Rocking Horse Shit and The Holy Grail

[Daveuk36]

OK, some guys on here know me and some don't. Those that do, know I'm pretty ok about my situation. I'm not saying its ideal or I would choose it, but the way I see it is the rest of my life is good, I'm happy with my lot and I find the quest for a cure draining, and leaves me less time to enjoy the good stuff in my life.
What I'm wondering is, how do other guys feel about this?
Is the search an all consuming passion? Is it worth the amount of time and in many cases, money, that get invested. Do the rewards make it all worth it?
Or is it a hiding to nothing, and are we as likely to find the perfect solution as we are to find hens teeth?
Reading some guys stories, then yes they have found a solution/cure, but then others seem to be struggling. Would that time and energy be better spent enhancing other areas of life? Is a stiff dick the source of all happiness?
Now I'm fairly lucky, my ED is not because of some other illness/disease, maybe that would change my perspective if it was, make me think, no your not taking that too; but then again maybe I should be thinking, I have no real explanation for my ED and I should be doing my damndest to find a solution? Am I been selfish in regards to my wife? But am I a better husband if totally consumed in finding a cure, spending my family's money, and using time we could be enjoying other things looking for a cure?
I honestly don't think there is a right or wrong answer to all of this. We all judge our quality of life differently, we all have our own motivations, both selfish and altruistic, and all have our own journeys to take down this road.
But the one thing I truly believe is, a hard cock does not make me a man and is not the barometer of my happiness.

[antelope]

Hello Dave,

You raise some interesting questions, all deserving of serious reflection and honest thinking. Frankly, I've asked myself many of the same questions as this journey has progressed. I sense some frustration on your part, and I can relate to that as well. I think each of us handles our pecker problems differently, just as we deal with other life challenges differently. Certainly there are commonalites among us, some of which are even predictable given the fact that the male of the species is hard-wired in a particular way. I think it's self evident that we are all sexual beings. Sexuality is part of our identity and sexual longing or sex drive is an integral part of being a healthly male. It is, indeed, a big part of the biological imperative with which we are all blessed (or cursed, as the case may be).

I'm glad that you can see that your life is good despite the issues with ED. That's evidence of more maturity that I see in a lot of men your age. Good for you! At the same time, be careful that you're not rationalizing what you have apparently determined to be a hopeless situation. I am reasonably certain that it is not hopeless, for you or for practically anyone else. There's just too much medicine out there to wave the white flag just yet. I could be wrong, but evidence is stong in favor of my argument.

Now I want to address some of your questions directly. None of the solutions we find and use are ideal. Ideally, we wouldn't be having this conversation. But we are, so in my view whatever works is beneficial. Don't throw away the good in search of the perfect.

Yes, for most of us, the investment in time and money is worth it. The sense of well being provided by a stiff dick and all the applications thereof is incalulable. Does needing a boner make me a bonehead? I don't think so and frankly don't care. So yes, it's worth it. Is a stiff dick the center of my universe? I hope not and certainly don't think so. But it is an important part of my life because it's part of who I am. NOT having a stiffie doesn't make me less of a man, but it is important enough to do whatever is reasonable to attain it. Out of room. to be continued.

[antelope]

The bottom line, my apparently British friend, is that each man must find his own solution to his own problems. If your solution is to adapt to the status quo, then good for you. No one here judges you for that. It is not my solution; I trust you will not judge me for seeking medical help to restore Little Gregory to his former state.

The only "advice" I give you is to make sure that you've checked into your own physical condition thoroughly. At your age, something is causing this ED. Whatever it is--from low T to high stress--has the potential to cause OTHER physical and medical problems for you, from osteoporosis to stroke. For sure, all of them are likely more problematic than a limp dick. Remember, ED is a symptom of a problem, not the problem itself. For your own sake, and your family's, figure it out.

Good luck and God speed,

Greg

[Cajun Jeff]

Greg; Well said.

Cajun Jeff

[dtwarren1942]

I don't believe my quest for a stiffer dick is all consuming. However, now that I am retired, I do find that I am spending more time on my quest. When I was younger and climbing the corporate ladder, I spent 12 hours, 5 days a week and sometimes 6 days, away from home, When I was home I found myself spending quality time with my family, which left little time to dwell on my dick problems. We are now empty nestors and both retired, so I now have extra time on my hands (also ED has worsened) so what better way to take advantage of my extra time than to think about and do research on a problem that has been nagging me for 15 years.

I am not obsessed, but I do find great pleasure in discovering and experimenting with new medications (Viagra, supplements and Testim) and aids (pumping, constriction, and jelqing) which generate positive stiffening results an an otherwise limp dick. So far I am pleased (not ecstatic) with the results and take comfort that there remain untried procedures (injections and implants) for future investigations and research when the time comes. In fact, since joining FT (which I would never have time to do in the past) I have started preliminary research into the latter procedures.

Personally, I feel the time and money I spent on ED research was well worth it and so does my wife, though she ia not fully aware of all the time spent, only the results.

[jackpTenn]

DT

I have spent a lot of time on penile implant (IPP) research. I will be happy to share my research with you. Send me an email to jwp104@att.net and I will forward several things to you.

I had my IPP surgery 10/23/08. I also retired but have gone back to work part time. The IPP is the best thing that has happend for my wife and I in over 20 years of ED problems.

Jack