new member with VL seeking advise

[ringo1]

it is so great to find this forum & my great appreciation to the people behind this.
well i am 36 physical fit , i was separated from my wife for 1.5 years during which i survived on masturbation mostly prolonged being high on weed...which i am sure is the casue of VL...got divorced in dec17 Right after divorced I developed Ed suddenly panicked.. masturbated 5 times flaccid , from the first day I was pretty sure it was something physical. went to 2 uro both said it is inside my head due to divorce, prescribed 5mg cialis & muscle relaxant with some Vitim, erection came back but no spontaneous. ..all blood work ok...did a dopplor came back ok ...did npt was ok..but i still felt there is something wrong.went to a psychiatrist he gave me drugs as a reaction of which got tinnitus the constant ringing in my right ear. which has no cure(dont ever go to them for ed)....after that made the mistake of masturbation with weed ... things become worse..all erection disappeared...saw discoloration of the shaft with skin thickening....which i presume is due to internal bleeding..also now have a large bulging vein on the penile shaft which i have never seen before ..did another dopplor no erection was induced VL was diagnosed...the uro said i have no blood flow problems but cannot sustain it....panicked....got a prp shot it worked....did another prp shot .....presently can maintain erection on while laying on my back with constant manual stimulation without cialis, i think maintainable for sex...morning wood is there but not as strong...had 5 sexual encounters(one night stands) all of them were good enough
i plan on getting married soon but i think i am not worthy to perform sex every day ......now thinking of making a choice out of injection therapy.(trimex)..implant(dr eid)....stripping surgery from taiwan(dr geng hsu)...embloization ...would appreciate comments for forum member...thanks a lot

Good morning Ringo, welcome to Frank Talk. I am Larry, the websites Moderator, if there is anything I can do to make your Frank Talk experience better, just ask. Feel free to PM me whenever you like. Now, about your problem... I really do not think that smoking weed is the cause of your problem. If you truly have a venous leak then, I think you can rule weed out. I am not a big supporter of weed BUT I am also not anti-weed either. You say that you plan to get married soon but you never said anything about a girlfriend. Have you been having regular sex with a girlfriend? If so, how has that been? Are you able to get and maintain an erection during sex? Have you tried Viagra or Cialis? Have you tried taking the daily dose (5mg) of Cialis? I know you said that the drugs were prescribed but, did you use them? How many times? Have you tried injections? I never could use the injections... I found them to be far too painful... it didn't hurt getting the needle but the medication has to get injected cold and that caused me a lot of pain which in turn wrecked the mood even further than having to stop making out to inject, which I found a big mood wrecker itself. I think I read that you have been checked twice for venous leak (VL)... once said NO and the other was a positive VL... is this correct? If it were me, I would be getting an appointment with a urologist that specializes in men's sexual medicine and tell him this and ask to be checked one more time to confirm either way. If the doctor says that it was caused by the weed (I don't think so) then QUIT SMOKING IT. Was ED or drug use (abuse) the cause of your marital breakdown and eventual divorce? How often do you use drugs? Do you take anything other than weed? Do you have any other health problems? Do you take any other prescription drugs?

