Implant 3rd Anniversary: Happy with Implant? Yes. Happier Marriage? No.

[Rusty Dude]

My marriage has had a LOT of issues the last several years with my ED. She thought I had ED because she didn’t turn me on or that I wasn’t attracted to her anymore like Rider. She wasn't supportive of me getting the implant but after about a year came around and said do what you want but it won't fix our problems as they are much deeper than my ED. Our marriage is now better than it was 3 months ago before the IPP but we do still have some of the same issues, but it has improved. Tomorrow will be 41 years of marriage so I am not willing to give it up. She doesn't like the size reduction that has happened with the implant, prior to our relationship if it wasn't 7" then she wouldn't entertain it (I was never that big), and now I am about half of that.
I am hoping we make it through it.

I hope it will work out the best for you Finally Bionic!!!!

[Gt1956]

Not much I can offer you guys in the way of marital advice. I worked in a skillled blue collar field for 40+ years. I watched all sorts of marital problems. The ones where I felt the guy was an ass or guilty of something were easy for me to resolve in my mind. But sometimes the problems just didn't make sense. Sometimes a woman would stick with an ass. Sometimes a woman would dump a saint. I came to the conclusion that a woman headed for the exit frequently used a couple of common strategies.

#1 Constantly picking at a subject. Accusing him of an affair was an easy one. One that is almost impossible to disprove. Their answer would be that he is too sneaky to catch. My wifes niece used this one but it was a blessing in disguise for her husband. Big plus is that it creates alot of support from her friends & family.

#2 She has an affair or says shes having an affair. Throwing that out was generally pretty good at killing a marraige whether true or not. Strangely, when true the affair partner was usually a poor long term partner prospect. This made it easy to drop him after the divorce.

#3 I saw a few women that wouldn't leave a man that they should of left. So I kind of came to the decision that if a woman decides she wants out? It doesn't matter who you are or how you try to fix things. She is going to leave. If she wants to stay? She can be really tolerant of some shit.

I don't have the answers. Good luck to all of you.

[ThailandBound]

#1 Constantly picking at a subject. Accusing him of an affair was an easy one. One that is almost impossible to disprove. Their answer would be that he is too sneaky to catch. My wifes niece used this one but it was a blessing in disguise for her husband. Big plus is that it creates alot of support from her friends & family.

I don't have the answers. Good luck to all of you.

#1 was spot on in my case. I was routinely confronted with this. Never did cheat on her. Drove me nuts. What could i say? “No. I’m not”. Reply: “I KNOW you are”.

Became an echo chamber of dysfunction.

[FinallyBionic]

I am surprised to hear that there are similar experiences. I thought mine is unique. Wife being irrational in everything you talk about, nothing make sense, even a 6y old child would disagree with her.
Also constantly picking a subject is something is I am always experiencing. Before ED resulting from my Prostate removal, she was complaining about finances, then ED popped up and the finances got better, but the focus became on ED. I was thinking that when I got the implant we will be very happy, but now I knew that if she always tries to find something to complain.

[Gt1956]

#1 Constantly picking at a subject. Accusing him of an affair was an easy one. One that is almost impossible to disprove. Their answer would be that he is too sneaky to catch. My wifes niece used this one but it was a blessing in disguise for her husband. Big plus is that it creates alot of support from her friends & family.
I don't have the answers. Good luck to all of you.

#1 was spot on in my case. I was routinely confronted with this. Never did cheat on her. Drove me nuts. What could i say? “No. I’m not”. Reply: “I KNOW you are”.
Became an echo chamber of dysfunction.

It really is a perfect storm that you can't get refuge from. You can't prove a negative. It just means they haven't found the proof yet.

Btw, how is her life situation now?

[Mark1974]

Not much I can offer you guys in the way of marital advice. I worked in a skillled blue collar field for 40+ years. I watched all sorts of marital problems. The ones where I felt the guy was an ass or guilty of something were easy for me to resolve in my mind. But sometimes the problems just didn't make sense. Sometimes a woman would stick with an ass. Sometimes a woman would dump a saint. I came to the conclusion that a woman headed for the exit frequently used a couple of common strategies.

#1 Constantly picking at a subject. Accusing him of an affair was an easy one. One that is almost impossible to disprove. Their answer would be that he is too sneaky to catch. My wifes niece used this one but it was a blessing in disguise for her husband. Big plus is that it creates alot of support from her friends & family.

#2 She has an affair or says shes having an affair. Throwing that out was generally pretty good at killing a marraige whether true or not. Strangely, when true the affair partner was usually a poor long term partner prospect. This made it easy to drop him after the divorce.

#3 I saw a few women that wouldn't leave a man that they should of left. So I kind of came to the decision that if a woman decides she wants out? It doesn't matter who you are or how you try to fix things. She is going to leave. If she wants to stay? She can be really tolerant of some shit.

I don't have the answers. Good luck to all of you.

It comes down to sex and physical attraction. If a woman loses physical and sexual attraction and feels stuck with you she's going to find a reason to hate you

[ThailandBound]

It really is a perfect storm that you can't get refuge from. You can't prove a negative. It just means they haven't found the proof yet.

Btw, how is her life situation now?

