10 Years of ED, implant is not going as well as planned.

[SickofED]

This a re-post from my introduction post. They guys commented I may get more responses if I post it here.

First off, i’d like to say thanks to all of you. Post op I would read your stories all night, it gave me hope. My story begins at age 35, 10 years ago. I began to notice a lack of staying power. My wife was felt like it was her fault and began to distance herself. I began taking 5mg cialis, soon it was 10, then 20, it worked nicely for years. When it stopped working, I tried all of the others up to 100mg and almost went blind. I’d say 1 in 15 times it actually worked. Sex was so bad it was almost bringing her to divorce me. She’s smart, sexy, makes a whole lot of money, it wouldn't be hard for her to find someone new. Limp dick would be a much harder sell for me. Roughly 2 years ago, one evening she strolled out in super sexy lingerie and I was stoked. I picked her up and got her super hot. I bent her over a chair we started to have sex, I thought I was doing great, but my dick was nowhere near as full as my brain wanted/thought it to be. She asked me to stop. I honestly felt like killing myself that night. She could not understand what was happening and was fed up as well. My next step was the injection, super fun. The first office visit I injected myself, had a positive reaction and went home. It lasted 8 hours. I called after 4 and they said it would be OK. I then received my first trimix, I have bachelors in Biology so I knew how to properly mix the injection. The mix took a long time to be effective, but it did the job. I fell asleep and in the morning he was still there, in the afternoon I became really worried. After 24 hours I went to the hospital. They stuck we with literally about 20 needles, all over my dick and surrounding area. They finally cut into my head and shoved a tube in. I caution anyone against using trimix. It was truly a nightmare of blood and pain. I was in the hospital for 3 days. Afterwich I was no longer able to have an erection. My doctor then suggested an implant which I received this past January, 2017. A titan. The valve malfunctioned and I was self inflating for almost 2 weeks post op. 9 months later it works properly. Still slightly smaller than my original self. My issue now is that though it’s hard, the head doesn't stay filled, in particular when I lay on my back. I can only keep an erection that is actually useful for about 2 minutes and then the blood flows out and I'm left with this useless little, super stiff, dick. If she doesn't cum super fast, it won't happen, and then she gets frustrated and cries or becomes angry. I don't know what to do anymore. Does anybody have any tricks, creams, prayers? I’ll try anything short of lighting him on fire. Which is not true, I would actually light my dick on fire, if it were possible to give her a solid orgasm again.

[oldgoat]

You should try giving her a good orgasm with your tongue . Then enjoy a good bj from her.

[SickofED]

While that might actually be a valid solution, my wife thinks both acts are gross.

[geophd]

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There is a debate over the use of a ring but many use it and if it's just around the cylinders I imagine there is no problem. The cylinders are nearly indestructible, a ring would have a hard time damaging them.

Who is your doctor? What was your pre implant stretch and what is the size of your implant. That will help members determine if you might be undersized and benefit from a revision surgery.

[irishguy]

hey i had a similar problem, and afew things have helped me enjoy a good sex life now..
1. definetly cockrings i started with 3 cockrings and im down to 1 cockring and sometimes no cockring..
2. meditation and councilling to stop stressing and become calmer and happier in myself
3. either cut down hugely on masturbation and/or porn or cut it out completely
4. good lube(ky jelly)

hope this helps

[Larry10625]

[quote="SickofED"]This a re-post from my introduction post. They guys commented I may get more responses if I post it here.

First off, i’d like to say thanks to all of you. Post op I would read your stories all night, it gave me hope. My story begins at age 35, 10 years ago. I began to notice a lack of staying power. My wife was felt like it was her fault and began to distance herself. I began taking 5mg cialis, soon it was 10, then 20, it worked nicely for years. When it stopped working, I tried all of the others up to 100mg and almost went blind. I’d say 1 in 15 times it actually worked. Sex was so bad it was almost bringing her to divorce me. She’s smart, sexy, makes a whole lot of money, it wouldn't be hard for her to find someone new. Limp dick would be a much harder sell for me. Roughly 2 years ago, one evening she strolled out in super sexy lingerie and I was stoked. I picked her up and got her super hot. I bent her over a chair we started to have sex, I thought I was doing great, but my dick was nowhere near as full as my brain wanted/thought it to be. She asked me to stop. I honestly felt like killing myself that night. She could not understand what was happening and was fed up as well. My next step was the injection, super fun. The first office visit I injected myself, had a positive reaction and went home. It lasted 8 hours. I called after 4 and they said it would be OK. I then received my first trimix, I have bachelors in Biology so I knew how to properly mix the injection. The mix took a long time to be effective, but it did the job. I fell asleep and in the morning he was still there, in the afternoon I became really worried. After 24 hours I went to the hospital. They stuck we with literally about 20 needles, all over my dick and surrounding area. They finally cut into my head and shoved a tube in. I caution anyone against using trimix. It was truly a nightmare of blood and pain. I was in the hospital for 3 days. Afterwich I was no longer able to have an erection. My doctor then suggested an implant which I received this past January, 2017. A titan. The valve malfunctioned and I was self inflating for almost 2 weeks post op. 9 months later it works properly. Still slightly smaller than my original self. My issue now is that though it’s hard, the head doesn't stay filled, in particular when I lay on my back. I can only keep an erection that is actually useful for about 2 minutes and then the blood flows out and I'm left with this useless little, super stiff, dick. If she doesn't cum super fast, it won't happen, and then she gets frustrated and cries or becomes angry. I don't know what to do anymore. Does anybody have any tricks, creams, prayers? I’ll try anything short of lighting him on fire. Which is not true, I would actually light my dick on fire, if it were possible to give her a solid orgasm again.[/quote


SickofED; First off let me say your story was heart wrenching to me as it sounded like the same kind of luck I experienced. I too, tried to tell my wife it was not her fault and she got hurt, angry, cried, etc. One thing that is working for us (while I wait to be implanted in December) is we engage in a lot of foreplay. I purchased a dildo that is roughly my girth and a little "Magic Buzzer" that stimulates her clit. Both of them together were a little less than $100. I use the buzzer on her until she cums and then I screw her with the dildo while she masturbates me. When I cum we are finished. It's not perfect but I keep reassuring her that my feelings are the ones driving the appliances, which proves my love for her. I hope things turn around for you soon.

Larry

[David_R]

One thing that is working for us (while I wait to be implanted in December) is we engage in a lot of foreplay.

Non-intercourse sex was the only thing my wife and I could enjoy during the 2 years in between my getting E.D. (after a prostatectomy) and getting the implant. We could have orgasms, which was good. But we couldn't have intercourse, which we really missed since it is such a special "connection" for couples. So hang in there till December, SickofED. You and your wife are going to make it, brother!

[dg_moore]

While that might actually be a valid solution, my wife thinks both acts are gross.

Same here - that was never an option for us either.

[Lost Sheep]

Hyaluronic gel injections into the glans is a treatment for when the glans does not engorge. Ask your urologist if that may help.

Good luck

[SickofED]

Thanks guys. I'm going to try the cock ring idea this weekend. My doctor is out of town, of course, but is colleage said not to use one as it may damage the implant. I'm going to do it anyway because at this point it doesn't matter. We had "sex" again yesterday and it was miserable. It ended with me the size of a lipstick tube. I haven't measured myself in a long time, I'm afraid of the results, but I was 6 inches. With really decent girth. It started out that way last night, but after 3 or 4 minutes I was down to the balloon inside of me and she just went away frustrated.