Men with ED can be fully cured, and they can regain the bedroom prowess of a teenager. If you combine that with testostorone treatments, we lucky bionics can have the sex drive and desire of a raging young 18 year old stud.
Alas, the wife or significant other might not have an interest in rising to that level of sex frequency and intensity. Also, there might be pain issues with vagina dryness in older women. Some on this board have mentioned that it is "not fair for us to expect our partners to suddenly transform into sex kittens" especially after they have sufferred through years of ED disappointments and drama.
Here are the solutions to mismatched sex enjoyment that I have so far learned from this board:
1) If sex hurts, do not pump all the way up -- keep it softer. (remember, you are in total control of your penis)
2) consider using "DHA" 50 mg over the counter (mentioned by Franktalk member "Shaman"):
SHAMAN writes: My wife is 62 years old, 6 years ago I went with her to visit the OBYN, who happens to be kosher, I mentioned that my wife was alway dry with no sex drive. He suggested OTC “DHA” 50mg, I thought what a lot of crap. The thing worked, my wife has passed the information to a couple of co-workers, who have thank her for saving the marriage. It did work.
The question is if she willing to try it for more 3 weeks.
I hope she does, it is a bummer when your partner is not in the same boat.
Good luck
Shaman
3) consider getting your partner to take the medication "Addyi"
Below is the write-up from MayoClinic:
Flibanserin (Addyi)
MayoClinic web site writes: Originally developed as an antidepressant, Flibanserin (Addyi) is a prescription medication approved by the Food and Drug Administration as a treatment for low sexual desire in premenopausal women.
A daily pill, Addyi may boost sex drive in women who experience low sexual desire and who find the experience distressing. Potentially serious side effects include low blood pressure, dizziness and fainting, particularly if the drug is mixed with alcohol. Experts recommend that you stop taking the drug if you don't notice an improvement in your sex drive after eight weeks.
source: http://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/low-sex-drive-in-women/basics/treatment/con-20033229
4) consider putting yourself on a sex schedule --- it at least manages expectations.
5) consider the alternative medicine message oil named "Zestra""
MayoClinic states:
Another alternative medicine product — a botanical massage oil called Zestra — is applied to the clitoris, labia and vagina. One small study found that Zestra increased arousal and pleasure when compared with a placebo oil. The only side effect was mild burning in the genital region. Zestra is not a good option for women with vaginal dryness or sensitive vaginal tissues.
My thinking was that once I was "fixed" we would be having sex all the time and everywhere. That did not happen, so this is something that bionics need to understand both before surgery and after surgery.
I am certain this problem of mismatched sex desire is everywhere, so any ideas or shared experiences from you brothers would be useful.
please write with your thoughts --- TANGERINE
