Common Bond

[jackpTenn]

This is from yestereay when Dave and I were discussing ED and its effects on us. I thought it would also be approiate to post it here.

COMMON BOND

I think one reason we talk so freely here is the common bond of an implant and
what we had to go through to get where we are today.

Many of us have undressed for doctors, nurses, OR staff, ect that it no longer
effects us. The 10 days I was in the hospital, before my implant, I had several
"full body" baths by the LPN's.

I have also had a couple of bladder scopes. The nurse "female" would put a pain
killer in my urethra and then clam my glans off to hold the med. Also I have had
female nurses take out Foley Cath's, and do ultra sounds.

My wife and I were talking one day about how many procedures I had. I told her
everytime I saw a nurse I wanted to drop my pants. She knew what I meant and
just gave me a sly grin.

Also the openness I hope helps others that come to this forum. I also hope it
lets them know they are not alone and others are willing to help.

My 2 cents.

Jack

[Gingertom3]

Hi Jack, and happy birthday. One of the positive things about Ed is that common bond. We are lucky in another way too.
According to some research, 40 percent of men experience Ed in various degrees during their lives. And only a small percentage of them pluck up the courage to discuss the problem with their doctors. That's tragic. Why let shyness prevent a man from enjoying good health and good sex and a happier life?
After overcoming shyness about exposing our bodies to the scrutiny of doctors and nurses, we experience a wonderful freedom. That too is part of our common bond.

Jim

[Peckerwood]

Jim, I appreciate your comments so much, as you seem to have a frankness and empathy that come through in everything you write. Would you mind sharing the name of the BC company again that you mentioned. I'm finding Cialis and Levitra way too expensive here. Also, since I have recently begun Testosterone shots, I've not yet been able to have an orgasm during sex with my wife, and I usually go limp during intercourse. I was using the Cialis daily program for a while, but my wife and I were very aware of the flushing; in fact, the redness and heat in my face seem to take away from our enjoyment even when I get an erection. I'm thinking about taking a Levitra this afternoon for a round of sex; it may or may not work. I'm also learning how to use the pump, and I've been at it almost three weeks, but no entry after the pumping yet, as my wife thinks I'm too big. Sometimes, I think it would be nice if we had a section where we shared best love-making practices with each other; I mean what works best, especially for warming up a wife. You might think everyone would have mastered that by now, but some of us still need some help. Sometimes my wife is very warm and supportive, but other times she seems almost frigid. She is well past menopause and admits she no longer has the sex drive for intercourse that I have; for example, she finds my very productive natural lubricant (pre-cum) not appealing. How do others deal with these kinds of things. I love being wet and sticky, love the smells associated with sex, but if I get precum on her legs or body, she wipes it off. Do others have do deal with this. I find it deflating, pun intended, when that happens. Recommendations. Wouldn't it be nice to add a forum for best love-making techniques, what has worked best, etc. My wife and I actually have been enjoying each others bodies more, and the last few weeks have felt like a honeymoon, especially as we spend more time in bed and in the shower together. I guess I'm just feeling a little down now and looking forward to my next testosterone shot. (By the way, I haven't had diabetes or other major health problems, just the failing libido from low testosterone that crept up on me over the last fifteen years or so and then two years of almost total inactivity over the frustration of not being able to maintain an erection. By the way, I do welcome comments from any of our wonderful friends on this site. I have found many good bits of advice and am in the early stages of recovery of my sex life.)

[dtwarren1942]

Coincidentally, I too was thinking about the common bond of friendship offered by FT. I don't think I would have had the courage to stick a needle into my dick in order to have great sex had it not been for the encouragement I received from the members;

As a result, today, I had the strongest erection I have experienced in over 15 years and other than my wife, the only people I could rejoice with and shout my success to the rooftop to were the members of FT.
For this alone, I thank you. Unfortunately, I am not on a sound financial footing, but I will make a small donation.

For littlejohn, my advice is to look into trimix shots. I have suffered from diabetes for 18 years and over that time my ED has progressively gotten worse each year. I started on 25 mg of Viagra 15 years ago. I now sometimes require 100 mg and still need to wear a tight cock ring to maintain it. You name the constriction and I have probably tried it. I started pumping two years ago, started using Testim last November, and began a 10 mg daily dose of generic Cialis two months ago. I could also fill a page with all the supplements I have tried, but I will not bore you with the details unless you want to ask me for specifics because some have actually helped.

As I mentioned above, none of the other treatment have even come close to the results I had this morning.

