My advice is to not get an implant

[Stevie Reno]

Thank you for all your replies

Many of you do seem satisfied with your decision and I am glad for you

I myself was not that the type of person who should have gotten an implant. I did it for the wrong reasons...mainly loneliness and wanting to date again at 50. I didn't want to be a disappointment or face rejection for having developed ED. I'm sure many of you can relate

Mark,

Thanks for your detailed response. It’s definitely should be seen by all who are considering an implant.

I’m in the very satisfied crowd at this point - just about 6 months in - but I don’t think I can have an honest assessment until about a year. I’m generally pain free at all times and have adjusted to the size of my package. I will sometimes have some discomfort when I sit in my recliner for an extended period but I can just move it to find a comfortable position. When I first began having sex I experienced the loss of sensation that seems to be common…delayed orgasm wasn’t too bad (my wife didn’t like going longer but it did my ego some good) but for the first two months or so I couldn’t tell when I was about to cum. So my orgasms weren’t as strong as before the implant. But that has faded now and I can feel it building and hold it back to maximum the explosion. And the delayed orgasms have also faded. That would bother me if I were younger and had a partner who thrived on intercourse but my wife rarely even achieved an orgasm via intercourse - maybe three time in 20+ years and never before we met. She has always needed to be brought to orgasm before intercourse so we spend 20-30 minutes of intimacy working up to her orgasm. It works for us and I really enjoy being able to penetrate and finish inside or her.


If I could offer some encouragement I would suggest two things:
First, don’t undo or redo the implant for at least 6 months to a year. Physiologically you’re still adjusting so let it get completely “healed” before making any changes.
Second, your issues seem to be driven more by emotional isolation and loneliness which you have linked (almost exclusively) to ED. I strongly encourage you to get a counselor - not to talk about ED but to confront the issue of loneliness and isolation. I’ve used professional counseling before and a good counselor can help you see for yourself the things you sometimes just can’t see by yourself.

Good Luck and hang in there!

Steve

[Mark1974]

Wow a lot of anger here

This is what you posted to BobDobbs you twat.
“ These devices are a prison”
BD is struggling to overcome a difficulty that sounds to be much more severe that your little stubbie “issue”, and what do you do but again vomit out your negativity. He’s seeking guidance and support not shitting in his and everyone else’s cornflakes.
You are an asshole from head to your freakin toes, and that includes your tiny todger too. Fuck you and the pink pony you likely ride you bitch!
You are poison.

I don't see how my pink pony is relevant to my aversion to my implant

[Mark1974]

Thank you for all your replies

Many of you do seem satisfied with your decision and I am glad for you

I myself was not that the type of person who should have gotten an implant. I did it for the wrong reasons...mainly loneliness and wanting to date again at 50. I didn't want to be a disappointment or face rejection for having developed ED. I'm sure many of you can relate

Mark,

Thanks for your detailed response. It’s definitely should be seen by all who are considering an implant.

I’m in the very satisfied crowd at this point - just about 6 months in - but I don’t think I can have an honest assessment until about a year. I’m generally pain free at all times and have adjusted to the size of my package. I will sometimes have some discomfort when I sit in my recliner for an extended period but I can just move it to find a comfortable position. When I first began having sex I experienced the loss of sensation that seems to be common…delayed orgasm wasn’t too bad (my wife didn’t like going longer but it did my ego some good) but for the first two months or so I couldn’t tell when I was about to cum. So my orgasms weren’t as strong as before the implant. But that has faded now and I can feel it building and hold it back to maximum the explosion. And the delayed orgasms have also faded. That would bother me if I were younger and had a partner who thrived on intercourse but my wife rarely even achieved an orgasm via intercourse - maybe three time in 20+ years and never before we met. She has always needed to be brought to orgasm before intercourse so we spend 20-30 minutes of intimacy working up to her orgasm. It works for us and I really enjoy being able to penetrate and finish inside or her.


If I could offer some encouragement I would suggest two things:
First, don’t undo or redo the implant for at least 6 months to a year. Physiologically you’re still adjusting so let it get completely “healed” before making any changes.
Second, your issues seem to be driven more by emotional isolation and loneliness which you have linked (almost exclusively) to ED. I strongly encourage you to get a counselor - not to talk about ED but to confront the issue of loneliness and isolation. I’ve used professional counseling before and a good counselor can help you see for yourself the things you sometimes just can’t see by yourself.

Good Luck and hang in there!

Steve

Thanks for the thoughtful response.

After being implanted I realized there other things more precious to me like natural erogenous sensations, aesthetics, nerve sensitivity...I became so fixated on losing the hardness of the shaft it blinded me to the complexity of our reproductive systems and the sacrifice I was making by jamming crude rods into my penis

I mean, look at the situation objectively and not just through the lens of shame that ED brings on men. We've destroyed much of what was left of natural arousal to mechanically lift up our penises. It is no small trade off

[Jgoody]

Man I hate to hear that it's so hard for you & it's understandable in your current position to regret it. I consider myself lucky to have a good outcome I'm satisfied with, especially reading of some people's bad experiences. It is a risk that is taken by all of us who elect to get implanted so it seems fair that some aren't happy & should have a space to vent/let others get informed of these risks too.
I can also imagine a mpp is harder to get used to than an ipp. Even with an inflatable mine is over 7" hanging down flaccid (bone pressed) so it's definitely taken some getting used to having this thing in the way now. When inflated it's gotten to be a little over 7.5" so requires adjustments here & there & to the touch, doesn't feel natural while flaccid.

