performance anxiety

[Martin6469]

I've been injecting for three years and still have misfires. We keep dildoes in the nightstand for the times when I can't perform. I hold one in her encouraging her to imagine it's another guy - she masturbates to a nice orgasm and is happy and never disappointed with me. Any performance anxiety I might have is thus transferred to the other "guy."

[ape1100]

Not bragging but I wanted to let ya'''ll know, I did some relaxing and deep breathing
last night before injection time.......my wife and went for 1 1/2hrs beautiful, wonderful,
fantastic sex.......only downer was I could not cum but we will work on that too.
Thanks to ya'll for your support. And by the way bldoink, I did use a cock/ball ring and
it made a very big difference, I had to take it off after about 1/2hr, started to pull
a little bit but certainly did help with a harder and firmer cock,,,,ask my wife
Thank you all again!

I also dis some deep breathing on Friday night. I did the first stick and something was off, didn’t feel right and plunger wasn’t easy. While leaving the needle in, I again took more breaths, calmly took it out and re injected slowly putting the needle up against the skin, then pushed it in again. This time i tried aspirating some blood. It came very easily so i knew i was in the right place. Pushed the plunger, pulled out, messaged for a few seconds and boom, instant hard on. When that happens, i know it’s going to be a great night. Went another 3.5 hour sex session that just gets better each time. I think the success and raging boner helped but it literally took all that time to finally orgasm that i don’t usually get, so in that respect it put the Cherry on top that night. Will definitely try aspiration again next time. Oh, and the real deep relaxing breaths.

[Flavio]

I suffered from sexual performance anxiety (coital anxiety) for decades and now it's a thing of the past. If I was able to overcome this curse, anyone can. The mind, however is a very complicated thing and some patience is needed.

A couple of random thoughts on this subject:

a) You mentioned penile injections. If they work for you fine, but I would never use them, I would rather have no sex at all. Have you tried different oral drugs and combination therapies first? Penile injections and implants are invasive methods, they definitely work but should be a last resort solution.

b) Make sure you are not taking any drugs that may have sexual side effects, e.g. SSRIs.

c) Seeking professional help is always sensible. Even if this is just anxiety, a doctor will be able to help you.

d) Try to remove all anxiety sources from your life, e.g. a stressful job, toxic relations. Easier said than done I know, but these factors may indirectly hurt your sex life. I cut ties with a terrible relative recently, it's never easy or pleasant but it is essential if you want to preserve your mental health.

[1969CevyC10]

Flavio,
I have been married 46 years. My wife is a beautiful, vibrant woman who greatly enjoys
sex. I will gladly suffer from some performance anxiety and an injection to spend time
pleasing her and enjoying sex with her. I do not consider a small injection in my penis
to be a last resort in an effort to please myself and my wife, I do not agree with you on
that statement. You say injections are evasive but taking viagra or cialis is not evasive??
You also say you would rather skip an injection and not have sex at all....isn't that being
a little bit selfish to your partner?? If I didn't have sex then I wouldn't have anxiety, is that
what you are saying??? Sorry but I will take the performance anxiety and deal with it anytime
in order to have sex with my bride.

[seekonk]

I get this. I am single so when I have a date I have to worry about hiding the needles on my person, sneaking off to do the injection, bathrooms that don’t have locks, the smell of the alcohol wipes being noticeable, carrying an extra dose because the first one probably won’t work well enough, worrying that the erection will abandon me mid-action even so, and so on. I think the anxiety is part of why I often can’t keep hard even with injection, and to be honest even just alone with my hand I am anxious about losing the erection and not being able to get off despite the injectable, and then that becomes self-fulfilling.

It’s at the point where I avoid dates and hookups. I made a few dates in the last year but ended up freaking out about each one of them a day or two before and canceling.

[Spontaneous1]

The mind can really be your worst enemy at times, and with ED it is!

[Silverstorm777]

I get this. I am single so when I have a date I have to worry about hiding the needles on my person, sneaking off to do the injection, bathrooms that don’t have locks, the smell of the alcohol wipes being noticeable, carrying an extra dose because the first one probably won’t work well enough, worrying that the erection will abandon me mid-action even so, and so on. I think the anxiety is part of why I often can’t keep hard even with injection, and to be honest even just alone with my hand I am anxious about losing the erection and not being able to get off despite the injectable, and then that becomes self-fulfilling.

It’s at the point where I avoid dates and hookups. I made a few dates in the last year but ended up freaking out about each one of them a day or two before and canceling.

I assumed that the injections were bulletproof even with performance anxiety? I am using the injections strictly for powerful performance anxiety I can’t get over

[azmike]

It’s at the point where I avoid dates and hookups. I made a few dates in the last year but ended up freaking out about each one of them a day or two before and canceling.

I assumed that the injections were bulletproof even with performance anxiety? I am using the injections strictly for powerful performance anxiety I can’t get over[/quote]

Yes, injections should be bulletproof once you get the correct dose. It may take a few successes before your mind gets out of your way.

[Hillywilly]

@1969CevyC10 I am in the same boat as you man I get bad performance anxiety. I think it is a psychological thing from my relationship with my first girlfriend I used to be a premature ejaculator in my teens and she humiliated me for it. Anyways I've been using the injections for about a year now and they have worked well but i do get 3-4 hour erections fairly regularly with Trimix #5. is that what you use and if so what dosage?

[slipnslider]

I assumed that the injections were bulletproof even with performance anxiety? I am using the injections strictly for powerful performance anxiety I can’t get over

They pretty much are bulletproof if you know your dose and inject in the right spot. Performance anxiety wont make you lose your trimix erection before insertion or in the middle of sex.

But the anxiety BEFORE INJECTION is another issue. It comes from the issues around getting it in the right spot, having to sneak off to the bathroom. Having to take a few minutes to put pressure on the injection site and massage your penis to spread the medicine around. Hide syringes in your pocket. Keep them cold on trips. The smell of alcohol wipes. And the occasional misfire that might not work. I've even opened up a syringe to find a bent needle, which taught me to always bring a backup syringe. If you're trying to hide the fact that you use trimix, it can be very stressful. But once the stuff is properly inside your dick, it will work. Unless your ED progresses to the point where only an implant will solve it.