough to please her?" then,

"Will I stay hard enough to have an orgasm myself?",

"Will I get hard enough to even get inside her?"

and ultimately the near certainty,

"You will not even GET hard.". And that NEAR certainty was worse than a certainty.

But then I got an implant....because there was nothing worth going back to if the operation failed.

Ultimately the anxiety of, "Will I stay hard?" is gone, (not to mention the anxiety in the back of HER mind, "Will HE stay hard long enough for me to have even ONE orgasm?"). With my implant, sex can be as carefree, spontaneous and playful as can be.

And during sex, I don't concentrate on keeping my erection. I am free to concentrate of making the most of an erection with staying power, concentrate on how it feels to her and concentrate on being the kind of considerate man IN BED as I try to be OUT OF BED that makes us (her and me) happy with each other.

[frank66665]

Appreciate all the replies, it’s really great to get some perspective from you all who have transitioned. My issue before bionic was keeping being hard during sex as I could get turned on just couldn’t finish. So it’s different not having an initiation of erection. I’ve factored all this in. I think maybe that I’m not the type to have sex with girls I’m not attracted to or have any kind of emotional connection to.

throw yourself mate, put her under the rehabilitation plan, the excitement increases while you are fucking, I fuck everything that has a hole, the more I fuck, the better, now you are at a point that you will have some discomfort while having sex, but if you don't start it slow to improve, go and throw yourself

Frank66665, please forgive me jumping on your response. You and I have not always agreed on things, but that is OK. We can both be right (for different reasons or in differing circumstances).

I believe (and I opine that Franklin22 is of a similar mind) that just "fucking a hole" is no more than masturbation with another person. Not that masturbation (even with some anonymous person) is necessarily bad. I just believe that for Franklin22, he would be better served by having sex within a relationship, with a woman who is interested in helping him to have a better experience.

Looking at it from the woman's perspective, a woman only interested in riding a pole (hard penis) without regard for the man to whom it is attached would not be optimal for a man with Franlin22's question. I think he needs to find a woman interested in the quality of HIS experience as much as her own.

go figure lost sheep, you can agree and disagree, everyone has their own point of view, i mean, in the period franklin22 is found, it is a period of bittersweet sex. in the sense that while having sex you feel some discomfort, which is why I advised you to start having sex, in a way that improves more and more, so that you can gain confidence in your abilities, if you wait for the right woman you could run the risk of months passing by without being able to use the system in the field

[Franklin22]

I actually agree with Both of you. The best way to get out there is to use it. It’s kind of like anything in life. If you don’t try you will not succeed and practice makes perfect.
For me, I’ve been anxious to start dating again and I’m probably not even fully healed yet and still have not got back my full length yet.
Thus, it has made me a little gunshy knowing this.
I do think rather than just have sex with anything that moves I need to find someone I’m somewhat attracted to. On to the next one !

[SWorks17]

If you have followed my story I was implanted about 2 months ago. Everything has gone really smooth with recovery and I have gained most my length back with recovery.
I have recently started dating again and have had a couple of opportunities to close the deal after the dates, but haven’t been able to bring myself to try out my new tool.
Apart of me feels pretty scarred from previous failures to where I look at sex as an anxiety filled game of either winning or losing.
I pumped up while the girl was in the bathroom last night and was ready, but I thought she was thicker than what I’m used to and didn’t feel any emotional connection to her. She told me she wanted to wait to have sex and offered a bj , but I told her it wasn’t necessary. Crazy right?
I’m wondering if anyone else has had this problem when they first have their implant ? Like before I would get naturally turned on, but since the erection is fake I feel like if I had sex with her maybe I wouldn’t be into it and not be able to ejaculate?
Obviously, I didn’t go through all this trouble not to use my new toy. But I have these anxieties what if she knows something is up? What if I’m not into it ?
Any advice for people using this the first time would be great.

