Gt1956 wrote:Its common to fail to realize that implant surgery is to give you a functional erection. Flacid size is not their concern. Post operation flacid size is a function of the nature of the implant material. Simple, its something that we just have to adapt to.
Many surprises & changes await you after surgery.
I'll list a few that caught my attention. Probably the biggest change to me was that I could stop sex to go pee. Even when I was very young. Doing that meant that I would lose my erection. But it could be recovered but usually not as hard as before peeing. I'm sure that guys know the "piss hard on" phrase. My wife really liked the extra hardness of the piss hard on. She was a good sport about me losing it but it changed the experience for her.
Even my CX is just "different"at flacid. Yes, most will say its now a shower but its surprising to me. Sometimes I need to reposition it more than I ever did before. Kind of reminds me of a minor semi erection after having sex. Just its "there" feeling. Evenbafter 6+ months. Hard to describe.
Be prepared to gradually lose any "wow you're really hard" comments. I don't know about most women but my wife could gage my erections better than I could. Girth is important but the hardness of whatever girth you have is a very big factor to women. I think they read it as you're really turned on by them signal. Us men fail to consider the hardness of our girth. Ya, we're too focused on the visual size. Women can tell hardness really well. Your partner might stop noticing when you're extra hard because you're ALWAYS extra hard. But be careful, its easy to be "too" hard. You need to read the little hidden signals that she might give you on how hard to be. Pay attention guys.
As a side note to the hardness. My wife dates the start of my ED farther back by several years than I do. She could tell that the hardness of my erections was diminishing. I didn't notice.
It might take some time to get accustomed to that sex doesn't have to stop after you ejaculate. Occasionally I would trick my wife into thinking that I had cum. A few strategic thrusts & a few kegles was all it took. Of course sex continued. That never failed to really excite her. I think your partner will really like that sex doesn't stop at your cumming.
As they say, " hold on to your hats". Lots of stuff will change. Men are focused on what WE see as being changed. Women will focus on what they "feel" has changed. Reading those signals will really benefit you because women will seldom verbalize those feelings.
Sorry guys, another long rambling post.
Excellent perspective. My gal likes it pumped up HARD. Her reaction to it in turn is very arousing. It’s her reaction that kicks in for me the natural swelling in the glans. When i’m about to cum it’s obvious to her and she bucks like a wild pony. In the past that thrashing was distracting and might cause me to lose focus, and my wood. Not anymore!
really good community here.