Friends consider this TMI?

[Xomanow]

I've also tried to get sympathy & feedback from women when I discuss my implant with them, but to no avail.......I guess it's difficult for them to do that with my cock in their mouths....

[shooter1000]

Only my two best make friends know about my implant. I see no reason the share that with any other men. Both of them were curious and supportive and understood that having beat PC twice it was necessary. As for my female partners, I usually tell them upfront. All of them think it is awesome. No 20 something young man can compete with me in the bedroom including me at that age.

I had a threesome with two personal trainers in thire 20's. I outlasted and satsified both of them. We sat in bed laughing about it. I said that the video would have been worth millions lol. A 73 year old guy handling these two.....priceless

[MichaelM]

Thanks, guys. you all said the same thing. Nobody will talk about it. My best friend, Molly, I got because I was a high school teacher and most teachers are women. She called me her "work husband". But when I told her what had to be done, and when I told her I was going in, and when I told her I was coming out, and when I told her it was painful, and when I told her it was too small and.... Well you get the drift. She ignored every email. Like I had become a sexual predator or something. My other best friend, another woman (and both are married and I have a friendship with their husbands) she told me every detail of her breast cancer AND showed me the tattoo they used to mimic a nipple! Not a word from her either. Is this a HLAM thing? (Hey Look At Me)

[PFracture]

Thanks, guys. you all said the same thing. Nobody will talk about it. My best friend, Molly, I got because I was a high school teacher and most teachers are women. She called me her "work husband". But when I told her what had to be done, and when I told her I was going in, and when I told her I was coming out, and when I told her it was painful, and when I told her it was too small and.... Well you get the drift. She ignored every email. Like I had become a sexual predator or something. My other best friend, another woman (and both are married and I have a friendship with their husbands) she told me every detail of her breast cancer AND showed me the tattoo they used to mimic a nipple! Not a word from her either. Is this a HLAM thing? (Hey Look At Me)

I hope that you at least start to address the problems and afflictions that bother you from now on, that you are able to see things more clearly. And no... those where nothing but acquaintances you had, that mis toke for friends. At least in my books. I would also add, that if she doesn't reply... move on and don't talk again. She does not care about you.

[Cnidium]

Im 27,

I told my best friend that I was getting one on October 5th. He was cool with it and basically didnt give a fuck in the best way possible. I also don't care if people know. I also don't care if potential female partners know.

If your 'friend' treats you like garbage for you telling them this, then guess what... they aren't your friend. I also bet if you come of insecure or sympathy seeking about it, the more likely someone will react poorly to it. If you dont give a fuck, then theres nothing any of them can do that should affect you.

[TANGERINE]

The definition of "TMI"

"Most friends, especially those under 65 years old, do not want to know if you dribble after peeing, they do not want to know if you have trouble wiping your butt adequately so that it don't stink. They do not want to know if your penis is too small or if your penis never gets hard, or if you use needles to get hard or if you have a plastic implant inside your dick"

In my opinion, the ONLY people who should know about your implant would be those that you are having sex with. There is enough stigma around impotence and sex addicts and perverts such that people will lump you into those weird categories. In concept, I agree that a penile implant, from a moral viewpoint, is no less weird than a breast implant. A women who gets a "boob job" is in the same league as a man who gets a "boner job."
But, penile implants are rare, and people do not know how to respond.

For your info, my wife was super worried that ANY of our friends would find out about my implant surgery. We went to great lengths to hide why we were going to New York for a few days (in fact, she liked the idea of leaving town since it insured privacy and anonymity).

For the woman you sleep with, it might be a non-issue. For some it will be a turn-off, but once a woman realizes how awesome bionic sex is, she likely will "put up with the unnatural."

