anybody else notice this? Driving with my wife with

[Mark1974]

our penises are becoming weak and the women we lust will dream of other men

We all have our own experience and surround ourselves with people similar to who we are, but I've never met a woman that had to have a stiff penis inside her so bad that she'd wander off looking for that and flush an otherwise steady, trusting, honest, rewarding relationship.

The first thing you write is very true. I've probably surrounded myself with a lot people of questionable character (particularly when it comes to women), but I think the rest of this thought is a bit naive.

I believe I've read over 70% of divorces are initiated by women. I would be willing to bet the scenario you describe accounts for more than half of them

[Gt1956]

our penises are becoming weak and the women we lust will dream of other men

We all have our own experience and surround ourselves with people similar to who we are, but I've never met a woman that had to have a stiff penis inside her so bad that she'd wander off looking for that and flush an otherwise steady, trusting, honest, rewarding relationship.

The first thing you write is very true. I've probably surrounded myself with a lot people of questionable character (particularly when it comes to women), but I think the rest of this thought is a bit naive.
I believe I've read over 70% of divorces are initiated by women. I would be willing to bet the scenario you describe accounts for more than half of them

Having raised two girls. I can chime in on the reason for your claim of the 70%. The men in the dating pool just plain suck big time. My daughters out earned & out worked their now gone husbands. I do not know where we as a country went fucking wrong. My high school class has reunions on 10 year intervals. There is NO shortage of 45+ year marriages in the group. Even a few that are 50+. The class quit giving out the award for longest marriage because we always got it. We're at 51.7 years now.

My youngest daughter has stuck with a guy that can't even fuck. His PE is so bad he can't even get the second boob out of her bra.

You are jumping to a false conclusion the women are prone to straying. You bet your ass they'll leave a guy that can't find his way to a job consistently. Drinks excessively, likes his recreational drugs better than buying food.

Two women in my wifes extended family both divorced their husbands. The fuck heads had very decent looking wifes but they preferred minor children. They live in a big square room now. The wifes wandering eyes did not lead to straying. Those damn slutty children lured their husbands away.

Mark1974, if by chance you was born in 1974? Please tell us how long you've been married. If your wife divorced you? Would you care to relate your lifestyle to why they divorced you?

[ThailandBound]

Jage,

You’re thread, having started with a simple musing about a radio commercial, has evolved into a most interesting discussion ranging the sexuality of post menopausal women to the porn industry.

I’ve been all over the map with the women in my life.

From the lady who humiliated me to my (now ex) Brazilian wife who would buy cheap generic Cialis for me by the suitcase load in Brazil, to a swinger wife who was fascinated with the knowledge of my bionic capability who just had to try it for herself (she loved it), to my now girlfriend who teases me about my classic-pump squeak while she puts in the first few pumps….I’ve had them all.

I could so relate to the “Indian pharmacy” story. I did the same thing. Once they had my phone number they sold my number to other pharmacies and my phone would blow up from endless pharmacies with an Indian voice on the other end. Took forever until they dropped off.

My ED took its toll on my marriage. In addition to some other mental issues, my Brazilian became increasingly critical of my sexual inadequacy. Although she was in her late 50s, she had a remarkable body and a voracious sexual appetite. In swinger-world/lifestyle we had many great experiences, and she would consistently attract much younger men. In the end i suspect the contrast between these always ready and willing partners to dud me proved too irresistible to overcome.

While we were separated (2 years) i had my implant. She knew about it and tried for a time to reconcile. By then her neglect, humiliation, and disrespect had taken its toll on me and i wasn’t interested. During that time i met my Cambodian girl in Thailand. Her acceptance and love carried the day and now, with her and my bionic capabilities, i find myself in the most exciting of places mentally as i approach retirement next month.

[qcswral]

several years ago, I had a girlfriend with whom I would take Cialis or Viagra on the down low. She had no idea, and at that time the drugs were working well for me. At the time we were both 55. She had a voracious libido.

As every girlfriend I’ve ever had tends to do, one day while I was out, she started snooping around in my closet and found my stash. later, she confronted me full on about it. “What kind of man has to take this shit!?”.

Man. Talk about humiliation.

I told her “look. You see all those commercials on television for Cialis and Viagra? Well, take a look at the guys featured in the ads. every single one of those guys is younger than I am. welcome to the real world of what happens when a man ages“.

