Just taking the plunge to even ask !

[Spikepork]

Hi. It’s a journey some take little time to
Decide upon and others years. There is no “norm” when considering an implant. I used Mr Ralph who is supposed to be the UK top implanted back in December 2017 after many years of ED and using all the usual options until only caverject worked but I hated the while injecting polava and pain afterwards. I was ready for the implant. Joy of joys is the result. Although don’t be fooled by the Recovery. Most find it quite a tough time. I did. But it’s worth it. Happy to talk. Pm if you wish. Good thoughts your way.

[Lost Sheep]

I did not mention that VEDs have two functions. One is for sex (by using cobstriction rings to keep the erection. The other is for rehabilitation/maintenance of the health, elasticity and size of the penis.

[oldbeek]

Get the implant if you want one. My GP and URO wondered why I wanted a hard on at 76 yrs old. Screw them. I want one. Have been proud of my dick all my life and now it is a shriveled noodle after prostatectomy with no chance of nerve recovery. Drugs do nothing. Trimix gives sever pain. Wife still wants it occasionally. Saw a surgeon last week and am scheduling one. Screw what others think. Just do it and smile.

[radioradio]

Get the implant if you want one. My GP and URO wondered why I wanted a hard on at 76 yrs old. Screw them. I want one. Have been proud of my dick all my life and now it is a shriveled noodle after prostatectomy with no chance of nerve recovery. Drugs do nothing. Trimix gives sever pain. Wife still wants it occasionally. Saw a surgeon last week and am scheduling one. Screw what others think. Just do it and smile.

Oldbeek,

Good for you!

I sometimes think a lot of GP's and URO's must not be sexually active themselves....

Bob

[David_R]

My GP and URO wondered why I wanted a hard on at 76 yrs old. Screw them. I want one.

I have talked with men who get an implant and have no sexual partner at all. I explain it to women this way: There are no jokes about a woman who cannot lubricate, but there are lots of jokes about a guy who can't get it up. (There's a reason that one euphemism for the penis is "manhood.")

[Larry10625]

Hi. It’s a journey some take little time to
Decide upon and others years. There is no “norm” when considering an implant. I used Mr Ralph who is supposed to be the UK top implanted back in December 2017 after many years of ED and using all the usual options until only caverject worked but I hated the while injecting polava and pain afterwards. I was ready for the implant. Joy of joys is the result. Although don’t be fooled by the Recovery. Most find it quite a tough time. I did. But it’s worth it. Happy to talk. Pm if you wish. Good thoughts your way.

Are you still sore? If not, maybe it's time to edit your signature... if you are still sore, you should be having a conversation with your surgeon.

Larry

[CTR5000]

Hello . Am a 57 year old gay Male in Dublin Ireland... I had a partner for 25 years and it was not an issue because I felt really good with my partner . Unfortunately he died 8 years ago as a result of radiotherapy having been tested for a stage 1 cancer . It should not have happened as a clot developed in his leg and killed him before my eyes in a couple of minutes... If anybody would like to communicate I would be very grateful . Very alone with all this here Gay or straight doesn’t matter... And the silence is the worst - as if one should never even dare bring it up... No pun intended. Many thanks for reading . Noel

Hi Noel ~

I am so very sorry for all you've gone through and are currently going through. But I'm also very glad you reached out and posted. If I were only allowed one sentence, I'd tell you, "You're not alone... I understand more than you realize." For starters, I'm also gay, and have an Irish heritage. With a name like Colin, I couldn't deny it if I tried! (And my husband is James Patrick!)

When I read your words about your former partner, they absolutely went through me. I am so, so sorry, Noel. My husband (Jim) went through Hodgkin's Lymphoma in 2008-09. As a result of one component in his first chemo infusion, his lungs were destroyed. Three years ago he ended up on a ventilator, in an induced coma for 14 days. Amazingly, they got him off the vent and out of the coma, but this "Bleomycin-induced Lung Damage" is constantly progressing. He's on oxygen 24/7 and "Quality of Life" is an oxymoron for him.

I don't need to elaborate on that anymore really. Most of the guys reading this have heard it. But I wanted you to know that "I get it" and my heart goes out to you.

