Could my ED kill a future for a new girlfriend?

[Johnboy55]

What future does a guy have with this problem finding a date on a dating site or in public? I would think most women want sex in a relationship.

[tomas1]

John, I guess the answer is yes or no.
Maybe it shouldn't be brought up on the first date?
I'd think the total absence of sex would be a deal breaker for some and not for others.
I would hope that treatable ED wouldn't be a deal breaker.

[Andy425]

What future does a guy have with this problem finding a date on a dating site or in public? I would think most women want sex in a relationship.

"Regular" ED? I don't know.

I have ED from prostate cancer surgery, along with occasional urine leakage problems. I've avoided women since 2012 because of it. I miss them, but life sure is a lot simpler!

[Jamesbond]

I am pushing 50
I am single
I only meet 3 types of women
Type 1 that want only sex.
They are divorced and want what they did not get at home. I had 1 woman at a BBQ tell me her husband was an inch worm.
She put her fingers together to show how small he was. He also said that sex was quicker than a commercial even when he was on bonner pills. He would be sitting on other side of her. She told me stuff like that multiple times. He overheard her.
They are now divorced. I wanted her BADLY.
Type 2 wanted me to put a large down payment on a hose in cash for her. Lease her an Acura
Best was she wanted me to set up 2 collage funds for her daughters.
She was such a ska$nk.
She told me that she would take good care of me. So she started a fight with the young waitress.
Waiters overheard her. Even waitres was laughing at her. I felt bad left big tip.
As we where walking out She went to bathroom. I apologized to waitres, she felt sorry I got stuck with her on a blind date.
Leave it to say I never called her back. She called me back a few days later to offer me a cheaper deal.
Type 3, they want to cheat on hubby because he has an inch worm in his pants.

I have been like this for about 20 years. I miss women. I had a gf that used to use this hair conditioner. Smelled incredible.
Not flowery, just good.I miss waking up with someone.
I have most of my hair and am in decent shape. Look decent. Old guy next door pushing 65 Bald, fat, most of teeth gone.
Smells because I think he does not take a bath. Drives piece of garbage. Divorced and treats women like garbage.
He never has any money. He is dating about a 35 year old. Good looking, slim wears high heels often. Has legs and ass for it. She pays for him if they go to dinner.
She brings him groceries cleans his apartment.
She is not a gold digger. He can not afford it. Personality, he is a rude jerk.
Don't ask me why she is with him. Something must be wrong with her.

I NEVER sponged of a woman. I am not going to start now. How he does it I don't want to know.

At my age that is what type of women I am coming across
Think I am 2 old for kids or marriage.
Only might go bionic because I miss women.
On the other hand. I don't feel like paying for her ex's kids collage fund.
I dont want to share someone's wife. Scratch her itch so she can go home and take care of her hubby.

Think of going bionic. 2 reasons why I gave not is my size what I would be left with after surgery and what type of women are out thier
Not every woman is like that.
On this site you see some women that are committed to staying with thier mate. Not often.

Friend of mine, he a few years older than me. He has good job. He meet a younger woman also a good job. She does not want his money. They had a kid a few years ago. They are very happy.

I would hang in thier anyway. You might get lucky.
I have been waiting for shock wave therapy to get FDA approval in the US.
Maybe better than implant or I can get some of my old size back at least.
Thier is always hope

[Anonymous2]

What future does a guy have with this problem finding a date on a dating site or in public? I would think most women want sex in a relationship.

Hi JB, Why not tell us your problem and see if we can help you over it, but pleasing a women does not have to be full sexual intercourse you have a tongue for some good oral sex that will go all the way to orgasms, there are some really good sex toys.

But first find a good women that after the first date may like to get to first base with you, if so that's the time to bring up you little problem, but do tell her you have the thing covered, if she is a really good women she may just like to see what you can do, and she just may like what you can do without an erection, but if you can say get soft erections just get yourself a good cock ring these do work I have a hardwear ice its really good and works well, or you can pump and put on a ring to hold the blood in.

So just some ideas, do you think you could work that way.

Good Luck

NOWHARD

[David1961]

It would be nice to get a woman's take on this. At what point should you tell her?

[Johnboy55]

I can still get it hard some what when I watch x-rate movies or see pictures on the internet. I will try all the pills and the pump before getting a implant. This ED might just be in my mind because it just stopped one day. I moved out of my girlfriends house into a travel trailer which caused me alot of stress. Looking for work at 55 years old is another high stress problem I'm having. This might be caused by stress along? I will try to find a woman at church and I do know a woman that is 65 years old that has no interest in sex at all. She is from the old school that thinks sex is for having children and that's it.

Thanks everyone for the help, John

[newtoed]

Come on guys, we need a different mindset. We always talk about pleasing the woman sexually, financially and emotionally. At this point of hour lives we have to put hourselves first. Many of us are here because we were commited to someone and our life was all about her. Approaching relationships like this is like a leaf blower. The more you push the farther away they get.
I just left my wife 22 years younger than me. She was gorgeous, but after we got married she started neglecting me and herself. I want to be single and independent again. Now she started a new life and new career and seems much happier. She want me back bad, but that's not gonna happen.
It is not easy but it's not impossible to find good women. I dress up nice, go out all the time and start conversations with women. It's amazing how polite and how willing they are to talk. Had a few dates already.
How my ED is gonna effect my dating life I don't know. I still respond to meds, have great orgasm, but almost no ejaculate due to the radiation treatment for my rectal cancer. I also wear a colostomy bag which is quiet a disturbance but I don't care much. I'm fun and have hell of a finger and tongue technique in my back pocket.
Bring the best out of you looks wise, go out a lot and expose yourself to the chance of meeting someone. It shouldn't just be about her, once and for all put yourself first.
All the best.

[dtwarren1942]

Your sexual future depends on your lady's true love for you. If she is truly in love with you, she will stick with you as long as it takes to overcome your issue. The first time I tried to have sex with my future wife, I couldn't get it up so I employed oral. Apparently it didn't phase her because we will be celebrating or 45th anniversary in a few months.

I have suffered with severe diabetic induced ED for the past ten years, but I am still able to keep here more than satisfied. Viagra worked well for five years. Now I need to rely on Trimix injections and or A VED. Somewhat inconvenient, but she is in love withe me and the inconvenience means little to her because she knows the end result is satisfying.

[Andy425]

dt: The question was centered around having ED and THEN trying to hook up with a new woman. Quite a different ball game than being in a committed relationship and THEN getting ED.