Implant and self confidence

[Rufian]

The problem for many of us that have or had issues, whether this is due to porn addiction, performance anxiety, mental health, depression, trauma, and plain getting older is that it brings your confidence down and may make you stay away from relationships, being with women, etc. I know I have anxiety about it and not being able to fulfill my role in the bedroom in a relationship. Most women may be understanding in the beginning, but since they have so many options nowadays, you're easily replaced, which again only brings you down even more.

An inflatable implant works great when it does, but you'll always have that fear in the back of your mind that it may fail sooner than later.

The ideal implant is the malleable, not only because it can last you almost your whole lifetime, but is ready to go at any moment, is very unlikely to fail.

Especially for people who have performance anxiety, mental health issues combined with getting older, etc, the implant may be exactly what you need to finally have an active sex life and confidence, even cockiness.

It'd be one less thing to worry about. If you had issues in the past whether is mental, emotional, physical, many times is a combination of many factors, you'll always have that doubt in the back of your mind if is going to work next time.

Just like natural testosterone, there are lots of outside factors that can ruin your erection too, anxiety, booze, bad mood, bunk pills, not enough sleep the day before, caffeine, other medication, etc

Is it going to do its job if I get into a relationship where sex is more often done? Even though I believe the few issues I had where mainly caused by porn desensitization, performance anxiety, depression, etc.

I'm hesitant to get into a relationship out of fear of not fulfilling my role, which very likely won't happen, it would be a lot of pressure for you, if you had issues before with casual partners, it may be even worse with someone you actually care about and want to be a relationship with, maybe someone you want to spend the rest of your life with

For example, I'm an autistic person, even though I'm very high functioning, I work, live alone, etc but because of this condition, I'm highly predisposed to stress, anxiety, depression, etc.

I see a therapist for about a year, it helps but is not a miracle, is not going to change my predisposition. I'm always worrying about stuff and I can't help it. I'm wired that way. I can't take antidepressant, of course, they give you ED

I think the implant for me would take a huge weight off my shoulder, i would no longer be worried, it would just work, one less worry in life.

I'm no ready for that yet, as I'm only 38 and viagra still works to an extent, though my issue may be in part, porn desensitization which I'm trying to quit, is not going to change my predisposition to anxiety, my negative self talk, all the trauma and negative experiences I had since I was a kid due to being autistic and different, etc. Not to mention, the fact that I haven't been in a relationship in decades.

I've gone on a few dates, had a couple of flings that didn't go well, but for the most part I've been out of the game for a long time and I was never in the game to begin with, mostly cause of my fears, I had many opportunities I lost due to self doubt and fears, being the erection thing one of them.

I'm good looking, I always get some ladies giving looks now and then, sometimes I ask for numbers, but there is always that fear in the back of your mind, will I be able to deliver?

I would fantasize I wish I had powers to be able to get erected by just snapping my fingers lol wouldn't that be awesome? and then go flaccid snapping them again

[Martin6469]

Sounds like you might benefit from a sex surrogate, to get you "back in the saddle." Masters and Johnson, who created this idea, decided that individual therapy didn't help much with male sex anxiety, and there's a world of difference between solo talk therapy and getting into bed with a naked woman for an hour who is devoted to helping you. So you might ask your therapist for a surrogate referral. It's expensive, $3000-5000, but it's probably cheaper than an implant. See my post "Sex Surrogates" in Emotional and Mental Support, 8-22-22.

At my age I have erection problems, but I'm reluctant to do something irreversible.

I can steer you to the Masters and Johnson literature if you wish.