At the moment, total chaos. Now divorced, but tying up loose ends. Before, it was a constant drumbeat of “you’re trying to control me!”. In fact, she had more freedom than most wives could imagine. She never worked while we were married. Spoiled, i tried to be a great provider and denied her very little.

She has a home now i built her on the coast of Brazil and a comfortable divorce settlement. Now, having to manage her own affairs in the US (she’s Brazilian), i imagine she’s beginning to understand the considerable security she enjoyed under my wing. Something i never resented.

But the neglect, disrespect, and humiliation took its toll.

My Cambodian girlfriend is a breath of fresh air. Humble. Respectful. Kind. Profusely grateful for the smallest gestures. Wildcat in bed.

[Gt1956]

Not much I can offer you guys in the way of marital advice. I worked in a skillled blue collar field for 40+ years. I watched all sorts of marital problems. The ones where I felt the guy was an ass or guilty of something were easy for me to resolve in my mind. But sometimes the problems just didn't make sense. Sometimes a woman would stick with an ass. Sometimes a woman would dump a saint. I came to the conclusion that a woman headed for the exit frequently used a couple of common strategies.
#1 Constantly picking at a subject. Accusing him of an affair was an easy one. One that is almost impossible to disprove. Their answer would be that he is too sneaky to catch. My wifes niece used this one but it was a blessing in disguise for her husband. Big plus is that it creates alot of support from her friends & family.
#2 She has an affair or says shes having an affair. Throwing that out was generally pretty good at killing a marraige whether true or not. Strangely, when true the affair partner was usually a poor long term partner prospect. This made it easy to drop him after the divorce.
#3 I saw a few women that wouldn't leave a man that they should of left. So I kind of came to the decision that if a woman decides she wants out? It doesn't matter who you are or how you try to fix things. She is going to leave. If she wants to stay? She can be really tolerant of some shit.
I don't have the answers. Good luck to all of you.

It comes down to sex and physical attraction. If a woman loses physical and sexual attraction and feels stuck with you she's going to find a reason to hate you

Mark1974, you have a simple view on relationships. Choosing a partner can involve complex choices. Amongst my brothers & uncles. There has been NO divorces. All have exceeded 50 years of marriage each. Am I to presume that all the women met your simple view of women? My last brother is over 60 years of marriage. Where as his wife's younger sister is on marriage #4.

"But choose wisely, for while the true Grail will bring you life, the false Grail will take it from you. Indiana Jones" : [Selecting the plainest cup in the Grail Chamber] .....

[Mark1974]

Not much I can offer you guys in the way of marital advice. I worked in a skillled blue collar field for 40+ years. I watched all sorts of marital problems. The ones where I felt the guy was an ass or guilty of something were easy for me to resolve in my mind. But sometimes the problems just didn't make sense. Sometimes a woman would stick with an ass. Sometimes a woman would dump a saint. I came to the conclusion that a woman headed for the exit frequently used a couple of common strategies.
#1 Constantly picking at a subject. Accusing him of an affair was an easy one. One that is almost impossible to disprove. Their answer would be that he is too sneaky to catch. My wifes niece used this one but it was a blessing in disguise for her husband. Big plus is that it creates alot of support from her friends & family.
#2 She has an affair or says shes having an affair. Throwing that out was generally pretty good at killing a marraige whether true or not. Strangely, when true the affair partner was usually a poor long term partner prospect. This made it easy to drop him after the divorce.
#3 I saw a few women that wouldn't leave a man that they should of left. So I kind of came to the decision that if a woman decides she wants out? It doesn't matter who you are or how you try to fix things. She is going to leave. If she wants to stay? She can be really tolerant of some shit.
I don't have the answers. Good luck to all of you.

It comes down to sex and physical attraction. If a woman loses physical and sexual attraction and feels stuck with you she's going to find a reason to hate you

Mark1974, you have a simple view on relationships. Choosing a partner can involve complex choices. Amongst my brothers & uncles. There has been NO divorces. All have exceeded 50 years of marriage each. Am I to presume that all the women met your simple view of women? My last brother is over 60 years of marriage. Where as his wife's younger sister is on marriage #4.

"But choose wisely, for while the true Grail will bring you life, the false Grail will take it from you. Indiana Jones" : [Selecting the plainest cup in the Grail Chamber] .....

I suppose you are right

I just have a weakness for sexy, cruel women

[Alex258]

It really is a perfect storm that you can't get refuge from. You can't prove a negative. It just means they haven't found the proof yet.

Btw, how is her life situation now?

At the moment, total chaos. Now divorced, but tying up loose ends. Before, it was a constant drumbeat of “you’re trying to control me!”. In fact, she had more freedom than most wives could imagine. She never worked while we were married. Spoiled, i tried to be a great provider and denied her very little.

She has a home now i built her on the coast of Brazil and a comfortable divorce settlement. Now, having to manage her own affairs in the US (she’s Brazilian), i imagine she’s beginning to understand the considerable security she enjoyed under my wing. Something i never resented.

But the neglect, disrespect, and humiliation took its toll.

My Cambodian girlfriend is a breath of fresh air. Humble. Respectful. Kind. Profusely grateful for the smallest gestures. Wildcat in bed.

Thai......you always inspire me :O