Porn induced erections

[bumpintheroad]

I know that this has probably been discusses before but I reckon I want some advice. i am 64 years old and 5 years post prostatectomy. My sex drive is still very strong. I have a very understanding wife who listens to me. What we have discussed and can't figure out is why when I look at porn(MILF sites) I get an firm erection but not when we get intimate when I have to resort to an injection of BiMix or use a VED. I/we wish it was as before but both realize that ship has sailed. I was wondering if other men have experienced this and how to cope with this or do you look at a porn site (as a sexual aid) before intimacy but then are there feelings of pushing the bounds of the relationship between you and your wife?

[Reggieman]

I think that looking at porn can be stimulating because it often offers something new and different and can aid fantasy. Unfortunately, once one has seen enough of it it is difficult to find something new that stimulates. My wife has a low libido and will only agree to sex once a week. I therefore masturbate via electo-stim once a week. In order for electro-stim to work I need to look at porn (this is common for many men using this method). I find it more and more difficult to find something worth looking at. At my age it takes more than the sight of a naked women to turn me on. My wife finally came around to accepting my looking at porn on these occasions as I explained how it works to her. I think that a bigger factor in her accepting it is the fact that when I am away in another room with my electro-stim device I'm not in her face pressuring her for sex.

My wife is a basically a "one trick horse" in that she is not interested in trying anything new in bed. Porn allows me to fantasize about doing things with a woman that my wife is unwilling to try. I, of course, have E.D. and the electro-stim does not cause an erection but allows an orgasm without an erection. This method has its downsides. I recently ordered the Nobra Twin Charger vibrator (a couple FT members recommended it) to see if I can orgasm by a different method.

Looking at porn is what you make it. It can be for good or ill. Its all attitude.

[retexan599]

I think that looking at porn can be stimulating because it often offers something new and different and can aid fantasy. Unfortunately, once one has seen enough of it it is difficult to find something new that stimulates. My wife has a low libido and will only agree to sex once a week. I therefore masturbate via electo-stim once a week. In order for electro-stim to work I need to look at porn (this is common for many men using this method). I find it more and more difficult to find something worth looking at. At my age it takes more than the sight of a naked women to turn me on. My wife finally came around to accepting my looking at porn on these occasions as I explained how it works to her. I think that a bigger factor in her accepting it is the fact that when I am away in another room with my electro-stim device I'm not in her face pressuring her for sex.

My wife is a basically a "one trick horse" in that she is not interested in trying anything new in bed. Porn allows me to fantasize about doing things with a woman that my wife is unwilling to try. I, of course, have E.D. and the electro-stim does not cause an erection but allows an orgasm without an erection. This method has its downsides. I recently ordered the Nobra Twin Charger vibrator (a couple FT members recommended it) to see if I can orgasm by a different method.

Looking at porn is what you make it. It can be for good or ill. Its all attitude.

What works for me:
• Variety. I have several different erotic Tumblr blogs that I frequent.
• Choose erotica vs. porn. I know that is argumentative, but that is what I find better.
• Read erotic fiction as well or alternate to viewing images. A site like Literotica has good stuff, organized by categories and genres.
• I prefer still images or GIF’s rather than full videos. The videos signal ‘fake’ to me, but my mind accepts still images as more genuine.
• I have a slide show program called Simply Slideshow on my desktop. I set the slide program to access the still images in my Windows folder. The slides are set to automatically change every 30 seconds, and play randomly. This helps with the variety.
My theory is that if I am going to masturbate with erotica, I want it to be an effective and fulfilling experience, so I put a lot of thought into it.

[Reggieman]

retexan-Yeah, porn, for the most part, is phony and pretty fake. I look for videos posted by REAL amateurs having sex. They are genuinely enthusiastic and believable and I am able to identify with them. For me genuine people having sex is stimulating while actors are not. Unfortunately, one has to really search for real amateur posters because many actor's video are represented to be amateurs. Everyone gets their jollies in different ways. Some like to post themselves having sex and other enjoy watching them.

I agree that erotica can be stimulating too.

Boy oh boy what hoops we have to jump through for something that used to be a no brainer.