Postby mikestap » Fri Dec 20, 2019 4:21 am
Geez, guys. I have seen threads like this here on FrankTalk and other places for years, I guess. I would have to agree with Lost that couples in these circumstances could benefit from counseling...
In our case, we both enjoy the physical closeness surrounding sex... lying in bed together, holding each other, the kisses and touches, the whispers. It contributes to the closeness of our relationship. I am the one with the higher libido.
My wife knows how much I enjoy intercourse. I would think at worst case, she would respond to my needs if only because she loves me and wants to make me happy in life and in exclusive relationship with her. Nowadays, sometimes she initiates, most times I do. At a few years younger than me, she is still always very well and naturally lubricated when I enter her. She is multi-orgasmic.. She loves when I go down on her and I know how to drive her wild. I am very lucky to be hers.
It seems to me that it's just selfish for a woman to withhold sex knowing her husband wants it. Afterall, its only a portion out of her day. It does not take a long time. Left unsatisfied, sexual desire is not dissimilar to thirst or hunger; can grow to be omnipresent, consume us husbands and lead to resentment and the deterioration of the relationship. Sex and its impulses are designed by our Creator for us. That includes the contribution it makes to the relationship.
Both my wife and I believe these points to be true. When we decided on the implant, my wife came along to all the appointments and took care of me as I convalesced. We enjoy the spontaneity of the implant the most. I wish our good fortune for all my brothers here, if you also want it.