Friends consider this TMI?

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Re: Friends consider this TMI?

Postby Larry10625 » Tue Sep 05, 2017 9:11 am

Vagabond127 wrote:I haven't been implanted yet...BUT...I have a plan that I feel comfortable telling future sex partners. I'm just going to blame it on something than just ED. I'd like to say something like I had testicular cancer which is to blame for my ED. I'm sure 99% of future partners would accept this and just lay down and enjoy my bionic dick. But I've read so many things on here where it's really not an issue with most partners. If they do...I'll just move on and find someone else who will appreciate a hard dick for as long as they want and as many times as they want.



Most people have seen, or at least heard of the Bionic Man. I wonder if a guy was to tell people he was getting a bionic dick (for whatever reason they choose) what the response would be. I think if you say a penile implant, they relate it to boob jobs which is purely for looks. :?

Larry

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Re: Friends consider this TMI?

Postby MichaelM » Tue Sep 05, 2017 1:51 pm

I told my one female friend because she had cancer, like me, in her case, breast cancer with removal of lymph nodes, and then, like me, had reconstruction. After the reconstruction, she told me "I would have never done it if I knew how much it hurts, pretty much continually. And they don't feel like me, they feel like doll boobs. And then she pulled one out and showed me the tattoo that they used to mimic a nipple.

So I was feeling the same way: terrible pain, a doll's penis, sensory nerves cut, total length, even now of 4 inches, and I said I wish I had remembered what she said about "if I had to do it over again I wouldn't get the reconstruction". I thought it was a perfect comparative match. I guess not. She never responded. TMI I guess, but it apparently wasn't TMI to tell me her story...
6/2013 DaVinci Radical Prostatectomy sacrificing erectile nerve. 5/16/2017 AMS 700 MS series 15cm (with 4 RTEs) No orgasm unless after extended time. Am now 4.5 inches (after an hour, maybe 5 inches; 5.5 implanted). Lots of hand arthritis. Age 65

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Re: Friends consider this TMI?

Postby Vagabond127 » Tue Sep 05, 2017 2:47 pm

Regarding the whole TMI issue I don't plan on hiding it nor will I broadcast it to everyone. I'll use a case by case basis philosophy. I'm more worried about the post-surgery recovery than I am worrying about what people think. In terms of sex partners having an issue with the implant...it sounds cliché...but I'd move on and move quickly so you can use your bionic dick with someone who doesn't have an issue. I used to be in sales. We had a saying..."every time you hear a no you are that much closer to a yes". Same goes for sex partners and your implant.
Implanted with Titan 1/15/19 with Dr. Eid.
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Re: Friends consider this TMI?

Postby MichaelM » Tue Sep 05, 2017 2:51 pm

TANGERINE wrote:The definition of "TMI"

"Most friends, especially those under 65 years old, do not want to know if you dribble after peeing, they do not want to know if you have trouble wiping your butt adequately so that it don't stink. They do not want to know if your penis is too small or if your penis never gets hard, or if you use needles to get hard or if you have a plastic implant inside your dick"

In my opinion, the ONLY people who should know about your implant would be those that you are having sex with. There is enough stigma around impotence and sex addicts and perverts such that people will lump you into those weird categories. In concept, I agree that a penile implant, from a moral viewpoint, is no less weird than a breast implant. A women who gets a "boob job" is in the same league as a man who gets a "boner job."
But, penile implants are rare, and people do not know how to respond.

For your info, my wife was super worried that ANY of our friends would find out about my implant surgery. We went to great lengths to hide why we were going to New York for a few days (in fact, she liked the idea of leaving town since it insured privacy and anonymity).

For the woman you sleep with, it might be a non-issue. For some it will be a turn-off, but once a woman realizes how awesome bionic sex is, she likely will "put up with the unnatural."

For many women, your sexual secret is something that makes your relationship even more intimate (women do like secrets that only they can know)

What was interesting is how nosy people were. I had to say in the hospital overnight. My wife has 5 brothers and sisters and everybody wanted to know everything "Is the cancer back?" "What is exactly wrong?" My wife and I decided to say "He's having reconstructive surgery". For some reason, it shut everybody up. Except our 36 year old daughter. "What reconstruction?". I told her and she was sympathetic, but I think she wished she had left it alone. However, she was great with her 3 year old daughter. She ran up to jump on grampa's lap right out of the hospital, and my daughter did an end run to catch her first. Thank you! Wow, that would have hurt.

Now my wife is relatively happy. After 10 years of no sex, she has me pump it up and sits on it all the time. She's done, rolls off, goes to sleep. I can't feel a thing. The sensory nerves have not grown back after 4 months. The doctor said give it 6 months. After that, it's less likely they will grow back. Now there's a disappointment, but I'd still take longer than 60 seconds; my wife was blessed with a "hair trigger"...
6/2013 DaVinci Radical Prostatectomy sacrificing erectile nerve. 5/16/2017 AMS 700 MS series 15cm (with 4 RTEs) No orgasm unless after extended time. Am now 4.5 inches (after an hour, maybe 5 inches; 5.5 implanted). Lots of hand arthritis. Age 65

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Re: Friends consider this TMI?

Postby Cnidium » Wed Sep 06, 2017 5:23 pm

I cant believe some of this stuff. Im not saying this to insult anyone, but it boggles my mind that any of you are in a situation where you need to worry about being shunned or that your friendships will take a hit because word gets out about your penile implant. I'm not going to tell people because of the annoyance of explanation. But, if they find out, who gives a fuck. I dont even have the the thing and somehow a family friend found out already. I had an interaction with them since, and not a single thing changed. Maybe its because of how I am, and how people look at me, but I seriously cant imagine anyone I know or don't know looking at me and thinking "omg this guy has a penile implant, time to think less of him!". Look, I cant say for sure how I'd feel because I don't have the thing yet, but even if everyone at work found out, I wouldnt give a fuck.
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Re: Friends consider this TMI?

Postby Lost Sheep » Wed Sep 06, 2017 6:01 pm

Cnidium wrote:I cant believe some of this stuff. ... But, if they find out, who gives a fuck. ... I wouldnt give a fuck.

Some people are more affected by the people they interact with than others.

Being more (or less) socially engaged is neither a good nor bad thing as long as it does not interfere with your ability to get along with others and to live a satisfying life.

Please be aware that the range of human feelings is a vast, wide spectrum.
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