Your woman ever express slight dissatisfaction your erection is "artificial" ?

[Evinrude]

In other words, I envision a scenario where the partner is "turned on" to some extent because she has confirmation via your hard erection that you are turned on by her. But with the implant she never knows for sure just how turned on you are. Probably a silly concern since an "artifical" long lasting erection is way better than a "natural" erection turned soft...but still curious if that comes into play. I haven't told my sweetie about my plan for implant yet and worry she'll be bummed about the "bionic" nature of it.

[rancherejim]

She will be very glad that it works again, artificial or not. If your like me your turned on all the time. I bet she will be able to tell, after all a hard-on is not the only way to tell if a man is turned on or not. Women seem to be pretty savvy about things sexual.

[DaveKell]

I'd simply explain it by saying nothing is different. "Because of you my cock feels like it definitely NEEDS to be hard right now. I wouldn't have this feeling if it wasn't for you". Because your body can't produce it on its own is no need for any insecurity on a woman's part. I mean, you're there, in the moment, wanting to have sex with her. How much more reassurance does she need?

[strongagain]

Take her for two hours without a break, then talk again about dissatisfaction. There is really nothing to worry about. Many women have artificial boobs, most color their hairs, lots use vibrators and/or dildos. Worry about the weather...

[clayton2526]

Amen, Strongagin!!! Implants take away the anxiety and psychological effects ED has on both you and your partner.

[shooter1000]

Nothing can satisfy a needy woman like a bionic cock. Nothing. Even the best of natural erections have their limitations and getting them up for seconds and thirds takes time even with the most fit men.

[Evinrude]

Nothing can satisfy a needy woman like a bionic cock. Nothing. Even the best of natural erections have their limitations and getting them up for seconds and thirds takes time even with the most fit men.

Wow...fantastic news shooter....now I can't wait to get mine !!...

[Lost Sheep]

There are a few women to whom the pride of authorship of her man's erection is important. But I have yet to meet any one of them, interview her or certainly, lay with her. Every woman I have asked tell me that how her lover gets an erection is unimportant.

It is a truism that a woman makes love to the MAN, not to the PENIS. The penis inside her is less important than the person to whom it is attached. How it is attached seems completely irrelevant.

I do find it hard to believe. Women get so much validation by the signals from her significant other. I find it hard to believe the self-erecting penis is not an important signal source, but that is what they tell me. So I must believe it. It must be that the OTHER signals are more compelling. I have heard (and have repeated it here) that foreplay begins by helping her with the dishes. It does make sense. Dishwashing/drying is more altruistic than an erection (which, face it, is self-pleasing as much as it is lover-pleasing).

[TANGERINE]

I have had this issue with my wife who is one of those women who gains "validation of her sexiness through the generation of an erection in her man." now that I am implanted , she no longer has that "pride of authorship". I have pasted below my response and comment to this whole issue:


as dg_moore states "there will be as many different responses as there are women". So it is hard to generalize here. As we have heard over and over again, we at franktalk like to believe that most women will "put up with the implant" if they like the man. But, I must agree with Lost_sheep that there are many women who have a "pride of authorship" in being able to excite their man enough to see a tangible, visible erection. Being able to get her man "erect and hard" proves to a woman that she is sexy, and that she is attractive to her mate. If that proof is gone, then some women, especially the neurotic and sexually insecure ones, will be bothered by the notion that the bionic man's erection is "fake."
This has been discussed by an expert, Virginia Sadock, MD in New York who discusses the fake nature of a viagra induced erection (something some women also find disturbing) and here is Dr Sadock's opinion:

Dr Virginia Sadock states:
"....Some women think ED drugs make men amorous and that their presence isn’t required." “What a lot of women need to be turned on is the feeling that they’re desired,” adds Virginia A. Sadock, M.D., director of the program in human sexuality at New York University Langone Medical Center. “So with Viagra, they think, Oh, it’s not me he wants; it’s the Viagra talking. In my practice, I spend a lot of time reassuring them that this isn’t the case — and I tell men they must reassure the women too.”

My wife is bothered by the fact that she is not able to make me hard; however, I do know that her orgasms are far far better now that I have been implanted. She now has some real toe curling, seriously explosive orgasms which are way better than what she had even during our honeymoon years ago. So, I think that, from her perspective, this was a worthwhile trade.

Of course, the point is that facing sex with the problem of a "limp, erectile dysfunctional, dick" is 100 times worse then having to deal with the whining of an insecure and/or neurotic woman who wishes to have visual validation that she is able to author a great erection in her bed partner.

Moral of this story: "only get the implant if you have severe erectile dysfunction which is refractory to pills"
Second Moral of the story: "own your situation and act with confidence" (in other words, if you are bald--own it, if you are bionic and need to pump up--own it) None of us are perfect, and we need to try to feel confident in our own skin.

[TANGERINE]

by the way, there is a nice discussion on this whole topic at the following thread:

https://www.franktalk.org/phpBB3/viewtopic.php?f=6&t=7779&hilit=miffed#p55824

Title of the thread: "making her man hard -- wife's perspective"