I understand others frustrations with the negativity too & I'm not a fan of whining either (not saying you are & can't say I wouldn't be nuking the planet if I fucked up my penis) but honestly I feel for you cuz it would suck to feel like you destroyed your manhood. I do hope you get in a better space man & there's definitely more to life than sex or our dicks.
My advice would be trying the inflatable if u can tho as I feel like you don't have much to lose in your position. My experience has been good & I attribute that to being positive & trusting the process so if you can try to change your outlook you may be surprised with the outcome. Nothing against mpps at all but I feel like some of your biggest issues you're having could be drastically improved with an inflatable & it just being flaccid.
Wish all you guys the best & hope to hear that you guys who are suffering get in a better place

[LastHope]

Don't any of you guys miss when you squeeze your glans and feel the blood in your corpus cavernosa?

To me, that old dick isn’t worth remembering. Sure, it brought some pleasure with hand play. What's the point anyways? It couldn't penetrate a pussy. It left a permanent scar in my marital relationship. It would go soft right in the middle of a cowgirl session. It only brought heart aches and tears. Anyways, do what brings you happiness, Mark! Don't rush into complete emptying of cavernosal space, as fibrosis can also destroy the capsule and can be irreversible. After you get your IPP, please give atleast 1 year for healing, before you come to any conclusion. Don't expect miracles in 3 weeks.

Quoting Dr. Wilson:
"Never rush a revision. Tincture of time may put a poultice on the patient’s frustration and gives time for the capsule to form which can be used in the repair".

[ready2go]

[quote

Mark,
i realized there other things more precious to me like natural erogenous sensations, aesthetics, nerve sensitivity...I became so fixated on losing the hardness of the shaft

yeah tell that to a woman that wants a good pounding , that will get her all hot and wet HAHA.

[duke_cicero]

Don't any of you guys miss when you squeeze your glans and feel the blood in your corpus cavernosa?

To me, that old dick isn’t worth remembering. Sure, it brought some pleasure with hand play. What's the point anyways? It couldn't penetrate a pussy. It left a permanent scar in my marital relationship. It would go soft right in the middle of a cowgirl session. It only brought heart aches and tears. Anyways, do what brings you happiness, Mark! Don't rush into complete emptying of cavernosal space, as fibrosis can also destroy the capsule and can be irreversible. After you get your IPP, please give atleast 1 year for healing, before you come to any conclusion. Don't expect miracles in 3 weeks.

Quoting Dr. Wilson:
"Never rush a revision. Tincture of time may put a poultice on the patient’s frustration and gives time for the capsule to form which can be used in the repair".

Dr. Wilson's quotation strikes me as full of wisdom. I know that Mark is very upset, but who knows what good might await on the other end of another 3-6 months of healing? For my part, little things are still changing and improving for me at roughly 7 months, and in ways I could not anticipate. Moving aggressively to IPP implantation may not resolve what ails Mark, and I'm even less confident that outright explantation will do anything but entomb an organ that's still very much alive.

[Time2Change]

When I was at your stage of recovery was the time I also questioned my choice to get an implant.

I was given the go ahead for sexual activity--jerking off, blowjobs, fucking--at eight weeks. Between that point and roughly 16 weeks, I experienced numbness, discomfort, pain, and inability to orgasm. And I remember being pretty despondent, thinking I can be hard, but there's no pleasure. This sucks.

But my body continued to heal and adjust to the implant. And all those problems faded away.

As others have said, I encourage you to give yourself time to heal.

[easymoney]

took me 6 to 7 months in order to be able to climax. .. but I had 3 surgeries in 12 months on my penis ..2 complete implants and an exploratory surgery .. that's a lot of cutting through nerves .. now that I have had the last implant a year it's gotten a bit better ..I think we all heal and recover at different rates .. and our expectations based both on each person and what their dr's have sold them will be different ..

[Jgoody]

Don't any of you guys miss when you squeeze your glans and feel the blood in your corpus cavernosa?

To me, that old dick isn’t worth remembering. Sure, it brought some pleasure with hand play. What's the point anyways? It couldn't penetrate a pussy. It left a permanent scar in my marital relationship. It would go soft right in the middle of a cowgirl session. It only brought heart aches and tears. Anyways, do what brings you happiness, Mark! Don't rush into complete emptying of cavernosal space, as fibrosis can also destroy the capsule and can be irreversible. After you get your IPP, please give atleast 1 year for healing, before you come to any conclusion. Don't expect miracles in 3 weeks.

Quoting Dr. Wilson:
"Never rush a revision. Tincture of time may put a poultice on the patient’s frustration and gives time for the capsule to form which can be used in the repair".

Dr. Wilson's quotation strikes me as full of wisdom. I know that Mark is very upset, but who knows what good might await on the other end of another 3-6 months of healing? For my part, little things are still changing and improving for me at roughly 7 months, and in ways I could not anticipate. Moving aggressively to IPP implantation may not resolve what ails Mark, and I'm even less confident that outright explantation will do anything but entomb an organ that's still very much alive.

Solid advice. Hopefully that ends up being the plan. I only suggested the ipp over explant, which I think explanting would be regretted but an ipp possibly could help some of his perceived current issues- idk tho. But it's so early & I know being 1 year into my own recovery now that a lot changes from 3-12 months.
For example, my sensitivity & ability to orgasm at 6-7(ish) months has improved so much. It's now easier than it ever was for me to orgasm than when I was taking pills & injecting (so since my 20s). Also has softened up flaccid to where I hardly notice it anymore, minus having a bulge in certain clothing, which honestly isn't bad. It just looks like I'm hung lol & have gotten compliments even from chicks. There are many things that improved with time so I ideally he gives it more time & gets his head in a better place over it.