I guess she took it personal. As if I thought she was not “woman enough“.

What I wanted to tell her was “well then, there is no such thing as erectile dysfunction. There are only ugly women”.

But I didn’t say that.

Excuse me for what I'm about to write and I don't mean any disrespect, but this woman to me sounds awfully ignorant. AS we all know ED had nothing to do with a man's character, masculinity or his morals etc. It is simply a fact of life as one ages, some men more so than others and at earlier ages than others. Her statement about "what man needs to take this shit" makes me glad for one my GF does not harbor such feelings. I feel for you sir, that was extremely humiliating and would be a deal breaker for me. But to each is own...I wonder what she thinks about older women having to use lubricant as they get older. We know that women "drying up" down below is just a natural part of the life cycle in females..How did you come back from her saying that to you? And what right did she have to snoop around your place?...That's even more humiliating like you're some teenager and Mommy needs to poke around his/her room. Sorry, like I said I don't mean any disrespect I guess it sparked something in me reading your comment. All the best..

[Mark1974]

several years ago, I had a girlfriend with whom I would take Cialis or Viagra on the down low. She had no idea, and at that time the drugs were working well for me. At the time we were both 55. She had a voracious libido.

As every girlfriend I’ve ever had tends to do, one day while I was out, she started snooping around in my closet and found my stash. later, she confronted me full on about it. “What kind of man has to take this shit!?”.

Man. Talk about humiliation.

I told her “look. You see all those commercials on television for Cialis and Viagra? Well, take a look at the guys featured in the ads. every single one of those guys is younger than I am. welcome to the real world of what happens when a man ages“.

I guess she took it personal. As if I thought she was not “woman enough“.

What I wanted to tell her was “well then, there is no such thing as erectile dysfunction. There are only ugly women”.

But I didn’t say that.

Excuse me for what I'm about to write and I don't mean any disrespect, but this woman to me sounds awfully ignorant. AS we all know ED had nothing to do with a man's character, masculinity or his morals etc. It is simply a fact of life as one ages, some men more so than others and at earlier ages than others. Her statement about "what man needs to take this shit" makes me glad for one my GF does not harbor such feelings. I feel for you sir, that was extremely humiliating and would be a deal breaker for me. But to each is own...I wonder what she thinks about older women having to use lubricant as they get older. We know that women "drying up" down below is just a natural part of the life cycle in females..How did you come back from her saying that to you? And what right did she have to snoop around your place?...That's even more humiliating like you're some teenager and Mommy needs to poke around his/her room. Sorry, like I said I don't mean any disrespect I guess it sparked something in me reading your comment. All the best..

My understanding is there is a portion of women who become hyper-sexual the first decade after menopause and don't really start significantly dried out until well into their 60's
In fact the majority of women with persistant genital arousal are in this group.
I know this from my recent research into post-menopausal nymphomania
Also women getting HRT will be given testosterone which will stimulate their clitoris in ways they have never felt before

[ThailandBound]

Excuse me for what I'm about to write and I don't mean any disrespect, but this woman to me sounds awfully ignorant. AS we all know ED had nothing to do with a man's character, masculinity or his morals etc. It is simply a fact of life as one ages, some men more so than others and at earlier ages than others. Her statement about "what man needs to take this shit" makes me glad for one my GF does not harbor such feelings. I feel for you sir, that was extremely humiliating and would be a deal breaker for me. But to each is own...I wonder what she thinks about older women having to use lubricant as they get older. We know that women "drying up" down below is just a natural part of the life cycle in females..How did you come back from her saying that to you? And what right did she have to snoop around your place?...That's even more humiliating like you're some teenager and Mommy needs to poke around his/her room. Sorry, like I said I don't mean any disrespect I guess it sparked something in me reading your comment. All the best..

LOL. No disrespect taken. When you’re right you’re right!

For sure, she was gone soon thereafter.

[ThailandBound]

several years ago, I had a girlfriend with whom I would take Cialis or Viagra on the down low. She had no idea, and at that time the drugs were working well for me. At the time we were both 55. She had a voracious libido.

As every girlfriend I’ve ever had tends to do, one day while I was out, she started snooping around in my closet and found my stash. later, she confronted me full on about it. “What kind of man has to take this shit!?”.

Man. Talk about humiliation.

