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[Growinjim]

I originally posted this on the welcome page but then thought this page on anorgasmia might be more proper. I welcome any comments.

I've visited this site from time to time and have found it interesting and helpful. I'm 77 and have generally had a good sexual life - until a few years ago when I developed ED. My doctor suggested Viagra or Cialis which worked for a while. Now I'm using Trimix, typically with success. Over the past 2-3 months, though, I've had more and more occurances of delayed ejaculation within the vagina. My helpful wife has been providing stimulation whic gives me release. one possible cause I suppose is I like it so much my brain is holding off orgasm during intercourse waiting for the alternative. Another possibility, which I just saw two days ago on this very site, is the possibility of using too MUCH Trimix. I had never heard of this, but have been creeping up in volume. Being a scientist (ok, a bit of a nerd too), I record on paper instances of sex; frequency, amount Trimix, and success (both me and her). The anorgasmia seems to have a rough correlation with increased Trimix - but I would have never thought of it until I read it here on Frank Talk. I hope I haven't gone on too long or in too much detail as a newbie. Mostly I hope I can get back to having a "choice". Thanks so much for this forum.

[bldoink]

I originally posted this on the welcome page but then thought this page on anorgasmia might be more proper.

Growinjim,

Welcome to the forum. No you didn't go on to long or get too detailed. Your observations seem valid.

[Stew52]

Welcome. Sorry for "our" affliction. There are several long threads in this DE folder that detail LOTS of potential causes, or contributing causes, for DE. While there are lots of details it seems it boils down to 4 main causes: aging dulled nerves, use of TriMix/PGE especially too much, various DE-causing drugs or chemicals, or overuse (dulled nerves/sensation).

[Martin6469]

Growinjim: I think you're right about your wife helping you. My wife used to masturbate me when I had a failure, but she's such an expert that I started to get spoiled. So now I decline her help.

I used to think that waiting longer than our usual 7 days would help me, but it didn't seem to work out that way, and then another FT guy said "we use it or lose it;" I think that's right in my case, and now we stick with a 6-8 day interval. (I get some vicarious satisfaction from helping my wife masturbate every other day with a bigger-than-me dildo, and she's very happy.)