Larry
Frank Talk Moderator

Thanks larry you have no idea how much relief I have got from frank talk that there are people like me suffering from this goddam ED...my heart goes out to each and every one of them. My ED onset was both sudden & gradual I was separated from my wife for about 1.5 years and through this period I got into weed. So every night it was like WEED , multiple porn and smoking 10 cigarettes masturbating rigorously 20-30 mins each day..wass sill married sothough extra matrial sex is not ok.i thought i could survive on my own like this.. as my divorce proceedings were finalizing i was under tremendous stress so this porn , weed really got hooked..being sexual on weed was totally another level & i though i could survive alone on weed.. The day of my divorce I sough relief that it was finally over & i am a free man but saw that I couldn't keep an erection at all...at that time I think it was 20% physical & 80 mental due to losing a long term partner..I panicked masturbated like 6 times all together as to why it was not working..went to a the 1st URO the very next day who prescribed 5mg cialis which I took for 2 months & a muscle relaxant, i got my erections back..was on it for full 2 months but could not get a spontaneous erection or by visualization..my situation was becoming better ..insisted my uro to get a dopplor which came back just fine..so I also kind of believed its due to the divorce...then stopped Cialis after 2 month...I though I was back in the game and had one night stands but due to my mental low confidence took cialis before sex every time and it was ok ... a a though i am ok...had a NPT which was also ok...the day after my NPT ..i was really confident...so had weed and masturbated again big mistake..after this again my erection stopped I developed skin thickening and discoloration which now i am confident was due to internal bleeding and a big vein pooed on my penile shaft which was not there before...I think i had a mild leak before and i was on the path to recovery but my aggressive masturbation wrecked it all up from the inside...had a Doppler again and this time through another URO said yes he could see major leaks, oh yes and in-between i went to a physicist and the pills he gave me as a reaction i got tinnitus which is a big fucking incurable thing on its own.
no i dont have the balls anymore to be with a girl friend...my parents hooked me up with a girl for marriage & she was a virgin..its sort of like that... I met here all was ok but I called it off..how can i marry i girl who is waiting to have sex all this time to a guy like myself..... my 1st URO said that I should get another dopplor which I am getting tomorrow. i think after the Doppler my uro will put me on injections.... he feels i should resume sex on injections and slowly come back on pills..yet i dont have a stable sexual partner.. as on now I can get erections only on my back while laying down with manual stimulation even without pills.but libido very low.. the reason for my divorce well i had 2 kids with my former wife both of them had birth defects and both passed away with in a year of birth and had to be in and out of hospital a lot of times...the 2nd time specially were very hopeful but lost all hope..later on she become pregnant the 3rd time and unfortunately this time the pregnancy was outside the uterus which is a life threatening condition so her ovaries were taken out & she could not have children any more...after that had 3 years of being together..i tired my best & all of a sudden she left...i tried to get here back..she totally cut me off.. i could never live with myself leaving her after all this ....on my own so though i should give her time...but her mother & some other relative /friends always insisted she is not coming back but didnt demand any divorce ..so i gave her time too cool off for 1.5 years and later i myself under peer pressure proceeded with a the divorce .. so yeah that my story..other than this i ham financially & professionally doing well...now for sex well i go to bars & all and hookup for one night stands mainly with gold diggerz..

[ringo1]

I developed ED at age 30 after 14 years of a really wonderful sex life. It was devastating to me. I am now 62 so that was years ago. There's weren't all of the tests and treatments back then. I went to a specialist in male sexual dysfunction and he had me lay on the exam table and gave me an injection and I got a very hard erection so he said it was all in my head. He referred me to a Pschologist who could find nothing in my head to cause ED.

I went through a string of doctors and never gave up trying to find a solution. Like you, my problem was being able to get hard when on my back, but my penis would go limp if I rolled over, sat up, stood, up or just move to much. It was only a few years ago a different doctor finally had me go fr a Penile Doppler and a severe VL was determined to be the problem.

I spent years and a bench of money on injections, pills, etc. that were never effective. I wish doctors would look for the cause of the problem so they knew how to treat it versus trying everything before thinking it just might be a VL so let's do the test.

Now I have an implant and my sex life is back on track. Thankfully, my wife stuck with me all those years I had little to no erection.

Greg

Greg
Along with the doctors, our wives/partners truly are the heroes with all of this. They harness their own urges and desires to support us and for some we are talking about a long time, for me it was over 30 years (not total ED the entire time but significant penile issues). They could have just up and left and found a guy with a big dick and no ED but, no, they stay and fully support us. So, let's raise a glass and toast to them. Here, here.

Larry

well said larry...u guyz are really lucky and ur women who were with u all these years...cheers to them.....take care of them..& i hope u guyz really know what u have...

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[Larry10625]

