Telling your SO about the implant

[Stayingstrong]

Three weeks post-op and cleared for sex by Dr. Eid.
Initially, I had planned to tell my girlfriend about having an implant after I was healed and we began having sex again. She enjoys giving me blowjobs and especially likes fondling my balls. I figured she would feel the pump and know immediately that it was not a testicle by the hardness of it.
I had originally told her that I was going in for a male overhaul to one of the top urologists in the country who was, fortunately, only two hours away from me with an easy bus ride to get there and back.
I told her that I was setting myself up for an active sex life to take me through my 70's decade which I am now beginning. She is a very young 73 years of age and enjoys marathon sex very much. She was under the impression that my urological quest was more relative to my long standing BPH.
Anyway, I had been very evasive about the whole thing with her. She pried a little bit always backed off when I told her that I would explain everything in detail once I was healed and cleared to resume sex.
Anyway, the time came the other day and she gave me a soft blowjob to be gentle for the first time. She fondled my balls as she sucked me off and I ejaculated in her mouth as I always have in the past with my Trimix and constriction band erections. I came

hard as she swallowed me down as usual.
Afterward, she said "wow, that was a big load. Yoe ur balls were so full and hard".
I was prepared to "fess" up totally by opted not to.
The next day we had intercourse dog style and missionary. Again, she enjoys reaching down and/or around to feel my balls as we engage. We went at it for at least a half hour before I finally came after her multiple orgasms. She commented again on the size, hardness, and fullness of my sack assuming the pump was a testicle.
Now, previously, being on TRT, my balls were small and often kind of hidden and soft. This made my scrotal area obviously different to her but she really liked it.
OK, cut to the chase. I am now very much reconsidering telling her anything and just letting her to continue to believe my surgeon was a wizard and performed a miracle on me. There is absolutely no scar at 3 weeks on my scrotum so even with close examination of that area, it is undetectable. Just a slight bulge where the tube runs up to the, also totally imperceptible, reservoir. I am very lean and Dr. Eid originally told me that this area would be slightly larger than the other side. Not a problem however.
I maintained my small bone pressed 5.5 inch length, so that is not an issue.
Finally, I have no problem with telling her about the implant if need be, and I know that it will not matter to her. However, right now, I like the fact that she is impressed and enjoying the scrotal manipulation which I also enjoy and allowed her to do figuring I would tell her about the implant.
So right now I am of the mindset to just leave it along with no explanation except telling her that I am feeling constantly, strongly horny.
Most times, in all situations, the less said, the better.... Especially to women!

[Mark1974]

I would like to think that a 73 year old woman could handle the idea of an implant without losing respect for her lover's virility, but I know that's not the world we live in.

[Stayingstrong]

I would like to think that a 73 year old woman could handle the idea of an implant without losing respect for her lover's virility, but I know that's not the world we live in.

She, most definitely would not have any issues with it and that is why I had all intentions of telling her. I did not want to say anything before or during the process since I, myself, did not know what to expect.
I may, later tell her or she may discover it on her own. The fact is that it just really doesn't matter either way. For now, I just like "living in the moment" but knowing that the actual implant is not recognized for my own confidence when I hook up with other women. This is all new to me and I am further learning and gaining expertise on how to get the most out of my newfound virility.

[Txagq8]

At the risk of a lot of folks criticizing me as a liar, or deceptive, or a cheat, I’m going to tell the truth.

I’m not sure my wife knows it’s an implant.

Here’s the deal: my wife knew I had ED. Boy, did she ever. In fact I couldn’t get several doctors to believe me about it (healthy/horny 29 yr old Army guy who couldn’t keep it up) until I took her to a consultation and she described exactly what was going on better than I could.

We had with reasonable success built a sex life based on injections. It wasn’t perfect but it beat the alternative. It is what it is.

She was sympathetic/supportive when, in my 40s during a big work up/eval I got told that the vascular surgery everyone had high hopes for really didn’t work and that I wasn’t a candidate for even trying.

So when I made up my mind to get this done I simply told her I was going for a procedure to fix the ED. I didn’t intentionally schedule it for a day when she was off visiting relatives between Xmas & New Year. But I wanted to take advantage of hitting our catastrophic cap so it didn’t really cost me anything.

