New Member - My story

[Spontaneous1]

Jimmy, one more thing, the PDE5's will help, but you still need to be aroused! They'll help you with your erection, and they'll give you that extra umph, but you still need to be in an arousal (horny) state of mind. Get your mind right my friend, then let nature take its course.

[jimmy Conner]

@spontaneous - thanks again brother. Yes, I have indeed tried ED pills before so I know they work, although I never took it long term. THey did work for me though, but I am terrified that they will stop working.

@allen - thank you for your long message - I appreciate you. Thanks for the tip on the pump. I have read about this before, but I dont think my ED is at a level where its really bad that my penis is not getting the nourishment it needs. Yes, I dont get hard erections in the morning, but I still occasionally get a semi hard on and I do make a point to stimulate myself (even when I am not in the mood!), just to keep it healthy. I will ask the URO about this though if he thinks I should do it. Btw, those pumps really freak me out, lol!

@68catfan - thanks for the tough love bro I do need it. I live in B.C, Canada.
I agree with you, I need to get my act together and just take the available treatments and move on with my life. My biggest fear is being in relationship and the ED pills stop working. That would crush me. I know there are injections next, but I cant do that yet. Not at my age. I would be too embarrassed and ashamed. I would accept it more if I was in my mid mid 50's, I am still too young to have to resort to that. But I get you, I know I need to take action. I really have a low self esteem and insecurities from this which is so unfortunate. Before this, I had all the confidence in the world. I think I need to seek therapy as well.

I am going to try taking daily cialis for a 1-2 months, see what that does. But my number 1 priority now is to find a URO that specializes in ED. I need a proper diagnoses - its killing me that I have not gotten one yet. I know for sure my problem is not psychological, there is a physical problem. I think getting an official diagnoses would give me some closure as well to move on assuming its something that cant be corrected. Praying for the best - lets see what a URO says. My ED has improved over the years so maybe its my testerone levels going back to normal? I dont know.. so many what if's, its driving me nuts. Will keep you guys updated on my journey. I am making this a priority now.

Thanks again guys.

[456pzza]

You've had it tough, but there is hope. Never give up. I just got my implant, & all the research I've done shows it's worth it if you follow doctor's orders & advice. Wherever you live, ask your state or province medical society about urologists experienced in implant surgery. You may have to go to a larger city to have better luck at finding such a uro. Medical schools are also good sources of all types of doctors, either at the school or referring you to someone hopefully close to you. Be sure whoever you go to has plenty of experience. Ask that doctor for a reference to a former patient. Hang in there; let us know how it goes.

[1969CevyC10]

Jimmy, I will tell you this..........you could not have found a better place to be or better people
to talk with about your issues. There is a ton of wisdom and knowledge and experience in this
Forum. Everyone is here to help you, no one is here to judge you. Listen to these people and listen
well, you will be surprised what you will learn and you will probably gain some new friends, and I
mean sincere and honest friends, the type that will always be here for you. You already have a
great start in dealing with your issues, this is the very BEST place you can be, trust me, I know.
All these people in here made me realize and understand I was not the only person dealing with
ED issues, I asked for help and I got help, lots and lots of help. I am now having regular sex
with my wife again, something I thought was impossible not to long ago. So listen and learn
Jimmy, it's all here for you..........

[Spontaneous1]

Jimmy Connor, you're very welcome. I wish you the best brother!

[steamfitter]

Hey OP, I am in a similar boat at 38. For me, it was medically induced ED (caused by Accutane, very similar sexual side effects to to Finasteride), started at 33. I was suicidal, extremely depressed, everything.

I too was worried about PDE5 losing effectiveness. But I eventually gave in about 9 months ago. They are no miracle, but they do help. Here is a cautionary note: You basically said your dick works some of the time. For myself, once I started using PDE5, while my dick worked better with cialis, when I stopped using it, my dick did not work as well as it did before PDE5. This is just anecdotal of course, but I think when your body is already getting weakened by ED and father time, these drugs become a dependence for your body.

It seems to me, ED is just going to get worse with age. It is something you have to take your head out of the sand and deal with somehow. At least if you get on some treatment track, it will boost your confidence. Pornstars use PDE5, trimex, and apparently some even have implants... so honestly, why get hung up on this stuff?

If you have money, are in shape, dress well, are a kind and intelligent man... I think that is more important to most women than having a perfect dick. You're gonna die anyways, and we don't know how long we have left. So, you might as well just try something.