Recently married, new wife hates the implant

[LastHope]

Ive been single for around 12 years. Ive had ED all that time and was finally implanted around a year and a half ago. I lost 2 full inches and around an inch and a half in girth.
Those two inches were important in maneuvering during sex and trying different positions. Im now 6 inches on my best day, head fully engorged with viagra.
My new wife was widowed for 15 years and was celibate. We tried sex initially and it didnt go well, because my fupa makes it difficult and im not long enough to overcome that. The next session we tried lube and i was able to penetrate, but she said it hurt. We tried a couple of more times after that, with lube, and she said it hurt and had a burning sensation.
I was ready for another session a couple of days ago and she said it’s difficult because the implant hurts me. I am engorged and standing up and you cant feel the tips protruding in that position.
I am very concerned about this because if it hurts, its going to he a big problem moving forward. I should also say that she told me upfront that she doesn't like sex, but she wants to make me happy.

Does this sound like an excuse? Has anyone had complaints about the head/tips causing pain during penetration?

Going to give you some solid real advice. If sex is something that you enjoy and she'd doesn't there's a conversation that needs to happen and probably should have happened before marriage, this is why in 2024 saving yourself for marriage is not ideal. First she needs to be completely honest. Sex could be actually discomforting for her or she's making an excuse to not do it. If ya'll are otherwise happy, then I would suggest that you seriously discuss you being able to fulfill your sexual needs elsewhere while maintaining a healthy marriage. This is possible but there needs to be a discussion, she needs to decide if she wants to accept that and you need to decide if sex is a big enough deal that you may consider divorce. My old neighbor was middle-aged and his wife was completely fine with him satisfying his needs elsewhere and I specifically heard her say one time that it was completely fine that way she didn't have to do it. So there's no right or wrong answer here, this is something that needs to get resolved between the two of you.

Love this!

[ED2013]

I have not posted here for a while. My wife and I were having sex once a week in Saturday nights. Once she figured out that I expected that each week she announced that she has Lost her Libido and no longer desired sex.
I was devastated. She liked the implant just fine and did not complain of any pain or discomfort.
She basically no longer wanted sex
So I decided I had gone through too much. So I am divorcing her and have found a younger woman that is very sexual and wants it every morning and every night before sleeping. She also is very wealthy. So my financial situation is now excellent and in the end this was the Best for me
Ending a 50 year sexless marriage has worked out for me
Bill

Happy to hear it! Enjoy !!!!

[FinallyBionic]

I have not posted here for a while. My wife and I were having sex once a week in Saturday nights. Once she figured out that I expected that each week she announced that she has Lost her Libido and no longer desired sex.
I was devastated. She liked the implant just fine and did not complain of any pain or discomfort.
She basically no longer wanted sex
So I decided I had gone through too much. So I am divorcing her and have found a younger woman that is very sexual and wants it every morning and every night before sleeping. She also is very wealthy. So my financial situation is now excellent and in the end this was the Best for me
Ending a 50 year sexless marriage has worked out for me
Bill

Twice a day? Amazing . Even in my twenties, if I did it twice or more a day, I would not be in a mood to have sex for one or two days.

[FinallyBionic]

Ive been single for around 12 years. Ive had ED all that time and was finally implanted around a year and a half ago. I lost 2 full inches and around an inch and a half in girth.
Those two inches were important in maneuvering during sex and trying different positions. Im now 6 inches on my best day, head fully engorged with viagra.
My new wife was widowed for 15 years and was celibate. We tried sex initially and it didnt go well, because my fupa makes it difficult and im not long enough to overcome that. The next session we tried lube and i was able to penetrate, but she said it hurt. We tried a couple of more times after that, with lube, and she said it hurt and had a burning sensation.
I was ready for another session a couple of days ago and she said it’s difficult because the implant hurts me. I am engorged and standing up and you cant feel the tips protruding in that position.
I am very concerned about this because if it hurts, its going to he a big problem moving forward. I should also say that she told me upfront that she doesn't like sex, but she wants to make me happy.

Does this sound like an excuse? Has anyone had complaints about the head/tips causing pain during penetration?

