making her man hard -- wife's perspective

[ED2013]

It takes guts to have implant surgery.
That in itself should remind your wife of how you feel about her sex appeal.

[Lost Sheep]

Who cares? This is about you having a good time, not anyone else. She will like it if you do. If not, then that's her problem. You guys are way too worried about what women will think of you sometimes.

It takes guts to have implant surgery.
That in itself should remind your wife of how you feel about her sex appeal.

Putting those two thoughts together, I think, suggests one possible reason for the original question.

Women through time (in most cultures) are conditioned to be insecure about their sex appeal.

If those thoughts do not germinate in the soil of your brain, don't waste any more time on it. You will never understand.

[Tybeeman]

It takes guts to have implant surgery.
That in itself should remind your wife of how you feel about her sex appeal.

AMEN TO THAT

[JayGould]

Putting those two thoughts together, I think, suggests one possible reason for the original question.

Women through time (in most cultures) are conditioned to be insecure about their sex appeal.

If those thoughts do not germinate in the soil of your brain, don't waste any more time on it. You will never understand.

So you remind her that she couldn't have gotten your dick hard anyway, because it doesn't work. "Now hunny, I have bigger problems than your insecurities. My dick doesn't work!" I think it's pretty inconsiderate for a wife to tell her husband that she doesn't like the fact that she can't get him hard. Well no shit, nobody can! No need to put salt in the wounds.

[Tybeeman]

Putting those two thoughts together, I think, suggests one possible reason for the original question.

Women through time (in most cultures) are conditioned to be insecure about their sex appeal.

If those thoughts do not germinate in the soil of your brain, don't waste any more time on it. You will never understand.

So you remind her that she couldn't have gotten your dick hard anyway, because it doesn't work. "Now hunny, I have bigger problems than your insecurities. My dick doesn't work!" I think it's pretty inconsiderate for a wife to tell her husband that she doesn't like the fact that she can't get him hard. Well no shit, nobody can! No need to put salt in the wounds.

Damn! JayGould you OK?

[Smetro]

Perhaps some quality couples counselling wouldn't hurt in this instance. It could help to see the issue from your wife's perspective and that may show her how concerned you are for her feelings, after all you have taken care of the mechanical issue now assist her to deal with the emotional.
On a lighter note my amazingly sexy GF (just turned 60 and "hot as") loves my 12 week old Titan..... around bed time I run it at about 1/3 ..... She loves it in her mouth a bit soft..... and as we proceed I just subtly reach down and seemingly play with my balls while giving a few squeezes to slowly (or rapidly- depending on desire) create the required erection....she does giggle a bit when it makes that squeaky sound as the pump pushes the saline thru......I just laugh with her......I mean I am smiling anyway because I know my erection will stay up and do its job for as long as she wants. The best feeling...... that feeling of confidence

[mrp2007]

Let her do the pumping. Then she still can turn you hard with her 'sex appeal'.
I'm still always horny since its far more stimulating with the implant. Its very difficult to forget its there.
Just tell her that just by breathing she turns you on.
I know I want her when I need to urinate (my internal signal post RP) and she knows this too and is constantly amazed when she hasnt done anything to warrant that reaction.
My wife is still unsure when I want her and I just tell her always. I also tell her that she can have me even if I'm asleep or even dead. The gift that keeps on giving.
She could try to resuscitate me that way as the pounding may kick start everything. Great last memories is worst case outcome.
My wife thinks natural sex after 9 years of second class (no penis) sex is the greatest thing ever. All a matter of perspective.
HTH
Mark

[merrix]

My wife said something disturbing last night. The gist of her remark was that
She used to gain great sexual peace of mind from seeing that she could "turn on her man" to a rock hard erected state.

In the past, I have become aware of this female perspective during my investigations about viagra and injections. Apparently, some women are really disturbed that their man needs something more than "her natural sex appeal" to get an erection. For some women, it is a "validation of their sex appeal" when they have the capability to get a man excited enough to be erect.

With the implant, my rock hard erection no longer has anything to do with whether I am being seduced and overwhelmed by her sex appeal. She views that as a loss.

Bionic bros, I need some help working through this

THANKS,
from a currently miffed TANGERINE

Your comments please !

Well... I would say there is not much you can do about it. Advices from other members here on letting the wife pump it up is in my opinion not going to help the tiniest little bit. Probably just make it worse. if your wife truly has an issue with you not being able to get hard the 'natural' way, then I think that having her pumping your dick up is just a way to not only scream the problem out loud but even shove it right up her face. It will make that 'unnatural' getting hard process even more unnatural for her. But that's just my opinion. I don't know your wife of course.

I am not a woman, and I am not gay. So I have never been turned on by a dick getting hard. But trying to put myself in a woman's situation, I can easily understand that it can be a turn-on to see your man getting hard, or even taking it in your own hands, and stimulate it physically to get it hard. Both for the reason that it is a 'proof' of her being able to turn her man on, but also, I guess, there is just some sort of fascination about the whole thing.
If a man can enjoy for a lifetime every time he stimulates a woman's nipples and sees them getting hard - then of course seeing a dick getting hard must be a great feeling for a woman.

So tough shit. We don't have that ability. But who said there were no downsides to an implant? Who said it was as good as or better than the real thing? Maybe someone actually did, and I always said that is bullshit.
We needed our implant because we couldn't fuck without it.
It has given us that ability back, and just in terms of the fucking, we can do it as good as any non-ED man. But it comes with other disadvantages, and the lack of a natural process to get hard is perhaps the major drawback.

I think you just have to be strong enough to accept that probably any woman on the planet would of course prefer a dick getting hard the normal way than by you pumping it up. No matter if your wife, or my wife, would say that "Oh no baby, it makes absolutely no difference to me that you pump your dick up instead of it getting hard by itself when you see me naked" - I think we would have to understand that it would probably just be something they say to be nice to us.

But it is what it is, we have what we have, and we are what we are. We are still a million times better off than we were before we got implanted.
We must be positive and appreciate and value the ability we have to do the act. It works 100% will for that purpose. When/if thinking of the downsides, we just have to compare to the option. Popping a pill and hope that this time it works? Vacuum pump? No penetrative sex at all?
They all fade in comparison.

[David_R]

With the implant, my rock hard erection no longer has anything to do with whether I am being seduced and overwhelmed by her sex appeal.

Even though I get an erection mechanically now rather than because of my wife, she still gets turned on (she says) by the way I moan in extreme pleasure while she is "working my dick" and during intercourse. (I would feel the same way if she had had a mastectomy and now I could only stimulate her clitoris rather than clitoris and nipples like in the past. Her moans would really turn me on!)

[Donnie1954]

Amen brother,
When she moans, your doing it right! I love to hear (and make) those beautiful love sounds. I'm very vocal and I don't care who hears me (unless we have company). The neighbors don't ask, "How was it?." They already know.