The Final Straw

[sliphill]

Hello everybody,

I'm Defiant and I'm from the UK.

To keep this LONG story short - I have been told I have psychological ED by two separate andrologists and I have been receiving psychological therapy, on and off for a while now. I am 33.

Today I had a realisation - I am wasting my life. I remain with the same girlfriend who I don't love, who I know isn't the one - out of fear. Fear of having no one who will understand my problem - that I need to take pills, see a therapist, fail from time to time. I am a good looking young man and I firmly believe without wanting to sound arrogant I could be with any woman I desired. But I am afraid. I lack confidence, self-esteem and my mind is fraught with psychological horrors that stem mainly from this inability I have to get and stay hard.

I'm done.

I want to get the implant. I do not see it as such a huge deal or something to fear. I see it as a life-saver. I know I need to do a lot more research and that's why I'm here but at the crux of this issue is my well-being and ultimately my chances for true happiness and fulfilment.

I do not want injections. I do not want to insert things in my urethra. I do not want to use a damn pump. With all due respect to those that do - I do not see this as any real way to live. I have been fighting this issue now for over a DECADE with no sign of progress but rather slow but gradual mental and physical decline. NO MORE!

I want to hear from you! Please! Help your brother out!

There is a plethora of information here but I want to hear your thoughts with particular regard to someone like me, i.e. with paralysing and life-stealing anxiety and inability to perform 'normally' despite years of trying to rid myself of it.

I would love to WhatsApp with anyone that is willing to do so - I am based in the UK. So please please DM me if you don't mind this. I really want to know the pros, cons, good bits, bad bits, things to look out for, things to research, to ask, to be aware of.

So please, send me a DM or reply here with any general advice you may have for me!

All the very best!
Defiant.

I hear this all to often and am beginning to wonder if this is just not BS. And that is being told it's psychological. The pills stopped working for me, and then I found injections which worked for a few years, and then they stopped so I took the next step, and I truly am glad I did. At first I said, if the injections hadn't stopped working, I would have never gotten an implant. Looking back on injections and now haven had almost a month of using my implanted dick, BS with the injections. I will take my bionic dick any day over the injections. It's that good. I love that I can be ready for action in no time. Don't hesitate man, we can kid ourselves into thinking that things will get better, but they didn't with me.

[charlesr]

My opinion is that you should get the psychological aspect taken care of before you do anything else. The implant is the final frontier and irreversible. I would start with a new psychologist/psychotherapist. You need a fresh analysis and a qualified assessment. Also check with a urologist. They will know from a physical approach whether there is indeed a physical cause.

Armed with that information, if your ED is truly physical then I would get an implant ASAP and I wouldn't waste a second. They work magnificently.

[shaman]

Hello everybody,

I'm Defiant and I'm from the UK.

To keep this LONG story short - I have been told I have psychological ED by two separate andrologists and I have been receiving psychological therapy, on and off for a while now. I am 33.

Today I had a realisation - I am wasting my life. I remain with the same girlfriend who I don't love, who I know isn't the one - out of fear. Fear of having no one who will understand my problem - that I need to take pills, see a therapist, fail from time to time. I am a good looking young man and I firmly believe without wanting to sound arrogant I could be with any woman I desired. But I am afraid. I lack confidence, self-esteem and my mind is fraught with psychological horrors that stem mainly from this inability I have to get and stay hard.

I'm done.

I want to get the implant. I do not see it as such a huge deal or something to fear. I see it as a life-saver. I know I need to do a lot more research and that's why I'm here but at the crux of this issue is my well-being and ultimately my chances for true happiness and fulfilment.

I do not want injections. I do not want to insert things in my urethra. I do not want to use a damn pump. With all due respect to those that do - I do not see this as any real way to live. I have been fighting this issue now for over a DECADE with no sign of progress but rather slow but gradual mental and physical decline. NO MORE!

I want to hear from you! Please! Help your brother out!

There is a plethora of information here but I want to hear your thoughts with particular regard to someone like me, i.e. with paralysing and life-stealing anxiety and inability to perform 'normally' despite years of trying to rid myself of it.

I would love to WhatsApp with anyone that is willing to do so - I am based in the UK. So please please DM me if you don't mind this. I really want to know the pros, cons, good bits, bad bits, things to look out for, things to research, to ask, to be aware of.

So please, send me a DM or reply here with any general advice you may have for me!

All the very best!
Defiant.

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Having ED, no matter what kind, is a nightmare, more often than not, it has psychological issue, and it gets worse every day.
I used “Caverjet” for one year and “trimix” for 2 years before my initial implant. Caverjet is an injection in the shaft, it will a sting for a second and you will have an erection lasting 2 hours, it is a safe drug but not covered by most insurance.
I had to switch to trimix because I had to switch insurance and it was not covered. In my opinion trimix is a bad drug in most cases it causes “peronies” and no one wants to have that. As of 3 years ago there was no cure, the only remedy is an implant.
Trimix is a compound drug, supervision from the FDA is not great, is done in a sealed environment and if it is not done to the correct standards it may cause a series of neurological issues.
Caverjet in the other hand is supervised by the FDA, it is a safe drug.
Depending on your current situation, if I were you, I would try Caverjet.
Most ethical doctors will have you try everything before and implant.