I told her “look. You see all those commercials on television for Cialis and Viagra? Well, take a look at the guys featured in the ads. every single one of those guys is younger than I am. welcome to the real world of what happens when a man ages“.

I guess she took it personal. As if I thought she was not “woman enough“.

What I wanted to tell her was “well then, there is no such thing as erectile dysfunction. There are only ugly women”.

But I didn’t say that.

Excuse me for what I'm about to write and I don't mean any disrespect, but this woman to me sounds awfully ignorant. AS we all know ED had nothing to do with a man's character, masculinity or his morals etc. It is simply a fact of life as one ages, some men more so than others and at earlier ages than others. Her statement about "what man needs to take this shit" makes me glad for one my GF does not harbor such feelings. I feel for you sir, that was extremely humiliating and would be a deal breaker for me. But to each is own...I wonder what she thinks about older women having to use lubricant as they get older. We know that women "drying up" down below is just a natural part of the life cycle in females..How did you come back from her saying that to you? And what right did she have to snoop around your place?...That's even more humiliating like you're some teenager and Mommy needs to poke around his/her room. Sorry, like I said I don't mean any disrespect I guess it sparked something in me reading your comment. All the best..

My understanding is there is a portion of women who become hyper-sexual the first decade after menopause and don't really start significantly dried out until well into their 60's
In fact the majority of women with persistant genital arousal are in this group.
I know this from my recent research into post-menopausal nymphomania
Also women getting HRT will be given testosterone which will stimulate their clitoris in ways they have never felt before

My Brazilian ex started taking HRT via pellets and, as you said, included a small dose of testosterone.

She already had a high libido but the pellets made her ravenous. She masturbated almost compulsively (not complaining) and her clitoris would engorge prominently.

I she just had not wigged out and become someone i no longer recognized over time. Sex was great. Daily life, not so much.

[SWorks17]

I would take Cialis or Viagra on the down low. She had no idea, and at that time the drugs were working well for me.

This was me. Looking back, the lengths I went to to hide that I was relying on a pill were laughable if they weren't so sad.

I NEVER wanted my wife to think it had anything to do with her, I knew in my heart and my head that she was as attractive and exciting as ever, the little guy just wouldn't respond accordingly. For literally 4-5 years I ordered counterfeit pills from a pharmacy in India, likely risking my life by taking these things made in a mud puddle somewhere with a dirty popsicle stick and toilet brush. But they worked, so I kept ordering and gulping them down. They had to call back to verify the order, so I'd put in my fax machine number (yea, that old) and stand by it to pick it up when it rang and confirm the order. I couldn't risk them calling the home landline or knowing my real cell number in case they called for some reason and she'd find out.

I would hide pills around my house so I could get to one nonchalantly without having to go the medicine cabinet or 'run downstairs to my office' for something when things looked like they were going the right way. We'd go to dinner and I'd worry about what to order, since the pills reacted to the kind of food I stuffed my belly with, or if I should eat much at all.

Sometimes I'd roll the dice and pop a pill when things were looking promising, only to have her change her mind or something come up that interfered with plans. Then I'd suffer through all the miserable side effects without a payoff, that would usually make me grumpy and not help matters.

I got to the point that I'd ask her what time in the evening she wanted to get busy, so I could plan the timing of the dosage. I'd tell her I wanted her to be able to watch a show or read her book to whenever SHE was ready rather than have me dictate the timing, so just give me a ballpark time when you think you'll be "available". When we'd go to a hotel, the first thing I'd do is fish out a couple of pills from my toiletry bag and hide them up high on the shower door frame, the bathroom mirror frame or the top of the armoire in the room. Nowhere she'd ever see, but easily reachable by me. I'm sure I've left some boner pills in rooms forgetting where I hid them when we arrived.

The best part was when the pills started to not work, she was extremely understanding (she's an RN) and told me that we could get help from the doctor, that there were medications available to address the issue. That's when I told her I'd been taking them for 5 years and now they're not working. She was completely surprised.....I had pulled it off! But I still couldn't reliably have PIV intercourse.

For a time, she played along and gave me a hand when I needed it and did everything she could to get me there. Having just gone through breast cancer, her libido was stifled so she wasn't missing much. We fumbled along for about a year trying to figure out what our sex life was going to be.

