Implant 3rd Anniversary: Happy with Implant? Yes. Happier Marriage? No.

[Mark1974]

I don't want to a throw a bomb here, because I like a lot of you guys. You seem like great guys and we are all in this tough situation together

But don't you feel a little weird about going to the third world looking for companionship?

By the way I am not judging. I have a crush on a cam girl

She's 59 and tells me she finds me unattractive and demeans my ED and my aspirations to get an implant..which only makes me like her more.

I do private sessions with her where I watch her masturbate while she watches hung young men

She's in Estonia which may or not be the third world....loneliness makes us do crazy things

Lo

[ThailandBound]

I don't want to a throw a bomb here, because I like a lot of you guys. You seem like great guys and we are all in this tough situation together

But don't you feel a little weird about going to the third world looking for companionship?

By the way I am not judging. I have a crush on a cam girl

She's 59 and tells me she finds me unattractive and demeans my ED and my aspirations to get an implant..which only makes me like her more.

I do private sessions with her where I watch her masturbate while she watches hung young men

She's in Estonia which may or not be the third world....loneliness makes us do crazy things

Lo

I’m not going to a third world country. I’m moving to Thailand, a developing nation with world class medical care, beautiful islands, any modern amenity you can think of. Third world is sub-Saharan Africa. Big difference.

And no, i didn’t need to “go there” to “find” a lady. I’ve been married to 2 in the US and dated plenty. Could do it in a heartbeat again if i wanted to. I think i detect a stereotype. Lonely? Hardly.

Big world out there for the open minded.

[FinallyBionic]

I don't want to a throw a bomb here, because I like a lot of you guys. You seem like great guys and we are all in this tough situation together

But don't you feel a little weird about going to the third world looking for companionship?

Lo

You can choose who to date or have a short-term relationship, but when it comes to marriage and love, you never know who your soulmate will be and where she is coming from. Life decides that for everyone. Not only this, some men like a certain style of women, eg skinny or blond, when they end up marrying a woman who is way different than these selection criteria.

[Bigdave]

#1 Constantly picking at a subject. Accusing him of an affair was an easy one. One that is almost impossible to disprove. Their answer would be that he is too sneaky to catch. My wifes niece used this one but it was a blessing in disguise for her husband. Big plus is that it creates alot of support from her friends & family.

I don't have the answers. Good luck to all of you.

#1 was spot on in my case. I was routinely confronted with this. Never did cheat on her. Drove me nuts. What could i say? “No. I’m not”. Reply: “I KNOW you are”.

Became an echo chamber of dysfunction.

Do women not realize that shit like that will DRIVE men to cheat???
If I'm going to be accused of it anyway, might as well have some fun.

[Gt1956]

#1 Constantly picking at a subject. Accusing him of an affair was an easy one. One that is almost impossible to disprove. Their answer would be that he is too sneaky to catch. My wifes niece used this one but it was a blessing in disguise for her husband. Big plus is that it creates alot of support from her friends & family.
I don't have the answers. Good luck to all of you.

#1 was spot on in my case. I was routinely confronted with this. Never did cheat on her. Drove me nuts. What could i say? “No. I’m not”. Reply: “I KNOW you are”.
Became an echo chamber of dysfunction.

Do women not realize that shit like that will DRIVE men to cheat???
If I'm going to be accused of it anyway, might as well have some fun.

I understand your point of view. But consider that the cost to exit that crazy shit marraige will be higher if there is PROOF that you cheated. Choose your path wisely.

[ThailandBound]

#1 was spot on in my case. I was routinely confronted with this. Never did cheat on her. Drove me nuts. What could i say? “No. I’m not”. Reply: “I KNOW you are”.
Became an echo chamber of dysfunction.

Do women not realize that shit like that will DRIVE men to cheat???
If I'm going to be accused of it anyway, might as well have some fun.

I understand your point of view. But consider that the cost to exit that crazy shit marraige will be higher if there is PROOF that you cheated. Choose your path wisely.

I think every state now recognizes no-fault divorce. The reasons, including infidelity, are not considerations in what the settlement will be. The laws of the state and factors such as a prenup will dictate the terms, not the fact he or she cheated. “He/she cheated and needs to be punished economically for that reason” isn’t really a thing anymore.

Caveat. I’m not a lawyer. ymmv.

[Gt1956]

Do women not realize that shit like that will DRIVE men to cheat???
If I'm going to be accused of it anyway, might as well have some fun.

I understand your point of view. But consider that the cost to exit that crazy shit marraige will be higher if there is PROOF that you cheated. Choose your path wisely.

I think every state now recognizes no-fault divorce. The reasons, including infidelity, are not considerations in what the settlement will be. The laws of the state and factors such as a prenup will dictate the terms, not the fact he or she cheated. “He/she cheated and needs to be punished economically for that reason” isn’t really a thing anymore.
Caveat. I’m not a lawyer. ymmv.

I understand your point of view but reality seems to disagree with you. A proveable claim of infidelity can at the very least drag out a divorce. Attorneys are paid by the hour. How long can you afford to argue vs accepting a shitty award. You see this in big divorce cases all the times. The very fact that cases get dragged out in length proves the strategy works.

You're confusing the granting of a divorce with the final cost of the divorce.

I was involved in a property line case. The other party had an obviously flawed property survey. Even the Judge said that from his days of practiceing private law that frequent errors were found in that area. I ended up winning but 3 years of arguing cost me a lot of $$$. Btw, all the attorneys got paid what they billed.

[ThailandBound]

I understand your point of view. But consider that the cost to exit that crazy shit marraige will be higher if there is PROOF that you cheated. Choose your path wisely.

I think every state now recognizes no-fault divorce. The reasons, including infidelity, are not considerations in what the settlement will be. The laws of the state and factors such as a prenup will dictate the terms, not the fact he or she cheated. “He/she cheated and needs to be punished economically for that reason” isn’t really a thing anymore.
Caveat. I’m not a lawyer. ymmv.

I understand your point of view but reality seems to disagree with you. A proveable claim of infidelity can at the very least drag out a divorce. Attorneys are paid by the hour. How long can you afford to argue vs accepting a shitty award. You see this in big divorce cases all the times. The very fact that cases get dragged out in length proves the strategy works.

You're confusing the granting of a divorce with the final cost of the divorce.

I was involved in a property line case. The other party had an obviously flawed property survey. Even the Judge said that from his days of practiceing private law that frequent errors were found in that area. I ended up winning but 3 years of arguing cost me a lot of $$$. Btw, all the attorneys got paid what they billed.

I hear ya. Litigating is expensive. My prenup cost me $50 grand above the agreed-to figure because the ex’es lawyer threatened to fight to have it cancelled. She would have lost, but i’d still be out 50 grand in legal fees and a dragged-on divorce. I sucked up the 50K and said be done with it.

[Musson]

For reasons too complicated to get into here divorce is not an option for me. I have found periodic visits to massage parlors the best outlet for me.

[Lost Sheep]

For all the quasi-law observations posted here, I add this observation of my own.

A couple years ago I discovered that our courts system is not a system of justice but actually a system of law and order. While justice is often the outcome of the court system, its main goal is to maintain order according to law. Main focus is to prevent justice being carried out "in the streets" in a disorderly (and probably bloody) fashion.

And now, back to our regularly scheduled programming (thread subject).