it is so great to find this forum & my great appreciation to the people behind this.
well i am 36 physical fit , i was separated from my wife for 1.5 years during which i survived on masturbation mostly prolonged being high on weed...which i am sure is the casue of VL...got divorced in dec17 Right after divorced I developed Ed suddenly panicked.. masturbated 5 times flaccid , from the first day I was pretty sure it was something physical. went to 2 uro both said it is inside my head due to divorce, prescribed 5mg cialis & muscle relaxant with some Vitim, erection came back but no spontaneous. ..all blood work ok...did a dopplor came back ok ...did npt was ok..but i still felt there is something wrong.went to a psychiatrist he gave me drugs as a reaction of which got tinnitus the constant ringing in my right ear. which has no cure(dont ever go to them for ed)....after that made the mistake of masturbation with weed ... things become worse..all erection disappeared...saw discoloration of the shaft with skin thickening....which i presume is due to internal bleeding..also now have a large bulging vein on the penile shaft which i have never seen before ..did another dopplor no erection was induced VL was diagnosed...the uro said i have no blood flow problems but cannot sustain it....panicked....got a prp shot it worked....did another prp shot .....presently can maintain erection on while laying on my back with constant manual stimulation without cialis, i think maintainable for sex...morning wood is there but not as strong...had 5 sexual encounters(one night stands) all of them were good enough
i plan on getting married soon but i think i am not worthy to perform sex every day ......now thinking of making a choice out of injection therapy.(trimex)..implant(dr eid)....stripping surgery from taiwan(dr geng hsu)...embloization ...would appreciate comments for forum member...thanks a lot

Good morning Ringo, welcome to Frank Talk. I am Larry, the websites Moderator, if there is anything I can do to make your Frank Talk experience better, just ask. Feel free to PM me whenever you like. Now, about your problem... I really do not think that smoking weed is the cause of your problem. If you truly have a venous leak then, I think you can rule weed out. I am not a big supporter of weed BUT I am also not anti-weed either. You say that you plan to get married soon but you never said anything about a girlfriend. Have you been having regular sex with a girlfriend? If so, how has that been? Are you able to get and maintain an erection during sex? Have you tried Viagra or Cialis? Have you tried taking the daily dose (5mg) of Cialis? I know you said that the drugs were prescribed but, did you use them? How many times? Have you tried injections? I never could use the injections... I found them to be far too painful... it didn't hurt getting the needle but the medication has to get injected cold and that caused me a lot of pain which in turn wrecked the mood even further than having to stop making out to inject, which I found a big mood wrecker itself. I think I read that you have been checked twice for venous leak (VL)... once said NO and the other was a positive VL... is this correct? If it were me, I would be getting an appointment with a urologist that specializes in men's sexual medicine and tell him this and ask to be checked one more time to confirm either way. If the doctor says that it was caused by the weed (I don't think so) then QUIT SMOKING IT. Was ED or drug use (abuse) the cause of your marital breakdown and eventual divorce? How often do you use drugs? Do you take anything other than weed? Do you have any other health problems? Do you take any other prescription drugs?

Larry
Frank Talk Moderator

Thanks larry you have no idea how much relief I have got from frank talk that there are people like me suffering from this goddam ED...my heart goes out to each and every one of them. My ED onset was both sudden & gradual I was separated from my wife for about 1.5 years and through this period I got into weed. So every night it was like WEED , multiple porn and smoking 10 cigarettes masturbating rigorously 20-30 mins each day..wass sill married sothough extra matrial sex is not ok.i thought i could survive on my own like this.. as my divorce proceedings were finalizing i was under tremendous stress so this porn , weed really got hooked..being sexual on weed was totally another level & i though i could survive alone on weed.. The day of my divorce I sough relief that it was finally over & i am a free man but saw that I couldn't keep an erection at all...at that time I think it was 20% physical & 80 mental due to losing a long term partner..I panicked masturbated like 6 times all together as to why it was not working..went to a the 1st URO the very next day who prescribed 5mg cialis which I took for 2 months & a muscle relaxant, i got my erections back..was on it for full 2 months but could not get a spontaneous erection or by visualization..my situation was becoming better ..insisted my uro to get a dopplor which came back just fine..so I also kind of believed its due to the divorce...then stopped Cialis after 2 month...I though I was back in the game and had one night stands but due to my mental low confidence took cialis before sex every time and it was ok ... a a though i am ok...had a NPT which was also ok...the day after my NPT ..i was really confident...so had weed and masturbated again big mistake..after this again my erection stopped I developed skin thickening and discoloration which now i am confident was due to internal bleeding and a big vein pooed on my penile shaft which was not there before...I think i had a mild leak before and i was on the path to recovery but my aggressive masturbation wrecked it all up from the inside...had a Doppler again and this time through another URO said yes he could see major leaks, oh yes and in-between i went to a physicist and the pills he gave me as a reaction i got tinnitus which is a big fucking incurable thing on its own.
no i dont have the balls anymore to be with a girl friend...my parents hooked me up with a girl for marriage & she was a virgin..its sort of like that... I met here all was ok but I called it off..how can i marry i girl who is waiting to have sex all this time to a guy like myself..... my 1st URO said that I should get another dopplor which I am getting tomorrow. i think after the Doppler my uro will put me on injections.... he feels i should resume sex on injections and slowly come back on pills..yet i dont have a stable sexual partner.. as on now I can get erections only on my back while laying down with manual stimulation even without pills.but libido very low.. the reason for my divorce well i had 2 kids with my former wife both of them had birth defects and both passed away with in a year of birth and had to be in and out of hospital a lot of times...the 2nd time specially were very hopeful but lost all hope..later on she become pregnant the 3rd time and unfortunately this time the pregnancy was outside the uterus which is a life threatening condition so her ovaries were taken out & she could not have children any more...after that had 3 years of being together..i tired my best & all of a sudden she left...i tried to get here back..she totally cut me off.. i could never live with myself leaving her after all this ....on my own so though i should give her time...but her mother & some other relative /friends always insisted she is not coming back but didnt demand any divorce ..so i gave her time too cool off for 1.5 years and later i myself under peer pressure proceeded with a the divorce .. so yeah that my story..other than this i ham financially & professionally doing well...now for sex well i go to bars & all and hookup for one night stands mainly with gold diggerz..