For many women, your sexual secret is something that makes your relationship even more intimate (women do like secrets that only they can know)

[dirtman1993]

MY entire family knows of the implant and my name is on YouTube for others to see if they type my name. I have no problem in people know and proud of the fact I took the time to learn and get fixed. I met a men her e where I live around Christmas and he mentioned he had prostate cancer so nothing worked for him and his wife for 10+ years. Didn't say anything as just went blank but went back the next day. Explained to him what was done and showed him a photo I have on my phone (erection). Asked if I would speak with his wife and I did as she also saw the photos after asking and guided her to my surgery video. They watched asked questions and I put them in contact with Dr. Kramer. He ha surgery January 22 and all went very well as they are rabbits again.

If you feel someone may be helped, why not speak up and the people that turn their collective backs on you, to hell with how they act. They are still your friend but unable to deal with the fact you have a nonstop erection. With guys we all lie beginning as kids about size, who we laid and so on. It is very very hard for a man to admit we can't get a normal erection so it is not a surprise.

Stay well and hard guys, enjoy what we have and tell others if you have the opportunity to help.

[Anonymous3]

It is really simple and a sad sitution. Our implants are for that great taboo SEX . Why we have to hide such issues. Cancer for some reason is not taboo where it is breast, prostate, oviaian, cervical or some other body part. Everybody reacts oh that bad, how are you doing can they do anything.

Women have the same stigma attached to the vagina. They dont want talk about dryness, shrinkage, lack of libdo.

Sex is a natural occurring process but most hide from it.

I think education is a big part of it what do we teach our kids about sex? A parent see a young child exploreing themselves they are scolded. They get older tought reproduction. As they mature to young adults the experiment with sex some find porn. As they grow older have kids, think sex is not important and all the social bullshit starts. Then the cycle repeats.

It time for sexual dysfunction both male and female to come out of the closet and have the spotlight put on it. Just like any other medical problem

[Larry10625]

I had friends, some best friends shun me when I tell them I had to have an implant, and refuse to answer my emails, or acknowledge my surgery in any way. Some female friends (similar age as me, about 62) having had breast cancer, who regaled me with the minute details of their surgery and ultimate reconstruction, to the point of showing me the tattoo that now passes for a nipple, and are completely ignoring me when I turned to them for the same sympathy I gave them. Do you guys find that no one is willing to talk or email you back regarding having received an implant? You guys are the only ones I know who will talk about it, and I don't know any of you! I am starting to think that my definition of "friend", or at least "best friend", whether we're the same or opposite genders, includes "can talk about ANY topic that either of us needs to talk about; nothing is TMI (too much information)".

I guess using that definition, I have no friends. It's been very disappointing.

Very few people know about mine. I told my three girls (22, 25, 27) because 2 live here and the other is here a lot. You can't really hide it. They have only been told about the medical aspects... I don't discuss my sex life with my girls. My brother and my cousin know, they share a home for financial reasons. My brother makes the odd joke about it but I know he has ED and I am certain he is very close to wanting details so he may also look into it. He is only 60. My cousin's husband frequently can't get it up and won't tell his doctor... she is PISSED, especially when she hears all that I have gone through to get my sex life back. And finally, of course, my wife. Although she is supportive and secretly I think she can't wait, but she doesn't talk about it unless I bring it up and then says only what she needs to say.

Larry

[David_R]

The definition of "TMI"
"Most friends, especially those under 65 years old, do not want to know if you dribble after peeing, they do not want to know if you have trouble wiping your butt adequately so that it don't stink. They do not want to know if your penis is too small or if your penis never gets hard, or if you use needles to get hard or if you have a plastic implant inside your dick."

I agree with Tangerine: None of my male friends (or my year-younger brother) want to know such things, and if I shared this with them, it could permanently damage our friendships. (And I cannot even imagine sharing any of this with any of my female friends -- or my two younger sisters.)

Generally -- and I do mean generally -- men are willing to talk in generalities about our dicks and how we use them. But I think most of them do not want to know any details.

Glad you're here at FT, because we can talk about anything here, can't we guys?