Franklin22, I'm married and it was super awkward the first time we had sex. I was given the clearance at 6 weeks but I waited till 8 weeks and I was unsure of how much to pump up to, I had pain in the my glans after being pumped up for 20 minutes.
It just didn't feel right the first time, I didn't feel like I was penetrating her enough, maybe because I still had pain in my glans, shaft and I also still had numbness, but it was great to have sex again.
It really starting feeling like my younger dick back in my 30's and 40's around the 6 month mark for me. I've read a lot of threads on FrankTalk where guys felt more healed sooner and had better sex sooner, it gets better every week.
When the time comes just do the best you can, I know whoever the gal is, she will enjoy it. My wife has never told me that she can tell the difference now that it's Bionic.

Good luck Franklin22
Getting back in the saddle again
S-Works

[Rov999]

I'm 25 days out, I'm swollen to 60%..my dick still has edema and is sore..but yesterday my girlfriend gave me head very gently it was amazing the same sensations as before..I asked him if he noticed something different said he didn't notice anything strange about my dick..go out and have fun..appetite comes with eating

[Franklin22]

If you have followed my story I was implanted about 2 months ago. Everything has gone really smooth with recovery and I have gained most my length back with recovery.
I have recently started dating again and have had a couple of opportunities to close the deal after the dates, but haven’t been able to bring myself to try out my new tool.
Apart of me feels pretty scarred from previous failures to where I look at sex as an anxiety filled game of either winning or losing.
I pumped up while the girl was in the bathroom last night and was ready, but I thought she was thicker than what I’m used to and didn’t feel any emotional connection to her. She told me she wanted to wait to have sex and offered a bj , but I told her it wasn’t necessary. Crazy right?
I’m wondering if anyone else has had this problem when they first have their implant ? Like before I would get naturally turned on, but since the erection is fake I feel like if I had sex with her maybe I wouldn’t be into it and not be able to ejaculate?
Obviously, I didn’t go through all this trouble not to use my new toy. But I have these anxieties what if she knows something is up? What if I’m not into it ?
Any advice for people using this the first time would be great.

Franklin22, I'm married and it was super awkward the first time we had sex. I was given the clearance at 6 weeks but I waited till 8 weeks and I was unsure of how much to pump up to, I had pain in the my glans after being pumped up for 20 minutes.
It just didn't feel right the first time, I didn't feel like I was penetrating her enough, maybe because I still had pain in my glans, shaft and I also still had numbness, but it was great to have sex again.
It really starting feeling like my younger dick back in my 30's and 40's around the 6 month mark for me. I've read a lot of threads on FrankTalk where guys felt more healed sooner and had better sex sooner, it gets better every week.
When the time comes just do the best you can, I know whoever the gal is, she will enjoy it. My wife has never told me that she can tell the difference now that it's Bionic.

Good luck Franklin22
Getting back in the saddle again
S-Works

Thanks SW. You are always giving good uplifting advice. I'm glad to know I'm not alone in my first experiences being bionic. I have a good prospect that is going to take more time that may end up being my first experience. Hope to report back with soon with some good news.

[Franklin22]

I'm 25 days out, I'm swollen to 60%..my dick still has edema and is sore..but yesterday my girlfriend gave me head very gently it was amazing the same sensations as before..I asked him if he noticed something different said he didn't notice anything strange about my dick..go out and have fun..appetite comes with eating

Thats right. I think it was more in my head. (not the one being used.)

Hope to report good news in the next couple of weeks. This would be so much easier with a wife or GF. lol

[ready2go]

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Hope to report good news in the next couple of weeks. This would be so much easier with a wife or GF. lol

just find a woman you find attractive .'the beholder of the eye" thing . and slide mr bionic in and watch her enjoy it again and again . personally i wouldnt tell a single woman you have had a implant . let them think what ever they want . 'he is a super man !" haha . if a girl asks why your always ready and last for hours tell her she makes you that way .