Why am I such an asshole when I get horny?

[Lost Sheep]

notaes- Yea I try to handle the lack of sex better now I am older. Just got irritated with promises and no show.

brickbat- Thought with a wife so much younger I would never lack. Damn aging process, but my libido has always been off the charts and I'm closing in on 70.

Update: Well we talked this out. Not gonna say it was easy, and I still know her feelings were hurt badly. I totally believe her when she says she has never cheated on me. We have made up and had a wonderful time this morning.

Don't we all just LOVE a happy ending?

Congratulations.

[Old Guy]

Don't we all just LOVE a happy ending?

Congratulations.

Thanks Lost Sheep.
I know it's still going to take a while for her to heal totally.

[Lost Sheep]

Don't we all just LOVE a happy ending?

Congratulations.

Thanks Lost Sheep.
I know it's still going to take a while for her to heal totally.

And for your own healing, too.

A wounded woman is one thing in a marriage. A wounded man is another element. A wounded relationship is a third element. It is best to heal all three.

I have posted many, many times, "Women are incredibly supportive if they feel respected, trusted and safe. Not to mention reassured that she is loved. And not just physically. I have heard it said that foreplay begins by doing the dishes for her, and if you want to get between her thighs, start at the feet (foot massage).

[Old Guy]

And for your own healing, too.

A wounded woman is one thing in a marriage. A wounded man is another element. A wounded relationship is a third element. It is best to heal all three.

I have posted many, many times, "Women are incredibly supportive if they feel respected, trusted and safe. Not to mention reassured that she is loved. And not just physically. I have heard it said that foreplay begins by doing the dishes for her, and if you want to get between her thighs, start at the feet (foot massage).

Yes, thanks.
I try to do as much as I can around the house since I'm retired and home while she still works. I've always treated her special, but my past haunts me. 3 wives who all cheated on me, she is #4. Just a few things that sent me back there happened and I snapped. But my love for her has done nothing but grow after 30+ years and two children. I just feel bad because what I said can never be taken back, and the hurt will always be there for her.

[Lost Sheep]

Yes, thanks.
I try to do as much as I can around the house since I'm retired and home while she still works. I've always treated her special, but my past haunts me. 3 wives who all cheated on me, she is #4. Just a few things that sent me back there happened and I snapped. But my love for her has done nothing but grow after 30+ years and two children. I just feel bad because what I said can never be taken back, and the hurt will always be there for her.

Time heals all wounds.

Time wounds all heels. (You are not a heel. Your expressed feelings rule that out, so don't beat yourself up.)

Allow time to heal your wounds, too.

It seems to me that you (both) are on your way in that journey. Painful as it is, as long as it is in the right direction, even the healing of wounds journey can be enjoyable. It is the optimism that is the drug fueling the oxytocin that strengthens the bonds of love.


(edited to add: What am I doing? Channelling Rev. Robert Schuller? (no relation))

[oldbeek]

Can I add some humor here? Having sex is a misdamenor. The more I miss the meaner I get.