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[Larry10625]

it is so great to find this forum & my great appreciation to the people behind this.
well i am 36 physical fit , i was separated from my wife for 1.5 years during which i survived on masturbation mostly prolonged being high on weed...which i am sure is the casue of VL...got divorced in dec17 Right after divorced I developed Ed suddenly panicked.. masturbated 5 times flaccid , from the first day I was pretty sure it was something physical. went to 2 uro both said it is inside my head due to divorce, prescribed 5mg cialis & muscle relaxant with some Vitim, erection came back but no spontaneous. ..all blood work ok...did a dopplor came back ok ...did npt was ok..but i still felt there is something wrong.went to a psychiatrist he gave me drugs as a reaction of which got tinnitus the constant ringing in my right ear. which has no cure(dont ever go to them for ed)....after that made the mistake of masturbation with weed ... things become worse..all erection disappeared...saw discoloration of the shaft with skin thickening....which i presume is due to internal bleeding..also now have a large bulging vein on the penile shaft which i have never seen before ..did another dopplor no erection was induced VL was diagnosed...the uro said i have no blood flow problems but cannot sustain it....panicked....got a prp shot it worked....did another prp shot .....presently can maintain erection on while laying on my back with constant manual stimulation without cialis, i think maintainable for sex...morning wood is there but not as strong...had 5 sexual encounters(one night stands) all of them were good enough
i plan on getting married soon but i think i am not worthy to perform sex every day ......now thinking of making a choice out of injection therapy.(trimex)..implant(dr eid)....stripping surgery from taiwan(dr geng hsu)...embloization ...would appreciate comments for forum member...thanks a lot

Good morning Ringo, welcome to Frank Talk. I am Larry, the websites Moderator, if there is anything I can do to make your Frank Talk experience better, just ask. Feel free to PM me whenever you like. Now, about your problem... I really do not think that smoking weed is the cause of your problem. If you truly have a venous leak then, I think you can rule weed out. I am not a big supporter of weed BUT I am also not anti-weed either. You say that you plan to get married soon but you never said anything about a girlfriend. Have you been having regular sex with a girlfriend? If so, how has that been? Are you able to get and maintain an erection during sex? Have you tried Viagra or Cialis? Have you tried taking the daily dose (5mg) of Cialis? I know you said that the drugs were prescribed but, did you use them? How many times? Have you tried injections? I never could use the injections... I found them to be far too painful... it didn't hurt getting the needle but the medication has to get injected cold and that caused me a lot of pain which in turn wrecked the mood even further than having to stop making out to inject, which I found a big mood wrecker itself. I think I read that you have been checked twice for venous leak (VL)... once said NO and the other was a positive VL... is this correct? If it were me, I would be getting an appointment with a urologist that specializes in men's sexual medicine and tell him this and ask to be checked one more time to confirm either way. If the doctor says that it was caused by the weed (I don't think so) then QUIT SMOKING IT. Was ED or drug use (abuse) the cause of your marital breakdown and eventual divorce? How often do you use drugs? Do you take anything other than weed? Do you have any other health problems? Do you take any other prescription drugs?