Then I found Dr. Clavell's videos on YouTube, I showed one of the surgeries to her and we laughed about how crazy it was to put inflatable tubes in your dick. Those guys must be complete horndogs to go through that just to get their dicks artificially stiff. I was glad I wasn't that hard up, seemed a bit pathetic really, guys doing all that just for sex.

Well, here we are, I've had mine for a year and love it. No more side effects, no more sneaking around, it's on demand 24/7. Now we wait for 2 more years until my wife can stop taking hormone blockers due to the breast cancer, she'll hopefully get her mojo back and we'll be off to the races. In the meantime, she's pretty amazing in terms of knowing what gets the job done, and although it's not as pleasurable as it was prior to the cancer, she's a great sport and takes one for the team as often as practical.

Not sure where all that came from, you get a medal if you read it all.

Read it all Jag

I had been retired from the Air Force for a few years when I started having ED issues at the age of 43. I did use Viagra at the beginning and thankfully it was free for retired veterans and active duty. I always wondered why the pharmacy techs would call them blue diamonds.
My wife knew that I was starting to have issues because I could usually get hard anytime but every once in a while, I just couldn’t get it up. I would take viagra and it would make my dick super hard but I disliked the side effects. At that period in my life I didn’t need it all the time. Then in my 50’s I needed it more but a lot of times, what I ate would cancel it out.
The late 50’s and early 60’s I couldn’t stay hard all the way through with viagra or cialis, it would go soft immediately after I came, so I started reaching down and holding the base of my dick so I could rub it against her clit to get her to climax.
Then I started having problems with my benign enlarged prostrate not being able to empty my bladder completely.
I made an appointment with my urologist and they wanted to do the Rezum procedure on me to reduce my prostrate. While I was there they talked to me about my erectile problems and they showed me the films about an implant.
They wanted to do the prostrate procedure first before doing the implant.
The prostrate procedure gave me total ED, nothing would work.
I had to wait until I healed from the prostrate procedure around two to three months.
I’m so glad I had the implant done, no more worrying if I could get it up. I think it helped our sex life a good bit, I started asking if we could have sex more often and we will also schedule it.
It’s been great, I would definitely do it again.

S-Works

[Time2Change]

the radio on it seemed that every station was playing erectile disfunction advertisements wall to wall, 24/7. I'd just sit there sort of uncomfortably and wish they'd just shut up. I have no idea what she was thinking, probably something along the lines of "I wonder if my Amazon delivery has shown up yet".

Now, post implant I don't mind those ads one bit, I hardly even hear them, and feel for the poor slobs still struggling with their shrinking dicks.

Makes car rides much more enjoyable than they used to be.

I hear you.

For me it was watching TV shows, like Sex in the City. I would sit there feeling humiliated during the sex scenes.

[SWorks17]

Jage,

You’re thread, having started with a simple musing about a radio commercial, has evolved into a most interesting discussion ranging the sexuality of post menopausal women to the porn industry.

I’ve been all over the map with the women in my life.

From the lady who humiliated me to my (now ex) Brazilian wife who would buy cheap generic Cialis for me by the suitcase load in Brazil, to a swinger wife who was fascinated with the knowledge of my bionic capability who just had to try it for herself (she loved it), to my now girlfriend who teases me about my classic-pump squeak while she puts in the first few pumps….I’ve had them all.

I could so relate to the “Indian pharmacy” story. I did the same thing. Once they had my phone number they sold my number to other pharmacies and my phone would blow up from endless pharmacies with an Indian voice on the other end. Took forever until they dropped off.

My ED took its toll on my marriage. In addition to some other mental issues, my Brazilian became increasingly critical of my sexual inadequacy. Although she was in her late 50s, she had a remarkable body and a voracious sexual appetite. In swinger-world/lifestyle we had many great experiences, and she would consistently attract much younger men. In the end i suspect the contrast between these always ready and willing partners to dud me proved too irresistible to overcome.

While we were separated (2 years) i had my implant. She knew about it and tried for a time to reconcile. By then her neglect, humiliation, and disrespect had taken its toll on me and i wasn’t interested. During that time i met my Cambodian girl in Thailand. Her acceptance and love carried the day and now, with her and my bionic capabilities, i find myself in the most exciting of places mentally as i approach retirement next month.

Thailandbound, I’d like to send you a PM about your experience with your ex’s hormone and testosterone replacement. If you don’t mind.


Thanks,
S-Works