[Genome]

Yep, that common bond is why i so freely post pics of my dick, create forum threads, give money to this site, and readily demonstrate how my implant works.... to anyone considering alternative approaches to their ED. It is a Brotherhood of Suffering. That bond makes it an obligation that I owe to my brothers suffering with ED. A Brotherhood of Suffering that bonds us together. And this site is like a refuge....a sanctuary where we cluster to encourage and support each other.

[MARKOS2018]

A common bond to me is a relationship that exists between two or more people. For me it is the health issues that have brought me here and from doing some reading on the sites it is what I am looking for. The guys are in my age group and I too have ED.

I have had some wild times with my wife with my "youthful hard dick", but all that stopped in '09. I lost my youth with Peyronies and now am troubled with a troubled dick. I lost length and girth, and have been experimenting with Cialis and Viagra to try to maintain an erection. I do the pumping (VED) that helps me somewhat but that is an everyday chore. I stopped short at this particular site "Common Bond" since I found many who had similar problems. I would like to know how much Cialis to take? If I am taking 2.5mg regimen now and the head of my penis doesn't engorge with blood; would an increase of Cialis be effective? I haven't used the rings yet, but that may be down the road. I don't get any info from the doctor and those who experimented with this, I would appreciate your take on how to judge when it is too much of it.

My wife is aware of my problems and is supportive in every way. I am trying to introduce "toys" into our sex life; however, she is not cooperating. I know there is a lot of help in this area and will be looking further into this. At this time, I am still able to get a natural erection but I take the Cialis to give me confidence. However, I am slowly losing it. I fear that I am relying too much on the "meds" and it is a crutch.

I hope this is the appropriate place for my post. I am not certain, since it is my first post. However, I believe that there is help here for me to boost me up from my feeling of despair.

Mike

[Genome]

An excellent first post my friend. You will find encouragement and support here.

[MARKOS2018]

Support and encouragement is the force that aids in healing the body. I appreciate your response and am ready to rock and roll!

[Peckerwood]

For a couple of weeks I was taking the 5mg of Cialis every day. I was also pumping and found the head of my penis to be really engorged with blood, in fact, to the point that my wife found it too big for entry. I think she had a fear of pain that kept me from being able to penetrate with a ring. All three times with the ring resulted in failure. I did find that with the pumping regimen I was having frequent erections that allowed intercourse, but no orgasm. I wouldn't masterbate then because I kept hoping for an orgasm during intercourse, as I find that much more satisfying. That relates to my not being able to relate to most porn where guys end their activity by masturbating all over the female or beating their dicks against them before masturbating. Pardon the digression, but I had to get that off my chest. Anyway, I go from 5 1/2 to 6 inches on the glans from pumping and using a ring. I don't think that should make much difference for penetration, but the appearance is quite a bit larger, and, of course, the shaft is also larger, but not by more than 1/4 inch in circumference. Lenght increases by about 1/2 to 3/4 inches.
quote="Mikesan"]A common bond to me is a relationship that exists between two or more people. For me it is the health issues that have brought me here and from doing some reading on the sites it is what I am looking for. The guys are in my age group and I too have ED.

I have had some wild times with my wife with my "youthful hard dick", but all that stopped in '09. I lost my youth with Peyronies and now am troubled with a troubled dick. I lost length and girth, and have been experimenting with Cialis and Viagra to try to maintain an erection. I do the pumping (VED) that helps me somewhat but that is an everyday chore. I stopped short at this particular site "Common Bond" since I found many who had similar problems. I would like to know how much Cialis to take? If I am taking 2.5mg regimen now and the head of my penis doesn't engorge with blood; would an increase of Cialis be effective? I haven't used the rings yet, but that may be down the road. I don't get any info from the doctor and those who experimented with this, I would appreciate your take on how to judge when it is too much of it.

My wife is aware of my problems and is supportive in every way. I am trying to introduce "toys" into our sex life; however, she is not cooperating. I know there is a lot of help in this area and will be looking further into this. At this time, I am still able to get a natural erection but I take the Cialis to give me confidence. However, I am slowly losing it. I fear that I am relying too much on the "meds" and it is a crutch.

I hope this is the appropriate place for my post. I am not certain, since it is my first post. However, I believe that there is help here for me to boost me up from my feeling of despair.

Mike[/quote]

[Peckerwood]

Please note that my comment above quotes Mikesan, but I accidentally hit a key for spacing that resulted in Mikes' quote not appearing as a quote.