What ever you read or hear how wonderful implants are, there are always risks. In this group you hear mostly good things but not everyone that has an implant comes here. I wished I never used trimix, it really messes the penis skin.
All of us had ED of one kind of another and for most of us it was a devastating situation or probably we would not be here.
Could you imagine what men with ED did before the implants or viagra, there was only the pump. Terrible

Good luck with your decision, you came to the right place for advice, that’s for sure.
Shaman

[Dustyknox]

I am single and 36. When the pills stopped working, I had doctor's tell me to use a VED or injections. It's almost a comical solution. "Before this goes any further do you mind if I vacuum/inject my dick???" Very romantic. This is a solution for married men. Not a single person.

I also had doctors suggest it was psychological. "In the last 10 years, I have had no sponateous erections, rare weak morning erections, decreased semen volume, difficulty masturbating, etc. Yes, you're right doc. Must be psychological. That makes perfect sense."

We are all different. This is an irreversible solution. Do your research, and listen to your body. You will know when it is the right time.

[shooter1000]

As you can tell from my handle I have used tri mix over 1500 times. We are all different, but i had little or no scarring when I had my implant. I love my implant, but I have no regrets about using the shots. They served me well for 10 years until my prostate cancer returned and I had 35 radiation treatments. the shots became marginal after that, thus the implant. The implant is awesome, but at your age it is likely that you will go through three or four of them in your lifetime.

If you try shots use a #31 needle that is 5/16ths long like a diabetic and push it in to the hilt till you feel it enter the cavernosa. You can barely feel these tiny needles.

There are many advantages to an implant but you will always be aware that it is with you.

[alibaba]

10 years of pills and shrinks and still E.D. At what point do your doctors think they can call this a successful treatment? From this side of the water it looks like failed treatment and time to move on as you have decided. Get the doctors on board. If they cannot exhibit a trend line of improvement for you with no chance of plateauing, continuing to the summit and being able to sustain your success at that point, then they have done nothing but waste 10 years of your time. Been there. Did that. Maybe that is why we are less patient about some things when we get old. We realize our time is not infinite. Cheers man.

[bbb2.5]

When my ED started my Primary Doctor told me it was just part of the aging process. Well that was not a sufficient answer for me. I tried the pills. Could not tolerate Viagra at all. Did the injections. Never went to a single Psychiatrist. I know my body, and I new it was not in my head. One day I decide I was taking this matter to someone who who specialized in ED. After discussion, he put me on what he like to call Physical Therapy. Cialis 5 mg a day. Just to see if I could obtain night erection. The Cialis did nothing for me. I had a follow up visit 1 month later. it was then that I was giving an injection to find out my actual tumescent. (how hard I could get ). After the second inject. I finally got to 40%, which is extremely low , especially after 2 injections. Performed an ultra sound, and there it was plan a day. I had a venous leak. Long story. It took another year before I could my implant. My original insurance carrier "Humana" thought it was not necessary to cover Erectile dysfunction. Once I changed my insurance the next year... I am now going on 9 weeks out from surgery doing great.... Good Luck and get the correct Doctor and have some test done.

[David_R]

My original insurance carrier ... thought it was not necessary to cover erectile dysfunction.

Quite often the doctor's office will contact your insurance on your behalf, pointing out that if they cover breast reconstruction after a mastectomy for women -- which is usually covered even thought it is not required to stay alive -- then they should also cover a penile implant for men.

[star_of_pramen]

Frontier,

I am also from the UK, 27 y/o and had ED for the last 7. I too tried TRT, sexual counselling, viagra, cialis, caverject and now dorsal vein ligation (surgery on Friday just passed). Just for your reference I am being treated at UCLH under Dr Muneer.

I am 4 days post venous ligation surgery and although I am pretty swollen, the fact I haven't had any spontaneous or morning erections yet is worrying. That linked with the low satisfaction rate and poor long term efficacy has led me to believe my only solution is the implant. I plan to push for this at my next consultation in a few weeks.

With respect to your issues, I can totally relate as most people here probably can to the anxiety associated with sex. I've never been able to enjoy or relax during sex due to overwhelming fear of failure, knowing I won't be able to get or maintain a proper erection. I have also been with my girlfriend for 8 years, who if I am being honest with myself, probably don't want to be with anymore and have stayed with out of fear. This is no life to live and the implant seems like the only solution to end all these issues.

Hope you find a solution for your problems. Feel free to DM me

[Smetro]

Frontier,

I am also from the UK, 27 y/o and had ED for the last 7. I too tried TRT, sexual counselling, viagra, cialis, caverject and now dorsal vein ligation (surgery on Friday just passed). Just for your reference I am being treated at UCLH under Dr Muneer.

I am 4 days post venous ligation surgery and although I am pretty swollen, the fact I haven't had any spontaneous or morning erections yet is worrying. That linked with the low satisfaction rate and poor long term efficacy has led me to believe my only solution is the implant. I plan to push for this at my next consultation in a few weeks.

With respect to your issues, I can totally relate as most people here probably can to the anxiety associated with sex. I've never been able to enjoy or relax during sex due to overwhelming fear of failure, knowing I won't be able to get or maintain a proper erection. I have also been with my girlfriend for 8 years, who if I am being honest with myself, probably don't want to be with anymore and have stayed with out of fear. This is no life to live and the implant seems like the only solution to end all these issues.

Hope you find a solution for your problems. Feel free to DM me

Implant will definitely change your life my friend