What excuse did you use?
What excuse did you use?
Hey. Im due for surgery next thursday. Ive left it so late but ive started dating someone and have no idea what to tell her im having surgery for? Obviously the truth is not an option this early on. What has anyone used as an excuse or cover up?
29 years old. Suffered with ED since 17. No known cause. First Implanted date 23/3/2018. Cylinders way too short and revised by different surgeon 2019. 22cm titan.
Cylinders still short and now pump is upside down and protruding. Awaiting 3rd revision
Cylinders still short and now pump is upside down and protruding. Awaiting 3rd revision
Re: What excuse did you use?
I am retired so I was able to just lay low for a couple weeks and not schedule anything but my surgeon suggested I tell people I had Hernia repair surgery. I believe the recovery from that is quicker and easier than an implant so anyone familiar with hernia repair may think you are not recovering like you should.
Greg
Greg
I am 64 and had ED from a VL. Implanted by Dr. Ronald Anglade in Atlanta on 9/18/17. I have an AMS700LGX 21 cm via a Penoscrotal incision. Very happy with results. 6" soft and 6 3/4” x 5 5/8” hard.
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FreddyFree
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Re: What excuse did you use?
A horse kicked me in the nuts. 
AMS 700 CX 18cm. x 12mm. With 3cm. RTEs. 10/10/18
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postra7777
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Re: What excuse did you use?
I told everyone I was having hernia surgery. Plausible to everyone so far.
Suffered with ED for most of my life. Viagra then to Trimix then implanted 3/8/2018 with AMX 700 CX 21cm with 1cm RTE. 50 years old Urolift procedure performed 30 day prior to my implant surgery.
Re: What excuse did you use?
I am also dating. Over the last year when I was trying to get injections to work I said nothing. It was still difficult for me to talk to even my doc about my ED. I wanted to keep it a secret from everyone. But something happened and I started talking about it. I have my surgery next Wednesday a day before you. I have been telling the women I date that it's a guy thing and the guy I am going to is supposed to be really good and I will have to take it easy for a while. If they press I tell them that I have had damage and then what I am having done. I had four stop seeing me when I did not talk about my ED at all. One who stopped talking for a while after I told her everything but she started back a few weeks later. One who had other issues and removed herself from dating that I told everything. One I am seeing tomorrow evening who has not pressed for a detailed explanation. And one who is visiting me on Saturday that knows everything and wants to spend some time with me before I leave.
I have found it is so much easier to tell the truth when women ask. I just say it is a guy thing and I have had damage and part of my life is gone. I want that part of my life back. And that I am looking for the right woman and that at some point I want to be intimate.
So far women have not been negative about at all. One said it would not bother her to be with a bionic man. One is a nurse and said she had seen one before and that it was good that I was doing something about it. One just went on like it was no big deal and we didn't talk about it again in our other conversations.
But you know this person and her back ground and I do not. I wish you luck in this and your surgery. Take care.
I have found it is so much easier to tell the truth when women ask. I just say it is a guy thing and I have had damage and part of my life is gone. I want that part of my life back. And that I am looking for the right woman and that at some point I want to be intimate.
So far women have not been negative about at all. One said it would not bother her to be with a bionic man. One is a nurse and said she had seen one before and that it was good that I was doing something about it. One just went on like it was no big deal and we didn't talk about it again in our other conversations.
But you know this person and her back ground and I do not. I wish you luck in this and your surgery. Take care.
Injections failed. Implanted 3-21-18 AMS 700 LGX 21 + 1 RTE 100 cc reservoir 6.5" L 5" G Dr. Kramer.
Proximal Perforation Sling Repair 4/13/21 Dr. Broghammer
66 years young.
Will show and tell and talk with others.
Proximal Perforation Sling Repair 4/13/21 Dr. Broghammer
66 years young.
Will show and tell and talk with others.
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Lost Sheep
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Re: What excuse did you use?
Ruktitan wrote:Hey. Im due for surgery next thursday. Ive left it so late but ive started dating someone and have no idea what to tell her im having surgery for? Obviously the truth is not an option this early on. What has anyone used as an excuse or cover up?
When I was looking for (and advertising on a dating site) a "lab partner" to have sex with before my implant as well as after, I got a lot of supportive messages congratulating me for my courage in being candid about my situation.
Women are amazingly supportive of men they like. (as Newbie443 has attested)
Trust her. If she is not trustworthy, then dump her.
