Kissing

[acer55]

Hey Guys,
Anyone here feel they are great kissers? If so, would you mind sharing some pointers with the rest of us who are mediocre? My wife enjoys kissing. She is a great kisser. Unfortunately for her, I am not. Honestly, I don't even enjoy it. I just want to get my dick in and start enjoying the ride. She would rather kiss. While kissing last night, I actually lost a good boner. We eventually got one back, but it wasn't all that hard. I want to pleasure my wife. How do I start enjoying kissing more?

[antelope]

Try kissing her in new places and get her to do the same. Erogenous zones are not limited to lips, nipples, peckers, and vajayjays.

[dtwarren1942]

I find kissing while fully inserted to be very erotic, especially during orgasm. Thank you, Trimix.

[3mtrship]

Great question!
Let’s start with the simple things like brush your teeth and give your lips some skin care for a week on the sly. Body lotion 3 times a day.
Whiskers don’t seem to matter but lips do.
slowly start undressing her
give her tender kisses on the lips
gently stroke her face
take time to give her full body or shoulder massage
gently caress all parts of her body (not just the typical “sexual” parts)
whisper and tell her how beautiful she is and how good she feels
kiss her softly all over her body
interlace your fingers with hers
caress her tummy (don’t tickle though!)
touch and fondle her
keep talking about how much you love her (unless you’re kissing)
try to discover new touch points on her body that are sensitive and bring sexual arousal
keep looking and listening to her

begin more passionate kissing (don’t underestimate this tip!)
start faster stroking and caressing of her body
include full body embracing
start oral stimulation such as licking and sucking
begin to caress her inner thighs
continue telling her all the ways you think she’s gorgeous and how much she excites you
squeeze and stroke her body
tell her how her smell excites you

move your hands from the top of her body all the way down until they reach between her legs
listen to your wife’s verbal cues… is she feeling discomfort or pleasure?
use lubricant to begin stroking her vagina and clitoris
gently massage her outer vaginal lips
pay attention to your wife’s body language; is she beginning to respond?
ask your wife to tell you what feels good to her
reach up to her breasts kiss her passionately all over her body and massage her inner thighs
stimulate her clitoris and/or G-spot until she lets you know she’s ready for intercourse or ready to orgasm
don’t forget to keep talking to her; tell her how much you enjoy her body

Put your needs second and you will benefit.

Merry Christmas, Jim

[acer55]

Wow, thanks guys! Can't wait to try some of these maneuvers out! My wife never gives me verbal feedback. I think it has to do with her upbringing and view of sex? I will have to rely on nonverbal responses. Even so, thanks!

[notsostiff]

I have always had the opposite problem in that I enjoy kissing but my wife doesn't particularly like it for long. After my prostatectomy, to my surprise, my wife kissed me like never before because she was determined to do what she could do to help me recover. She obviously picked up on my pleasure and did it even more because she could see I was enjoying it so much! This helped me get to orgasm even with a limp penis.

[6gun 44 mag]

Not many women who don't need, and want kissing big time before the thrusting begins. Many men think the humping will get-er-done all by itself. Maybe, but maybe not. Yes, kissing is the real deal, before the humping begins.