Spousal support

[Peter MI]

I have an appointment scheduled for an implant 0n 1/25/24, and getting minimal to no support from my 17 year younger wife. Anyone had this type of an issue ? We have been married for 25 years, and up until 5 years ago, enjoyed a pretty good sex life. Increasing ED made sex impossible 3 years ago.
Peter

[Mark1974]

What kinds of things does she say?

[Rider1400]

No, just the opposite. My wife of 35 years at the time was extremely supportive.. she did however get tired of me non stop talking about it for months prior! lol. She was probably very suppose to have it done and over with!!
I would think you need to open up to her about how she feels about it and why she’s not showing support. After 3 years of severe ED your describing she’s maybe at a loss as to what to think.

[Phndoc]

I get no support from my wife of 42 years. All she will say is "Why?" Then she will say " I don't understand." She won't even let me discuss the implant with her.

[alans4570]

I have been with the same woman for 36 years. She knew that I had a problem and when I told her I wanted an implant, she knew it was important to me and I got her support. We live in Wisconsin and she helped me make reservations for the trip to Houston. When I had my surgery she was there and drove me back to the hotel. I got a great partner and lover.

[dg_moore]

My wife had no interest whatever in my plan to get an implant. She said it was strictly my decision, and if I wanted an implant I should go ahead and get one, but not to expect anything from her. As it turned out (see my sig) neither of us had any interest in the implant after I got it.

[oldbeek]

My wife was not excited about it. I did it for myself. After the prostatectomy I had ptsd. I wanted to kill the dr . He said I may need Cialis daily them ripped everything but my ass hole out. She enjoyed it after it was installed.

[dirtman1993]

I don't think wives understand the mental part of having a working erection. This is no different than a women having Breast Reconstruction after cancer. Most women want to feel Whole Again as many miss having a breast just as a man misses having an erection again.

Very sad women don't understand it is such a mental thing for men getting hard.

[Old Guy]

My wife was hesitant at first but fortunately supported me through the process. We got together for the sex 35+ years ago, and although it's had ups and downs we still enjoyed each other. Now 4+ years implanted we enjoy sex as much as before, just not as often due to getting older.

[Stayingstrong]

I believe that many wives and girlfriends may feel threatened by it, especially in situations where ED and no sex where present for a while.
I think they feel that you, wanting this implant, relates to you wanting sex in general while they are content in a sexless relationship.
I believe they may feel threatened by it in that it indicates that you are seeking sex and if they are not desiring it, you will and are VERY capable of finding it elsewhere.
Much the same as a wife who all of a sudden starts focusing on her appearance after a long time having not been concerned about it. Red flag that she is running astray or, at the very least, thinking about it.