Use of Fleshlight to overcome anorgasmia (difficulty cumming)

[goodwoodnow]

I bought a Fleshlight masturbator after reading that used right, these can help restore sensitivity and overcome difficulty cumming, which I had been dealing with for several months. The idea, in brief, is that men tend to respond the wrong way as soon as they experience problems getting to orgasm. I've seen many posts here in the topic. What we tend to do is to stroke faster and faster and grip harder and harder as we seek the stimulation level we need to reach orgasm. This causes us to become dependent on more and more stimulation.

With the Fleshlight ("aviator" model is the one I got. There are many models!), it is impossible to use the "death grip" since it has a rigid plastic outer part. The inner does feel quite realistic, without the many bumps, but maybe a little tighter than a real vagina at least my model, so when used the Fleshlight does not overstimulate. The idea is to "retrain" your penis and general sexual response so it feels necessary sensation/stimulation at a level like that of a real vagina, not way beyond, like super fast hard-squeezing jacking off gives. there's some brain retraining involved as well as user can lie back and enjoy. I am an older guy, user of injections whether with partner or masturbating solo. Love the erection-causing function of my injections which have been nearly 100% effective for 4 years now. (use Edex/Alprostadil, between 10 and 15 units.

There's a program of how to build up better response to milder stimulation, guiding users through a series of weekly masturbation and fucking, taking it very easy at first then building to more frequency. So far it has been about a month since I got my Fleshlight. Have used it solo and also with my wife's help, and had pretty god success. I still have to go quite fast to get off but get there quicker and more reliably. Not yet able to cum orally or from intercourse only but manually, either my hand or my wife's, things have improved. What I'm wondering is whether others have tried this Fleshlight approach. If you have, I'd love to communicate with you, share idea and experiences.

[antelope]

I've learned thru various trial runs that my Trimix injections are more effective/efficient when combined with visual stimulation and manual stimulation. With that combo, brother, I can tell you that when I'm ready to do the deed, I am ready. When flying solo, the same trifecta--inject, visual stimulation, manual stimulation--with or without a fleshlight or equivalent, provides a very nice experience.

Hope that helps.

[Cigar56]

Wife has a much, much lower sex drive so I use the Fleshlight often for solo play. I inject with Trimix and I consider the Fleshlight the next best thing to a real vagina. I have had some incredible sessions with that sex toy when coupled with some visual stimulation and a glass or two of wine. I highly recommend.

[bldoink]

I might have some interest in a device of this type but I suspect they wouldn't work for me. When boned out I'm of average length (6 to 7 inches - it does vary) but I appear to be a bit girthier (new word?) than average at 6.5" to 7" (wife measured it at 6&7/8) when fully boned out. I know too tight doesn't work for me as I tried some toys designed to fit her magic wand and they were a no go. Anyone a bit girthier have success with any models of the Fleshlight type?

[Cigar56]

Haven't measured but I get really long and girthy after injecting. Fleshlight has an endcap to control the suction and tightness. I wound up taking it off. That and a really good lube did the trick. Had some amazing orgasms with that thing.

[goodwoodnow]

I find it best to remove the end cap too. Gives a nice sucking sensation and a lttle extra space when cock bottoms out the open liner end gives just enough room to not hitting the end. I am at best just slightly above average length at 6.25", with girth of 5". Correction: my model is the "Flight", which is the smallest model. I chose it because I wanted tightness and especially I wanted something small enough to stow easily. Other models are mostly really big. But if you are bigger than me, suggest choose another model.

All that aside I've had a mixed week. Followed directions for re-training penis to cum with less intense stimulation and without porn. Worked really well 2 days ago, with wife after much intercourse and lots of oral and manual too then me taking over with hand and Fleshlight. But just now was unable to cum, masturbating solo, without then with porn for added stimulation.

Happy to hear than others are having more luck. But idea is to not be desperate to cum and to just enjoy the pleasure throughout. Did that, got close a couple of times, Then sensation diminished before I came. With injection (12 nits Alprostadil)) my penis remains erect 90 minutes and counting after injecting

[Cigar56]

I find it best to remove the end cap too. Gives a nice sucking sensation and a lttle extra space when cock bottoms out the open liner end gives just enough room to not hitting the end. I am at best just slightly above average length at 6.25", with girth of 5". Correction: my model is the "Flight", which is the smallest model. I chose it because I wanted tightness and especially I wanted something small enough to stow easily. Other models are mostly really big. But if you are bigger than me, suggest choose another model.

All that aside I've had a mixed week. Followed directions for re-training penis to cum with less intense stimulation and without porn. Worked really well 2 days ago, with wife after much intercourse and lots of oral and manual too then me taking over with hand and Fleshlight. But just now was unable to cum, masturbating solo, without then with porn for added stimulation.

Happy to hear than others are having more luck. But idea is to not be desperate to cum and to just enjoy the pleasure throughout. Did that, got close a couple of times, Then sensation diminished before I came. With injection (12 nits Alprostadil)) my penis remains erect 90 minutes and counting after injecting

I wonder if Trimix, instead of straight Alprostadil would be better for you? Why just the Alprostadil?

[tifton44]

Has anyone tried the Fleshlight Vibro Lady? I was wondering if the battery powered vibrations would be better for me. However, after reading the reviews of the Vibro Lady on the fleshlight website, they didn't sound good. Surely would appreciate your comments before I purchase it.

[ShopMan]

Are there any videos of this thing in use? I'm interested in learning more. P.M. me if you like.
Charlie

[goodwoodnow]

You can fond videos of Flesh lights in action if you google "fleshlight videos". They are basically masturbation sleeves inside a solid plastic cover that prevents you from over-squeezing and feel quite like a vagina, especially compared to other such devices that I have tried. The key is to stroke easily, and to resist the temptation to stroke extra fast....more like actual fucking. There are all sorts of different types, some very complex virtual reality devices. Look at the Flesh Light website to see all the models You can PM me if you like. /we might want to compare notes after using for a while.