By the time she got home I was almost a week post-surgery and I had sort of downplayed the surgery. It helped that I had a really quick uneventful recovery.

My opinion is still thus: men care about their dicks much more than women. This is true for size, shape, cut vs uncut. The main thing that my wife’s concerned about is (a) a bit of girth and (b) does it work? She’s not so interested in erection mechanics.

[Gt1956]

Txagq8, I think perhaps a different, maybe better way to put into perspective is. If the dick don't work? They want to know things. Is it me, doesn't he like or lust for me? The list could go on for a long time as they internalize it. If the dick works then its all good. No need to delve into their fears.

Basically if all works good, sex is good. They're happy. Don't look a gift horse in the mouth type thing. You might be correct that she hasn't seen fit to question the better you. You're the hero. You had a problem, identifed the problem & fixed it. Done deal.

[Old Guy]

My wife went through all the steps with me, from pills to injections to the implant. We love our sex life and I wasn't giving it up. Someone I know has been implanted for over a year and has yet to tell his gf.
My thought? If you are satisfying the lady she isn't going to ask about how you're making her feel so good. She might wonder how you became a superman in bed, but again, probably no questions asked. Enjoy it.

[Stayingstrong]

My wife went through all the steps with me, from pills to injections to the implant. We love our sex life and I wasn't giving it up. Someone I know has been implanted for over a year and has yet to tell his gf.
My thought? If you are satisfying the lady she isn't going to ask about how you're making her feel so good. She might wonder how you became a superman in bed, but again, probably no questions asked. Enjoy it.

I agree. As long as you are taking care of their needs and they feel they are fulfilling yours, and there is no need to dable into the depths of the science of it

[Mark1974]

My opinion is still thus: men care about their dicks much more than women. This is true for size, shape, cut vs uncut.

I don't think this is true...but I respect your opinion

[Lost Sheep]

Has she noticed that you don't inject any more?

Women can be clueless about the mechanisms of erection, but also pretty savvy about sexual things...and observant.

I recall, a couple years ago a woman in her 20s who posted (became a member without realizing this is a "men only" site) that she figured out her lover was implanted after her second sexual encounter with him. She decided not to tell him she knew. Figured he would tell her if she wanted her to know. Didn't reduce her enjoyment of the sex and she did not mention to me any distress over him keeping a secret from her. His choice, which she accepted. Not looking a gift horse in the mouth. That was her choice.

But keeping a secret usually puts a strain on a relationship. If you are intent on this being a long-term relationship, remember that trust is an element of happiness. Besides, she might enjoy participating in the pumping up process.

You mentioned having sex with other women, too. Does she know? Does she accept/approve?

[Stayingstrong]

Has she noticed that you don't inject any more?

Women can be clueless about the mechanisms of erection, but also pretty savvy about sexual things...and observant.

I recall, a couple years ago a woman in her 20s who posted (became a member without realizing this is a "men only" site) that she figured out her lover was implanted after her second sexual encounter with him. She decided not to tell him she knew. Figured he would tell her if she wanted her to know. Didn't reduce her enjoyment of the sex and she did not mention to me any distress over him keeping a secret from her. His choice, which she accepted. Not looking a gift horse in the mouth. That was her choice.

But keeping a secret usually puts a strain on a relationship. If you are intent on this being a long-term relationship, remember that trust is an element of happiness. Besides, she might enjoy participating in the pumping up process.

You mentioned having sex with other women, too. Does she know? Does she accept/approve?

She never knew that I injected and my implant is brand new. I am just beginning the learning phase of my new life pleasure.
No. She does not know and I am content with just her. She is always accommodating and enjoys sex as much as I do (well, maybe almost as much. I have a major libido) without any inhibitions.
However, sex is my fountain of youth and I need it to remain strong and young. If, for whatever reason, especially now that I have my new, always guaranteed and ready tool, she can not satisfy it, I have to find it elsewhere. Cold? Maybe so, but I am not a martyr. I was in a 46 year, sexless marriage up until 4 years ago and on a mission to make up for lost time while I still have some time. This is why I took the leap from injections to an implant. Injections did not allow me the abundance of sex I care to have and the spontaneity, certainty and ease of it no matter where I am.