Should I give up?

[leftout]

Has anyone tried living asexual? I have tried testosterone injections, pills and the pump nothing works. The only reference I have gotten for a uro led to a Dr who doesn’t believe in injections. With all of my other issues now my wife doesn’t want anything to do with sex. If the opportunity arises she just wants it over. No foreplay nothing just get it done and get away. I’m tired of torturing myself and am thinking of getting off of the T shots and killing the drive so it won’t matter anymore. So has anyone had any success with this method?

[Peckerwood]

Many of us have been where you are mentally and emotionally. Testosterone level is important for a man's physical, mental, and emotional health. If you are feeling frustrated now, without a normal testosterone level, you will likely become depressed, physically unfit, and depressed. Don't give up until you have tried other means of getting an erection. Many of us have found injections to be an answer to maintaining an erection. Read the posts on this topic, and if your urologist isn't open to this idea, find another one. I'm in my seventies, and I can't imagine giving up on my sex life. There are many options that you haven't tried.

Best wishes for continued vitality and a rich life.

John

[Peckerwood]

One more thing: change your screen name to something positive. If you continue to use a negative reference to yourself, you may find that it takes over your view of yourself. Think of your most positive attribute and make it your moniker.

John

[leftout]

Thank you for the advice. I will try to come up with something new.

[antelope]

My response to your question? NEVER! There is a solution out there that will work for you. Don't give up. During my search for a solution, my mantra was "This is not acceptable." Fortunately, I had a supportive medical team that listened and I didn't have to go shoppoing for new docs.

Best wishes for hard times,

Greg

[radiodec]

Never! You can find a solutions even if it leads to an implant! That is where I am now, waiting on the surgery to finish healing -- only three more weeks.

Look at the sex thing from your wife's point of view, she has probably been psychologicaalh insulted by your body's lack of response to her. It may take some work to warm her up to sex again. Time to start a subtle dating campaign, win her again.

Takes work but it will happen.

Radiodec

[rschweiger]

Leftout, never give up brother, we here know its tough, I was 37/ 38 when I started having problems,once pills stopped working I. Found implants, researched them andjumped in both feet....there is a solution, we understand the mental battle,the look of disappointment in my womans eyes I cldnt take anymore,the never wanting to start anything we can't finish,just try to reassure her of your love and bbattraction.remember when it doesn't work they take it personal its so hard on everybody....I. had my implant 4 mo. ago @ age 41, and if nothing else it gets hard.and now the only talk I need to have is, I'm air ride equipped and I don't need to hve the I can't function talk anymore........but please don't give up,I know its hard to be positive,I felt like my world was ending too. If you need to talk I could give you my email,maybe my lady friend could even talk to your wife if u think it would help?
Hang in there,Rich.

[leftout]

Well I didn’t give up and found a new Dr. who thinks I’m a good candidate for Trimix. The appointment is tomorrow to get started and now I’m excited to have some hope again. I also talked to the wife about the other issues and Radiodec hit the nail on the head. She thought I didn’t find her sexually attractive anymore and that was causing my problems. I assured her that was the farthest thing from the truth and now that she understands what is going on she’s on board and ready for me to try the injections. Thank you all for the support and advice. It is really great to be able to hear from people who have been through all of this before. Also how do you change your user name?

[Peckerwood]

To change your user name, ask Paul to changeit for you.

John

[radiodec]

Great to hear that things have improved! More than pleased to have helped. Got lucky here and jumped the uro's OK and used the implant, that was fun and is becming more fun.

I surely hope you have as long or longer a good run with the trimix as I did with caverject/edex. It took 10 years before they quit. There is hope after that, too.

Enjoy yourself, and many hard times.

Dave