Sorry to hear about the issues you are having with your new marriage. Sex is way different when having it with a woman who loves it and one who does it only to make you happy. This one will just be waiting for you to finish.
With a working penis after suffering years of ED we need partners who are really into it.
However, she was clear that she doesn't like sex, but it is hard to know what this exactly means. Mostly, I would think that she is going to love sex with the implant, and she is the one who will be wanting it more. Unfortunately, this is not the case here. You need talk to her openly about it before you make a decision on how to move on with your marriage.

[easymoney]

Amen ...you fight ED for years make the leap to an implant just to be told " I told u not to get an implant for me" .. there seems to be no winning in the ED battle in the end ..

[FinallyBionic]

Amen ...you fight ED for years make the leap to an implant just to be told " I told u not to get an implant for me" .. there seems to be no winning in the ED battle in the end ..

True.

[Bigdog4all]

Amen ...you fight ED for years make the leap to an implant just to be told " I told u not to get an implant for me" .. there seems to be no winning in the ED battle in the end ..

This was one thing we (Wife, self, & URO discussed in detail). It is very important that ALL involved have a mutual understanding and a clear understanding of what's to expect. My URO didn't want to proceed until we all were on the same page. Sex is no good with only one involved and can be very straining on a marriage. Just like ED can cause marital problems, being a NEW freak or horny bastard can also cause marital problems.

[Gt1956]

I have not posted here for a while. My wife and I were having sex once a week in Saturday nights. Once she figured out that I expected that each week she announced that she has Lost her Libido and no longer desired sex.
I was devastated. She liked the implant just fine and did not complain of any pain or discomfort.
She basically no longer wanted sex
So I decided I had gone through too much. So I am divorcing her and have found a younger woman that is very sexual and wants it every morning and every night before sleeping. She also is very wealthy. So my financial situation is now excellent and in the end this was the Best for me
Ending a 50 year sexless marriage has worked out for me
Bill

Twice a day? Amazing . Even in my twenties, if I did it twice or more a day, I would not be in a mood to have sex for one or two days.

Twice a day is an interesting hurdle to jump. During the 2 years of dating my wife. She insisted on twice a day. Easy to arrainge back then. Before school & after. Weekends were harder to do. That thing called parents was in the way. Still usually managed once or twice over the weekend but they were quickies snuck in. Later after we married. We could hit three a day but I just couldn't string very many days together at that rate. An eager & receptive mate is wonderful. I can honestly say she ever said no & stuck to that decision. Some hugging & kissing was all it took to change the answer if I wanted to change it. Enjoy your youth.

She said years later that getting her to orgasm then progressing to multiples early in our relationship sealed her fate. She couldn't get away.

Pro tip. Put a lot of study into learning that if at all possible.

[Totitoti]

Man I am single (divorced twice), i have had my implant for less than 2 years I have used it on 6 different women, 2 of them new me before implant, i got no complaints from them, the other 4 love it and don’t even know i have it, it does feel different, i did loose some girth, I don’t inflate to 100% for sex only for cycling.

So i think thats just an excuse, and let me ask you why would you put yourself in that marriage to begin with, obviously you got an implant to have sex so if you can’t turn around that situation quick move on, life is short to try to be fixing people and to have lousy sex (if shes going to have sex just to please you that’s all you are going to get LOUSY sex). So ask yourself why would you put yourself through that.

Good luck

[Witheringhog]

Man I am single (divorced twice), i have had my implant for less than 2 years I have used it on 6 different women, 2 of them new me before implant, i got no complaints from them, the other 4 love it and don’t even know i have it, it does feel different, i did loose some girth, I don’t inflate to 100% for sex only for cycling.

So i think thats just an excuse, and let me ask you why would you put yourself in that marriage to begin with, obviously you got an implant to have sex so if you can’t turn around that situation quick move on, life is short to try to be fixing people and to have lousy sex (if shes going to have sex just to please you that’s all you are going to get LOUSY sex). So ask yourself why would you put yourself through that.

Good luck

Totally agree with this. You cant make your partner like sex, i have spent 29 years trying and my wife gives me pity sex at least half of the time. Once the kids are out of the house in 3 years i will be moving on. I get sex about 4x a week unless you average in period week…. I would much rather have sex twice a week with someone who is excited to see me and is a giver, so tired of the taker mentality.