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[Donkeykong]

Thanks for the advice guys.

I've been shutting down for a few years. I had a very prolific sex life until the pandemic but in the last four years I haven't had a single date, and seldom hooked up. I stopped socializing with friends or traveling, at first because everything reminded me of my impotence, but now I've stopped wanting to do these things for the most part. I am trying to work up the courage to quit my job too.

I'm not depressed. I still have some days or weeks where I do care about fixing the problem. But mostly I don't care enough for surgery. I'd rather sleep.

Doneykong, I can't imagine what you're going through, but I want to encourage you to keep taking the steps to get your sex life back.
You've had to deal with this a long time, I only had to deal with total ED for around 3 months after a prostrate procedure that left me with a limp dick, until I got my implant and that was tough because I was using a VED to keep my dick stretched. I did try to have sex during that time using the VED with compression rings but it didn't work and it was depressing and that was only 3 months.

I read some of your story, hopefully you can get past your fear of surgery

Keep hanging in there, and keep taking baby steps to get there

We're here for you

SWorks

Thanks Sworks.

[fucked0ne]

Thanks for the advice guys.

I've been shutting down for a few years. I had a very prolific sex life until the pandemic but in the last four years I haven't had a single date, and seldom hooked up. I stopped socializing with friends or traveling, at first because everything reminded me of my impotence, but now I've stopped wanting to do these things for the most part. I am trying to work up the courage to quit my job too.

I'm not depressed. I still have some days or weeks where I do care about fixing the problem. But mostly I don't care enough for surgery. I'd rather sleep.

Have you had your hormones checked?

[Gt1956]

Thanks for the advice guys.
I've been shutting down for a few years. I had a very prolific sex life until the pandemic but in the last four years I haven't had a single date, and seldom hooked up. I stopped socializing with friends or traveling, at first because everything reminded me of my impotence, but now I've stopped wanting to do these things for the most part. I am trying to work up the courage to quit my job too.
I'm not depressed. I still have some days or weeks where I do care about fixing the problem. But mostly I don't care enough for surgery. I'd rather sleep.

Have you had your hormones checked?

That was my first guess. The signs of low T are not obvious. I take T. I didn't like the IM shot. I learned about fat injections. The T effects are shorter in fat. But with some skill I can use an insulin needle 2-3 times a week. So much better in my opinion.

[duke_cicero]

Thanks for the advice guys.
I've been shutting down for a few years. I had a very prolific sex life until the pandemic but in the last four years I haven't had a single date, and seldom hooked up. I stopped socializing with friends or traveling, at first because everything reminded me of my impotence, but now I've stopped wanting to do these things for the most part. I am trying to work up the courage to quit my job too.
I'm not depressed. I still have some days or weeks where I do care about fixing the problem. But mostly I don't care enough for surgery. I'd rather sleep.

Have you had your hormones checked?

That was my first guess. The signs of low T are not obvious. I take T. I didn't like the IM shot. I learned about fat injections. The T effects are shorter in fat. But with some skill I can use an insulin needle 2-3 times a week. So much better in my opinion.

I think it's actually the opposite, clinically -- subcutaneous (fat) injections spread out the effects of exogenous testosterone more slowly and evenly than intramuscular injections.

[fucked0ne]

That was my first guess. The signs of low T are not obvious.

I respectfully disagree. Fatigue (always wanting to sleep), lack of sexual interest, anxiety and depression, even his erectile dysfunction, are all potential hallmarks of low T.

Maybe he doesn't, but he should still get a panel done. There's literally zero harm in that.

[ready2go]

I have cancelled implant surgery before because of the following and I'm trying to figure out how to overcome it.

Have you ever had a hookup where as soon as you nut, your personality changes completely and all you can think is "how can I get out of this situation?"

This is kind of what happens to me with surgery. While I'm in a horny period and thinking with my dick I convince myself that surgery is the right decision. But then as it comes up I suddenly flash into survival mode and I become this different person to whom never having sex again seems like a minor price to pay to just stay out of the hospital. This shift in perception is so drastic I'm actually starting to wonder if I have a kind of split personality disorder. Is this normal?

Because of these kind of panics I've gotten up and walked out of a hospital more than once. Not for implant but for other procedures.

for me , getting a malleable was not a hard recovery , the operation was a breeze and also the recovery was almost painless ,besides the sensitive glans.
i cant comment on ipp's , some have had several hard months of recovery . others not so much ,from what i have read .
for me ,the hard part was putting physical activities on hold for one month .

[Donkeykong]

Thank you guys. I've been on TRT for 10 years so it's not that.

[equusAz]

The fact that you are wanting to sleep is a big indicator that this is depression. Remember - depression can feel like many other things THAN depression. Mostly its avoidance of situations - easiest is sleep. Depression can be a trap that feeds on itself too - which would make you want to NOT seek the treatment because then nothing changes i.e. gets worse. Thats another sign - not wanting to change things because it COULD get worse.

I wish there was something I could do - but I think the biggest would be for you to talk to a professional to get the help you need to dig yourself out of this. Its not going to be easy - trust me - I know - I was there after a very MESSY divorce - and it took time to dig myself out - but you can and will. It just takes effort and time.

Best of luck to you!!!