Lost Sheep
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017
Prostate Cancer 2023
READ OLD THREADS-ask better questions -better understand answers
Be part of your medical team
Document pre-op size-photos and written records
Pre-op VED therapy helps. Post-op is another matter
AMS LGX 18+3 Nov 6, 2017
Prostate Cancer 2023
READ OLD THREADS-ask better questions -better understand answers
Be part of your medical team
Document pre-op size-photos and written records
Pre-op VED therapy helps. Post-op is another matter
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Anonymous3
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Re: What excuse did you use?
I know the op is young and telling someone you have ED is hard. It an old man problem right?
I still have not Figured out why fixing a broken body part need to be a big secret. I know it a sex part and old age wisdom dont talk about sex. Well it not 1950 any more. That wisdom does notv really fly anymore. It did about 75% of the guys here would not have implants because they would be too old sex. If we followed that wisdom any man that would openly look at another mans dick must not be heterosexual.
Now if you are so a shamed to admit to someone you are starting to date that you have to get the implant that you have to lie to them do you resl think it is going to last. First time she sees you naked post op you gig is up. So you dfo come up with sonne lie for surgery, what lie to you tell her for no sex for six weeks. What lie do you tell her when she feels the parts or she sucks you and you dont get hard?
Women think entirely differant than we do. You lie to them once or just forget to tell them something as important as this then they will not trust you. If there is no trust there is no relationship.
Let reverse this. You are starting to date a girl who 1 is a breast cancer survivor 2. Has the gene in either case has had a double mastectomy or is scheduled for one but lies to you about it in the beginning. What are you going to do when you see her without her prostictics. Do you freak out? Do you end it? Or the most common "I sorry to hear about you cancer or you are so brave to have it done early" I think the option of removing tgem just in case is far fetched ( that is my opinion) this is not the place for that discussion.
On that way of thinking if a test was developed for guys that showed the probability of ED or prostate cancer and the test showed very high probility. what would you do?
I still have not Figured out why fixing a broken body part need to be a big secret. I know it a sex part and old age wisdom dont talk about sex. Well it not 1950 any more. That wisdom does notv really fly anymore. It did about 75% of the guys here would not have implants because they would be too old sex. If we followed that wisdom any man that would openly look at another mans dick must not be heterosexual.
Now if you are so a shamed to admit to someone you are starting to date that you have to get the implant that you have to lie to them do you resl think it is going to last. First time she sees you naked post op you gig is up. So you dfo come up with sonne lie for surgery, what lie to you tell her for no sex for six weeks. What lie do you tell her when she feels the parts or she sucks you and you dont get hard?
Women think entirely differant than we do. You lie to them once or just forget to tell them something as important as this then they will not trust you. If there is no trust there is no relationship.
Let reverse this. You are starting to date a girl who 1 is a breast cancer survivor 2. Has the gene in either case has had a double mastectomy or is scheduled for one but lies to you about it in the beginning. What are you going to do when you see her without her prostictics. Do you freak out? Do you end it? Or the most common "I sorry to hear about you cancer or you are so brave to have it done early" I think the option of removing tgem just in case is far fetched ( that is my opinion) this is not the place for that discussion.
On that way of thinking if a test was developed for guys that showed the probability of ED or prostate cancer and the test showed very high probility. what would you do?
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Larry10625
Re: What excuse did you use?
Ruktitan wrote:Hey. Im due for surgery next thursday. Ive left it so late but ive started dating someone and have no idea what to tell her im having surgery for? Obviously the truth is not an option this early on. What has anyone used as an excuse or cover up?
I always just said "it's something to do with my prostrate, I don't remember what it's called" and then I change the subject before they start asking questions. It worked every time.
Larry
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Larry10625
Re: What excuse did you use?
Greg1956 wrote:I am retired so I was able to just lay low for a couple weeks and not schedule anything but my surgeon suggested I tell people I had Hernia repair surgery. I believe the recovery from that is quicker and easier than an implant so anyone familiar with hernia repair may think you are not recovering like you should.
Greg
That's good or there's always Testicular Torsion Repair
Larry
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Larry10625
Re: What excuse did you use?
Lost Sheep wrote:Ruktitan wrote:Hey. Im due for surgery next thursday. Ive left it so late but ive started dating someone and have no idea what to tell her im having surgery for? Obviously the truth is not an option this early on. What has anyone used as an excuse or cover up?
When I was looking for (and advertising on a dating site) a "lab partner" to have sex with before my implant as well as after, I got a lot of supportive messages congratulating me for my courage in being candid about my situation.
Women are amazingly supportive of men they like. (as Newbie443 has attested)
Trust her. If she is not trustworthy, then dump her.
I absolutely agree. I spent so much time trying to be deceptive and I couldn't remember who I told what. The hell with it.. just be factual and if they don't like it they are really to into themselves for you anyways.
Larry
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