What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

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Stupid
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What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby Stupid » Mon Feb 19, 2024 6:10 am

This is question for older guys I assume. Facts are. 1 over 65 2 she doesn't know 3. Happily married 4 she always gets satisfied all good but sometimes she says "you have done it enough for your age.: " usually when she is not in the mood..I'm one year post op and lately have had more time than usual so I've been hitting it pretty good. Being able to hold it until she can't is so dam good for my ego I might be trying to overuse it and know her stop sign might light up and am looking for creative things to say. Assume #2 won't change any ideas on what you would say? Ams 18+4. Usc doctor loh Boyle and Dr Boyd are the best!!
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Re: What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby Old Guy » Mon Feb 19, 2024 9:02 am

Too old? Age is just a number. As long as you're in good health there is no reason the avoid sex. Ask her if she feels good from the act. Does she have an orgasm? It's the intimate time you get to spend together.
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Re: What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby sogwap » Mon Feb 19, 2024 1:35 pm

Stupid wrote:This is question for older guys I assume. Facts are. 1 over 65 2 she doesn't know 3. Happily married 4 she always gets satisfied all good but sometimes she says "you have done it enough for your age.: " usually when she is not in the mood..I'm one year post op and lately have had more time than usual so I've been hitting it pretty good. Being able to hold it until she can't is so dam good for my ego I might be trying to overuse it and know her stop sign might light up and am looking for creative things to say. Assume #2 won't change any ideas on what you would say? Ams 18+4. Usc doctor loh Boyle and Dr Boyd are the best!!

I got to ask, Are you saying you are married and She doesn't know?
How did you get an implant and she doesn't know.

Like it's been said age is just a number.

I would say if you want sex more than once a day. That may be a bit too much.
There is a thing called the refractory period. And it applies to both men and women.
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Used Viagra for 10+ years with mixed success.
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Re: What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby Lost Sheep » Mon Feb 19, 2024 5:12 pm

Stupid wrote:This is question for older guys I assume. Facts are. 1 over 65 2 she doesn't know 3. Happily married 4 she always gets satisfied all good but sometimes she says "you have done it enough for your age.: " usually when she is not in the mood..I'm one year post op and lately have had more time than usual so I've been hitting it pretty good. Being able to hold it until she can't is so dam good for my ego I might be trying to overuse it and know her stop sign might light up and am looking for creative things to say. Assume #2 won't change any ideas on what you would say? Ams 18+4. Usc doctor loh Boyle and Dr Boyd are the best!!

#1 I accept but I wonder how old is she?
#2 Maybe she does know, maybe she doesn't. I expect it is irrelevant but for the fact that there is a divide in knowledge between you. which bears on #3
#3 Happily married with a secret between you? Either the fact of your implant or the real reason she opines that you two are having more sex than appropriate. Or, is she really satisfied every time? Women have been known to fake it for the sake of their relationship.
#4 How do you know?
#5 How do you know when she is in the mood vs just going along with your desire? Does she ever initiate? Do you engage in foreplay? How about what I will call pre-foreplay? Women like to be wooed and some women require more of a ramp-up than others. Essentially, are you laying sufficient groundwork. (If you don't prep and sand a piece of wood properly your final paint job will not look good no matter how well you use your brush.)

Creative things to say? How about creative ways to LISTEN.

I am no marriage counselor (and often no expert at listening), but examine your relationship, how the dynamics between you work on all activities, not just intimacy. About intimacy, are there other intimacies you share that DON'T involve sex? Brushing her hair? Massaging her back (or feet - WAY sensual for many women whose feet have been abused by their fashionable shoes). Try this..rub her shoulders while she is washing dishes and DON'T initiate anything sexual. Instead, help dry the dishes and put them away. Drop any hint of sexuality and just LISTEN to how she reacts.

You might take your questions to a professional marriage/relationships counselor. In this case, maybe solo for the first visit. In-person reflection from a trained pro might be more informative than advice by text from us here. Although many men have been in the same situation as you, we may miss the nuances because of the limitations of the venue.
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Re: What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby Txagq8 » Mon Feb 19, 2024 6:44 pm

Let’s see….”you’ve done it enough for your age…..”

How do you respond to that?

1. Cancel next beauty shop appointment. “You’ve had your hair done enough for a woman your age.”

2. Nail/manicurist appointment? Same response. Just start biting them. You’ve had your nails done enough for someone your age.

3. Wants to go shopping with the girls? I’m sorry, but you’ve bought enough clothes for a woman your age.

Anyone taking my advice agrees to indemnify and hold me harmless for any and all reaction their female partner/spouse may take. I assume no liability. I’m just suggesting that sometimes you have to think strategically but act tactically.
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Re: What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby Stupid » Tue Feb 20, 2024 4:05 am

I'll try your concept. Thanks. She is 63 and lean mean and smart. It probably won't work but consider it in play. Thanks again
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Re: What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby Gt1956 » Tue Feb 20, 2024 3:18 pm

Txagq8 has a good strategy. Since we have a condo in Las Vegas. There were times when I had to slow down her gambling. She'd reply that "I don't gamble as much as you think". I knew better. One night I was watching a video while we were laying in bed. This video did include nude women. She said you watch that too much. I replied "I don't watch it as much as you think".
Strangely enough, she dropped that phrase for her complaining. Give it a try. She has learned a catch phrase that is working to beat you up. Don't argue, just use that phrase back at her. As long as it works, she'll use it. Think about the old parable of the shoe on the other foot.
When we had teenagers at home. We did something similar when they would show up with some stupid teenager stunt or saying. We would start doing the same shit. It was amazing at how fast they stopped doing it once they saw their parents doing it. It wasn't cool anymore.
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Re: What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby BelleBite » Wed Feb 21, 2024 5:40 pm

I call BULLSHIT! You're 65?
I'm 73 and I sure as hell haven't done it enough for my age! :D
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Re: What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby ThailandBound » Wed Feb 21, 2024 7:16 pm

BelleBite wrote:I call BULLSHIT! You're 65?
I'm 73 and I sure as hell haven't done it enough for my age! :D


Right you are! I’m 64. Implanted 1 year & my sex life is just getting started! (again!). My girl and I go at it at least everyday, and sometimes twice a day!

Helps that she’s 32 probably.
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Re: What to tell her if she says wait too much you're old

Postby Stupid » Thu Feb 22, 2024 3:00 am

I'm 68 she was born in 1963. Thanks guys for the support. I will keep working any suggested angles.
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