On the subject of ED, I was diagnosed with venous leakage in my 30's. I've done the Viagra and Cialis route; then Caverject or Edex injections for a few years. Alternating with injection days my urologist had me using a pump and cock rings. But eventually those all stopped working for me but like you, my lack of an erection wasn't an issue between Jim and me. But he really hated seeing me missing out on that part of our sex life. When all those ran their courses of effectiveness, my urologist/surgeon pretty much said an implant would be my best option... and he was right. My AMS 700 LGX became a part of me in April of 2015.

That's all for now. Again, I really wanted you to know you're not alone. I'm glad you found the group. If I can help anymore, just say the word!

Hugs ~
Colin

[Spikepork]

Hi. It’s a journey some take little time to
Decide upon and others years. There is no “norm” when considering an implant. I used Mr Ralph who is supposed to be the UK top implanted back in December 2017 after many years of ED and using all the usual options until only caverject worked but I hated the while injecting polava and pain afterwards. I was ready for the implant. Joy of joys is the result. Although don’t be fooled by the Recovery. Most find it quite a tough time. I did. But it’s worth it. Happy to talk. Pm if you wish. Good thoughts your way.

Are you still sore? If not, maybe it's time to edit your signature... if you are still sore, you should be having a conversation with your surgeon.


Done. Thanks.
Larry

[David_R]

Thanks for sharing all of that, Colin (CTR5000). I feel truly honored to know about your situation, and will keep you and your husband in my prayers.

[Latane]

Hello . Am a 57 year old gay Male in Dublin Ireland... I had a partner for 25 years and it was not an issue because I felt really good with my partner . Unfortunately he died 8 years ago as a result of radiotherapy having been tested for a stage 1 cancer . It should not have happened as a clot developed in his leg and killed him before my eyes in a couple of minutes... If anybody would like to communicate I would be very grateful . Very alone with all this here Gay or straight doesn’t matter... And the silence is the worst - as if one should never even dare bring it up... No pun intended. Many thanks for reading . Noel

Hi Noel ~

I am so very sorry for all you've gone through and are currently going through. But I'm also very glad you reached out and posted. If I were only allowed one sentence, I'd tell you, "You're not alone... I understand more than you realize." For starters, I'm also gay, and have an Irish heritage. With a name like Colin, I couldn't deny it if I tried! (And my husband is James Patrick!)

When I read your words about your former partner, they absolutely went through me. I am so, so sorry, Noel. My husband (Jim) went through Hodgkin's Lymphoma in 2008-09. As a result of one component in his first chemo infusion, his lungs were destroyed. Three years ago he ended up on a ventilator, in an induced coma for 14 days. Amazingly, they got him off the vent and out of the coma, but this "Bleomycin-induced Lung Damage" is constantly progressing. He's on oxygen 24/7 and "Quality of Life" is an oxymoron for him.

I don't need to elaborate on that anymore really. Most of the guys reading this have heard it. But I wanted you to know that "I get it" and my heart goes out to you.

On the subject of ED, I was diagnosed with venous leakage in my 30's. I've done the Viagra and Cialis route; then Caverject or Edex injections for a few years. Alternating with injection days my urologist had me using a pump and cock rings. But eventually those all stopped working for me but like you, my lack of an erection wasn't an issue between Jim and me. But he really hated seeing me missing out on that part of our sex life. When all those ran their courses of effectiveness, my urologist/surgeon pretty much said an implant would be my best option... and he was right. My AMS 700 LGX became a part of me in April of 2015.
That's all for now. Again, I really wanted you to know you're not alone. I'm glad you found the group. If I can help anymore, just say the word!

Hugs ~
Colin

HI Colin. You poor man! My heart goes out to you. ED seems unimportant when faced with such difficulty. Are you coping ok? Guess sometimes and not others. You are so kind to tell me of this. I would have given all the days of my life for my Jim if he had lived -but my JIm was larger than life and wouldn't have coped well with illness. I would. Anyway that was not to be.
Your reply gives me hope in relation to the ED. I hate pills and injections and all that stuff. Just not me. Have always been a bottom but would like my erection back. Just hate not having it. I do if I masturbate and stimulate myself lying down- but with a partner it is awful- at least for me and I cannot have an erection standing up. I have to make an effort to masturbate but am highly sexed and like to try and keep the penis healthy as i can. At least I get a kind of erection before i ejaculate. Colin thank you for your knidness and I will think of you and Jim in my thoughts and prayers. I will stay in touch if I may . Thank you so much. Noel