Strange situation?

[Bushpig]

Well guys i do call this a strange situation and was wondering if anyone else has a similar experience or care to comment.

Anyway i've had my implant for 16 months now and have been dating my new girlfriend for 10 months - she doesn't know that i have an implant.
I've never allowed her to go anywhere near my sack and i've never been a big fan of Blowjobs or handjobs anyway so it's my secret. She has asked about why i dont allow her to lick or play with my balls but i said that they are too sensitive to touch and she respects that - BOOM!
If on the rare occasion i allow her to give me a blowie i keep it brief and protect my whole sack while she goes for it.
On the positive side she is loving all the attention i give her body with long caresses followed by me going down on her until she cums ( Forget 4 play- mine is 10 play ). Only then do i use my weapon to make her cum again. She aint complaining.
Do you brothers think that i should tell her that i am Bionic or just keep , keeping on?

[vajim1]

You need to tell her, honesty is always the best answer, in my opinion!

[trlewis35]

I agree, you should tell her. Sounds like to me that she wants to play with your balls and that might add more fun to your playtime.

[GoodWood]

I don’t have an implant but reply on pills/injections now for lift off.

If it’s just a casual dating relationship, mainly sex, not going to last I don’t bother to say anything about it. As long as I get the job done, we both enjoy ourselves, and I’m not putting anyone in harms way there is no need.

But if this is a long term dating relationship then you need to tell her. I wouldn’t want to try to keep this “secret” my entire life.

It shouldn’t be a big deal. It sounds like you two have a great sex life.

[Lost Sheep]

Tell her. Women respond well to being trusted.

You may well experience some blowback (resentment, even anger) for having kept a secret from her, though. Be prepared for that. Maybe even not tell her if she is of a personality to hold that grudge. I would begin by apologizing for having kept a secret from her for nearly a year and be ready to explain why you withheld. Or, ask if she would want to know if you had a sexual secret that embarrassed you and if she would want to know it or continue as you are without knowing. Let her ask what your secret is.

The female psyche is inscrutable. Keeping a secret from her is difficult and she may already know. Some women are repelled by the concept of her man needing an artificial aid (pill, injection, whatever) to get an erection (in many women's minds, erection indicates arousal which indicates desire for her) which validates her attractiveness and desirability to you. Without that validation, she feels lessened. Incorrect, but her FEELING, nonetheless.

Tread carefully.

How did you manage to hide the pump-up and get her to believe your erection was natural? Most men's erections come up gradually and after 10 months, she should have expected to witness a spontaneous erection at least a few times.

[Evinrude]

How did you manage to hide the pump-up and get her to believe your erection was natural? Most men's erections come up gradually and after 10 months, she should have expected to witness a spontaneous erection at least a few times.

Maybe to the bathroom, exiting so "horny" he was already in full bloom....then a curious scrotum "itch" that masked the deflate playbook ?

[DaveKell]

Your story perfectly illustrates why I've always said I don't understand why guys would put the pressure on themselves to keep an implant a secret. Vigorously trying to hide the fact to me would be as burdensome as the previous worry about not having an erection last long enough. Since you're a year into the relationship you've surely got some explaining to do. Hopefully the woman is really into you. I'm sure you really don't need any advice on how to approach it with her, you know her - we don't. If it was me though I'd probably fall back heavily on something like it's not a topic I feel comfortable discussing and see how she responds. I've said before an implant doesn't change the response you have to a woman of knowing when your dick needs to be hard, it just changes how you get to that point. Any woman who is so insecure after finding out she alone doesn't cause your hardon would wear out her welcome quick with most guys. This could have a great outcome for you once she learns how you are actually capable of giving her more than you likely ever have before!

[Bushpig]

I usually go to the bathroom and have a bit of a pump up before we go to bed and then when she goes in i finish pumping up while waiting for her in bed.

It's a very hard one for me to tell her - will have a think about how best to do it.

Thanks for input Brothers.

[Gt1956]

One method, like we used on our kids. In describing something complicated. Start basic, like I used to have issues with ED. Either she'll stop there or get interested in more of the story. Just casually tell the story until she changes the subject or doesn't seem interested anymore. Stop at that point & let it all sink in. If it comes up again then start from where the story stopped. Eventually you'll tell all of it at a pace that she can understand all of it.
If you dump the whole novel in to her lap all at once she might not follow the story very well. Just tell her until it until the conversation slows down. Don't mislead or evade questions. That way you can always say you were honest. Although it is a bit of trickle truth, she'll have less trouble if it is all truth.
Best of luck.

[rancherejim]

My wife passed away in 2018 right after I got my implant, she never got to try it out. I now have two girlfriends (FWB) once a week for each one. Plus I see escorts about once a week. I have always told all of them the truth. My friends think it's great and the escorts think it's magnificent. They keep telling me that most of their young clients can't hold a candle to the experience that they have with me. I try to get them to pay me but that did not fly. Tell them about it, I don't think you would ever regret it. By the way I am now almost 79 years old. I'm reaching for a 100 and to die in some beautiful woman's bed.