Porn as a standby
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Porn as a standby
I have discussed before about the use of porn after prostactomey. What I can't figure out is why the heck can porn give me a useable erection but being intimate with my wife does not. I have used ( and still do) the "pump" and tried injections which were too painful and caused curvature. As I have stated before I have mixed feelings about the use of porn but I keep being drawn to it because it does seem to work for me. Is it because of the surgery that some of us are "wired" differently now? I was going to discuss this with my urologist who is female but I must admit I feel hesitant about discussing the use of porn with her. Are there others in the same boat as mer?
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I am finding the same situation works for me. (porn yes- intimacy no)
I feel we have to do what works for us.
I feel we have to do what works for us.
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I cant comment on the porn as I try to stay away from it. I have never masturbated to porn and will NEVER masturbate to porn.
But I do know that in my solo efforts (mostly edging), just me and my cock, yield better erections than erections trying to make love to my wife.
I can stimulate all my erogenous zones while I stroke, and I know just how to stimulate my cock for maximum effect. With an unreliable dick, in solo work I am pleasing no one else than myself, and I dont have the emotional layer of getting it up, trying to be strong enough for penetration, trying to not go soft for her sake and the overriding specter of the disapointment for her and me if I should not be able to keep it up and bring her to orgasm.
Solo, I only have one person to please.
Just my two cents.
But I do know that in my solo efforts (mostly edging), just me and my cock, yield better erections than erections trying to make love to my wife.
I can stimulate all my erogenous zones while I stroke, and I know just how to stimulate my cock for maximum effect. With an unreliable dick, in solo work I am pleasing no one else than myself, and I dont have the emotional layer of getting it up, trying to be strong enough for penetration, trying to not go soft for her sake and the overriding specter of the disapointment for her and me if I should not be able to keep it up and bring her to orgasm.
Solo, I only have one person to please.
Just my two cents.
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that is because when you are having sex with you are epected to perform ,and when we jackoff there is no pressure on us we can and do take all the time we need.
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Hi Small amouts of porn will never hurt any guy or women, its a great way of lifting up your libido, the big problem with guys is just sitting there, with your dick in one hand and tissues in the other just jacking off to it, then your in big trouble leading to ED.
If you just use the images as libido boosters your OK, hold them in your brain, works for me.
Hope this helps you guys
NOWHARD
PS Try Xhamster you get a real good mix, even for us mature guys, there is mature sex, what else do you want.
Try this as a lead in, http://xhamster.com/movies/1413375/germ ... video.html This I do not class as porn, sexy but not porn.
If you just use the images as libido boosters your OK, hold them in your brain, works for me.
Hope this helps you guys
NOWHARD
PS Try Xhamster you get a real good mix, even for us mature guys, there is mature sex, what else do you want.
Try this as a lead in, http://xhamster.com/movies/1413375/germ ... video.html This I do not class as porn, sexy but not porn.
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Hi,
It is very hard to keep porn watching to low amounts. Even small amounts will lead to lower libido when it comes to real sex. I think small amount of porn will eventually lead to porn addiction and ED. There have been cases of men watching very small amount of porn and still ended up with ED. Watching porn is a very risky business,
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ya67aLaaCc
It is very hard to keep porn watching to low amounts. Even small amounts will lead to lower libido when it comes to real sex. I think small amount of porn will eventually lead to porn addiction and ED. There have been cases of men watching very small amount of porn and still ended up with ED. Watching porn is a very risky business,
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ya67aLaaCc
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I have the same issue, and have sworn off porn. It desensitizes you so that you can't get aroused enough with a real partner. It can cause either grossly delayed ejaculation, or no ejaculation at all.
There are times now when I even have trouble ejaculating while masturbating. I blame porn.
There are times now when I even have trouble ejaculating while masturbating. I blame porn.
ED since using SSRI antidepressants. Unable to maintain erection sufficient for penetration. Tried PDE5's, VED, injections. AMS 700 CX implanted 8/1/2022, penoscrotal by Dr. McVary, Loyola medical center. 15cm + 1.5 and 1.0 RTE's. 65 ml reservoir.
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cwatt1 wrote:I have the same issue, and have sworn off porn. It desensitizes you so that you can't get aroused enough with a real partner. It can cause either grossly delayed ejaculation, or no ejaculation at all.
There are times now when I even have trouble ejaculating while masturbating. I blame porn.
Hi CW, If that's your case then you have been masturbating to porn far to much, perhaps even on a daily basis, and far to much, it will get you in the end, and could switch of your sexual receptors for good, do that and that's it and nothing will get you up a running again, its a life of no erections.
NOWHARD
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hardernharder wrote:Hi,
It is very hard to keep porn watching to low amounts. Even small amounts will lead to lower libido when it comes to real sex. I think small amount of porn will eventually lead to porn addiction and ED. There have been cases of men watching very small amount of porn and still ended up with ED. Watching porn is a very risky business,
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Ya67aLaaCc
Hi HH, You say its impossible to only watch small amounts? whys that then? you have a problem finding the off button?
Just remember small amounts of porn is a great libido lifter for any man or woman, that's if you like it, if your totally against it, then never watch it.
Its that simple.
NOWHARD
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