Larry
Frank Talk Moderator

Thanks larry you have no idea how much relief I have got from frank talk that there are people like me suffering from this goddam ED...my heart goes out to each and every one of them. My ED onset was both sudden & gradual I was separated from my wife for about 1.5 years and through this period I got into weed. So every night it was like WEED , multiple porn and smoking 10 cigarettes masturbating rigorously 20-30 mins each day..wass sill married sothough extra matrial sex is not ok.i thought i could survive on my own like this.. as my divorce proceedings were finalizing i was under tremendous stress so this porn , weed really got hooked..being sexual on weed was totally another level & i though i could survive alone on weed.. The day of my divorce I sough relief that it was finally over & i am a free man but saw that I couldn't keep an erection at all...at that time I think it was 20% physical & 80 mental due to losing a long term partner..I panicked masturbated like 6 times all together as to why it was not working..went to a the 1st URO the very next day who prescribed 5mg cialis which I took for 2 months & a muscle relaxant, i got my erections back..was on it for full 2 months but could not get a spontaneous erection or by visualization..my situation was becoming better ..insisted my uro to get a dopplor which came back just fine..so I also kind of believed its due to the divorce...then stopped Cialis after 2 month...I though I was back in the game and had one night stands but due to my mental low confidence took cialis before sex every time and it was ok ... a a though i am ok...had a NPT which was also ok...the day after my NPT ..i was really confident...so had weed and masturbated again big mistake..after this again my erection stopped I developed skin thickening and discoloration which now i am confident was due to internal bleeding and a big vein pooed on my penile shaft which was not there before...I think i had a mild leak before and i was on the path to recovery but my aggressive masturbation wrecked it all up from the inside...had a Doppler again and this time through another URO said yes he could see major leaks, oh yes and in-between i went to a physicist and the pills he gave me as a reaction i got tinnitus which is a big fucking incurable thing on its own.
no i dont have the balls anymore to be with a girl friend...my parents hooked me up with a girl for marriage & she was a virgin..its sort of like that... I met here all was ok but I called it off..how can i marry i girl who is waiting to have sex all this time to a guy like myself..... my 1st URO said that I should get another dopplor which I am getting tomorrow. i think after the Doppler my uro will put me on injections.... he feels i should resume sex on injections and slowly come back on pills..yet i dont have a stable sexual partner.. as on now I can get erections only on my back while laying down with manual stimulation even without pills.but libido very low.. the reason for my divorce well i had 2 kids with my former wife both of them had birth defects and both passed away with in a year of birth and had to be in and out of hospital a lot of times...the 2nd time specially were very hopeful but lost all hope..later on she become pregnant the 3rd time and unfortunately this time the pregnancy was outside the uterus which is a life threatening condition so her ovaries were taken out & she could not have children any more...after that had 3 years of being together..i tired my best & all of a sudden she left...i tried to get here back..she totally cut me off.. i could never live with myself leaving her after all this ....on my own so though i should give her time...but her mother & some other relative /friends always insisted she is not coming back but didnt demand any divorce ..so i gave her time too cool off for 1.5 years and later i myself under peer pressure proceeded with a the divorce .. so yeah that my story..other than this i ham financially & professionally doing well...now for sex well i go to bars & all and hookup for one night stands mainly with gold diggerz..

Ringo;
So, are you saying that the reason your first marriage failed is because of you children dying? BTW, I am very sorry for your loss, I don't think I could handle that. If you can't get your ex-wife back (if you even want her), I think you should try again with the one your parents set you up with. ED is NOT YOUR FAULY and you can't allow it to make you spend the rest of your life alone, fucking your fist. If you find a girl that you really like, the physical stuff can be worked out. I used, and still use, sex toys... one in particular drives my wife crazy and she has multiple orgasms every time I use it on her, so now it's part of regular sex. (it's called the Air Touch II (https://www.morethansextoys.com/product ... n-vibrator). Through no fault of your own, you are in a war against a very devastating enemy - ED... you cannot let it win. I sent you a PM about your signature.

Larry