performance anxiety

[1969CevyC10]

I feel like I should not have to ask for advice but I do. I have been injecting since the
first of the year. I have had some good hits and some bad misses, but when the edex
does work my wife and I greatly enjoy the sex. I have been married 46 years, my wife
and I know each other very well as far as likes and dislikes, we are very comfortable
together. I do have one major issue and I need some help....when my wife and I decide
to plan for sex on a certain time or night, my performance anxiety goes off the wall.
I get scared, nervous, uptight, anxious, you name it. This should not be happening but
it is and it's not getting any better. I just get plain scared about performing and I do
not know why but its' really bothering me badly. I should be happy and excited and
ready to get things going, but it's just the opposite. Can anyone give some advice
and ideas on how to deal with this?? I would really appreciate any help in dealing with
this anxiety and feeling better about performing and being close with my wife. In my
younger years I would drop my drawers and be ready in a flash.....not now, not anymore

[azmike]

I can only speak to Trimix, but if done correctly and if it is effective, it should be one of the best treatments for PA. There is at least one medical study that used injections to help participants gain confidence so they could overcome PA. If injections do not take your mind out of the equation you may wish to consider therapy and even hypnosis. Best of luck.

[1969CevyC10]

azmike.........If you read what I said you will see I mentioned I am injecting edex
which is alprostadil, just the opposite of trimix.......edex is very effective.

[bldoink]

I'm guessing it's part of the PTSD. We are talking anxiety here. Have you been open with your wife about this performance anxiety?

[1969CevyC10]

bldoink,
I had a very long and open discussion with my wife this evening. She has been very
aware of the anxiety but she didn't want to make it any worse by saying anything.
We have agreed to talking before we do any planning. This is a rough time for me,
Memorial Day always is and always has been, just to many thought and memories,
some good, some very very bad. I suspect the PTSD is a factor, it's like a bad
habit, it's always there and it never goes away. We will just keep working on it,
the more we do it the easier it will become and I am thinking a lot of this anxiety
goes away. I just gotta worry about what I am doing and not worry about what my
penis is doing........

[ape1100]

The first few times using trimix totally removed the PA, but as usual it does return, and for me gets even worse because of anorgasmia. Rarely do i have an orgasm. I’ve spoken to my wife about it and in just doing that is comforting. For me, it’s all about her pleasure and pleasing her is my priority. The times PA has taken over are the times that the injection doesn’t go well. Even when the shot works and i get it right, PA still sets in but i am comforted that i have a guaranteed erection, so i know she will get everything she wants and i will get 99% of what i want. The PA is a monster that will always be there, but communication, love and understanding mitigates it in the end. I did my 16th injection last night and the PA was there as well as the anxiety of injection to compound it but I’m getting better at injection and that helps. My wife was the one who made me see that it’s not even about the sex, it’s the connection we have when we’re together, the feelings of wanting each other that are important than sex. It was hard for me to understand that because ED masked it all. For me, i will do what’s necessary to please her and when I’m unable, i will have to accept it because there is only so much you can do. Being together and having that specific bond trumps everything else. Hope it works out for you and i wish you all the luck.

[azmike]

I am very familiar with PA.


“ For me, it’s all about her pleasure and pleasing her is my priority.”

A good friend has been dealing with this for some time. His therapist said his main issue was focusing on pleasuring his wife instead of his own pleasure. The therapist said “until you conquer PA be selfish and make it all about your pleasures This is the opposite of what you think but it will help. Your wife will ultimately be very happy.”

[azmike]

This is a very helpful medical study that successfully used injections to overcome performance anxiety. It might take a year or longer but I think you will have success. Don’t give up.

https://www.nature.com/articles/s41443-020-00399-z

[1969CevyC10]

Not bragging but I wanted to let ya'''ll know, I did some relaxing and deep breathing
last night before injection time.......my wife and went for 1 1/2hrs beautiful, wonderful,
fantastic sex.......only downer was I could not cum but we will work on that too.
Thanks to ya'll for your support. And by the way bldoink, I did use a cock/ball ring and
it made a very big difference, I had to take it off after about 1/2hr, started to pull
a little bit but certainly did help with a harder and firmer cock,,,,ask my wife
Thank you all again!

[bldoink]

I happy you both had a good fun time. Thanks for the update.