Getting discovered: How to tell a woman your bionic

[ThePlumber1964]

Well, think the brilliance of this: now we have to offer 3 for the price of 2!!!

[Dustyknox]

What Larry said

[shooter1000]

I got a message from Tangerine asking me to post on this subject again. I am single with several woman in my life and they are often young.

So, the rules.
Never use the term implant.Tell them you are bionic

tell them upfront before you have had sex, but after you are pretty sure you will have.

I usually say " I need to fill you in on something very special about me. I am bionic. You would not likely notice unless I told. Well, perhaps after we have been together many times but not immediately. What it means is that I can outperform most mortal men. Including me when I was younger. I am bionic. My performance has been enhanced through a medical procedure.

" You will want to know if my sensitivity is intact. It is, and in some ways it is enhanced."

" I will be happy to answer any questions that you may have"

Many of us are different from this point depending on our individual reasons for ED. So if she has questions, you can answer them as necessary. In my case after two bouts with Prostate cancer, I am totally sterile, and do not ejaculate. I do have massive orgasms, but I don't make a mess lol.'

Get it out early, relax, and enjoy your bionic advantage.

[NeedleD]

If she finds it and asks what this is just tell her "it's there to hold excessive ejaculate it was installed to keep the "mess" to a minimum". Or, "It holds excessive blood that would otherwise make my cock grow over 8 inches and that's just too painful for me".

[DaveKell]

Another way I view this desire to be stealthy about an implant is this. Remember when the first Viagra commercial aired during a football game? How uncomfortable it was for everyone watching? Hell, some religious groups threatened to boycott networks airing them. You could always tell who the guy was with the problem because he was fist to let everyone know he DIDN'T have that issue!

Well, Viagra is mainstream now. It's completely accepted with no more late night talk show hosts joking about it. They even sponsor a Nascar racer. I'm going to do all I can as an implant manufacturer patient speaker at seminars to move the process along for implants to be mainstream as well. I see no reason to be covert about the awesome benefits they give. I'm trying to figure out how to mention I'm infinitely better at sex now than I was 40 years ago in my 20's. Since I will soon start getting bookings to speak at seminars my wife told me I need to tell our adult kids what's going on since I will at times be flying out of town for seminars. I'm composing a letter to each of them to bring them up to speed. Even as adults nobody wants to consider their parents having sex or know any details. I intend to give them a straightforward explanation of what I went through for 20 years after a surgeon rendered me impotent after removing my sigmoid colon. I'll end with reminding them how happy their parents are of late.

I understand single guys having a concern about being discovered. If I were younger and single it might be an issue for me as well. However, it's who you are now and I don't think it warrants being kept secret. If I imagine myself with a new woman and sex is about to happen, I think I'd be enthusiastic about explaining first what she's about to experience and why. I am in no way ashamed of an implant or why I needed one. It fixed a serious problem very nicely. If anybody can't handle that it's their problem. If your eyesight fails you get glasses. If you're diabetic you take insulin. If you lose a leg you get a prosthetic. If your dick stops functioning right you get an implant. How is it any different than any of the other things I've just cited?

[TANGERINE]

Thank you brothers for posting so much on this topic. I assure you that for younger members with an implant, struggling with the "speech on how I disclose my implant to a lover" is a big source of stress since it has the potential to be a real 'buzz kill'.

Men, I need your manly approach here to help the younger brothers. As many of you are aware, when a friend tells a man something that is bothering them or that they are afraid of, the standard response is, "well, you really shouldn't feel afraid or worried, because the way I see this is ..... " and THEN, a man will tell his friend what to do to fix the situation. SO, RECOGNIZING THAT COMING UP WITH A GOOD SPEECH IS A SOURCE OF STRESS, we men need to share ideas to solve this problem.

Most of you are quite good at expressing yourselves, many of you are great at pitching and selling ideas to women, and a couple of you are good at the art of seduction. I know many of you are monogamous, but as an exercise, try to share with us the words that you would use to handle the reveal talk.
To prepare our younger brothers for the moment of reveal, let's collectively put our heads together by sharing the "script that you would use to disclose that you are bionic"

[tomas1]

I don't have a dog in this fight, but if I did, I'd fess up after the act.

[radioradio]

I'd probably get it out in conversation before things were even headed in the direction of sex, but that's just me. I'm an open book by nature -- what too open for my wife's comfort.
Maybe I'd lose some chances this way, but like I said, that's just me.
Bob

[ShopMan]

I'd probably get it out in conversation before things were even headed in the direction of sex, but that's just me. I'm an open book by nature -- what too open for my wife's comfort.
Maybe I'd lose some chances this way, but like I said, that's just me.
Bob

I'm like Bob. An open book. I doubt I would sell it before hand a distinct advantage.
But like Bob that's just me.
Charlie

[Smetro]

New lady 10 years younger than me...a high level forensic accountant separated for 3 years..we had swapped some selfies previously and when I politely asked if she would like to 'see'.. .....she replied 'yes' .....I sent the pics and received the reply "oh my goodness". I sent a flaccid shot and a fully pumped one.....probably a bit much... but I was on a roll......she liked what she saw (and as it turned out, she also liked me)......
So we got together.... and as I have found out as a divorced guy with a libido, often, these 50 something gorgeous women have not had sex for some time.
This is actually a two edged sword. They are really keen for sex but they are out of training and their vaginas are delicate. I did what I have talked about here before.....I am always partially inflated for comfort and in the presence of a very attractive and horny woman, what's left of my blood flow gets me to half mast pretty quickly.
We messed around for a while, she sucked me for a few minutes which was very nice and I gave her clitoris a good going over with my tongue which produced a couple of orgasms....as she caught her breath I excused myself to go to the bathroom, ran the cold tap and pumped myself up close to.... 'but not quite, baseball bat' setting which may have been a bit firm.
As I re-entered the room she caught sight of my cock and her eyebrows went up...after 11 months implanted I am about 7" inflated with pretty good girth.
...I certainly wouldn't do it like that again but I was proud of what I have and was showing off a bit I guess.
We got down to business and she had told me beforehand that both her children were born caesarean..... OMG her pussy was like a 20 year olds'......probably too tight for such a stiff penis first up after a couple of years.
After we both climaxed I pulled out and sitting back up from missionary I gently patted her pussy lips repeatedly with my still (of course) erect cock. She giggled and I asked if it felt nice.....she said yes, absolutely.
I asked if I could keep doing it and she said yes of course and that she might just come again and that she always orgasms through clitoral stimulation.
For some reason the time felt right to tell her and so I did....straight up as we were just messing around.
Told her I had something most men don't......told her why (venous leakage) and that as a guy who loves women and sex it was a no brainer..... I got her to hold my erection and I hit deflate.....showed her how to squeeze to get it down and then I re-inflated. She was fascinated and totally accepting of the whole process. She gently asked me if I could make it not quite so stiff.....I said 'absolutely, it can be as hard or soft as you want.'
With that I pumped up to about 75% and we got back to business (pleasure)......and had a fantastic time.
OK so this isn't one of my sex stories so I will get to the point and throw some perspective on the topic:
Most mature women have had children and are aware that things change and can go wrong......they are naturally empathetic and I think above all they like honesty.
I was honest, I got it out of the way and I included her in the process of deflating and inflating.......and made light of the process....it's what happens naturally.... so what's the big deal?
I also had her "feel" the pump....no problem at all.
I think she was impressed that she could "dial up" the firmness.....she let me know in no uncertain terms that she preferred it a little softer.....she also loved that it didn't disappear without her say so!
All round a really positive experience and both looking forward to future encounters.....I hope this helps