Wife is struggling with my implant

[sogwap]

She is just having trouble dealing with the new me! Anybody else out there having any of these issues with their wife?

I didnt have an implant, but started Trimix several months. And can honestly say Trimix has given me the best erections I've ever had.

Previously, I've had ED/PE for most of our 13 year marriage. Before we were married we got together about once a month and had marathon sex. For me it was very good sex. For her it was better than her previous 15 years of an abusive sexless partner.

I've used Viagra for over 10 years, which more or less worked. The past three years were mostly sexless. I had weak erection and I could only do one position with limited thrusting. For me that limited sex was better than no sex. For her it was quite boring and left her frustrated. To the point she didnt want it.

I started Trimix three months ago which took about six weeks to find my dosage. With Trimix I have best erections of my life. Hard from the outset, and often hard for an hour afterward. She admitted the erections I have now are what she's used of before me.

She's had mixed feelings. For one I can ejaculate and continue sex. However she's convinced I lose my sexual energy after I come. But I feel I'm just starting. For most of the sex we had previously besides struggling with ED, I had to work hard not to come before her. Now I can do more PIV sex than ever before.
The other problem she has is getting past the thought, Is it going to work? Previously "it" working was my penis. But now she seems to struggle is the sex in general going to work.

Similar to yourself, we have struggled for years with fear of ED. And so have our wives. As much as we previously talked about ED, I'm sure You and your wife had your own thought struggles that wore at our soul.
In your case you have an implant, that for the most part just works. I started Trimix, which gives me better erections than at any time previously.

For us men, it's like new power, we can feel it within. But for our partners, I wonder if they just need to catch up with the confidence, so as not to be let down.
If you are like me its like a new toy we cant get enough of. But for your (or my) wife they may need time to adjust.

[Lost Sheep]

I will observe that post-implant, you are not the same man (in bed) you were before. What, to you, may be a vast improvement, to your wife/partner it is a CHANGE. For most, it is for the better, but for some, getting used to the new you takes some effort and may indeed put her far out of her comfort zone.

As ED took its toll on my ability to satisfy a woman in bed, I learned to adjust my sexual techniques and repertoire. This took place over years, so was done incrementally. With my implant, my sexual repertoire was suddenly changed, and in vast ways.

It falls to us to make adjustments to how we treat our wives/partners, since it is our rebuilt penises that has changed the dynamics of our sexual relations.

So, my advice is to seduce your wife like you have never slept with her before. Learn her body, preferences and responses anew (and learn your own changed characteristics as well).

And TALK to her if she is willing to share. Rejuvenating a relationship can lead to wondrous new experiences and joys.

[frwmw1]

Try coital alignment technique to replace girth, it could be that your penis isn't stimulating her anterior fornix with length loss, but it's rare that women really like this area stimulated much, they usually prefer the g-spot or clitoris.

All up you shouldn't really get more than 1/2 loss of length, from what I read, which then shouldn't realistically be a significant impact and is then mostly psychological on her part.

[3rd-Nut]

I was implanted May18th of ‘22 so I’m just over 12 weeks. Had a easy recovery and healed quickly. Started cycling about 15 days and had sex first time about 3 weeks after. Was a little painful but overall I’m extremely satisfied now as I have been since day one. I do have a few issues… I was a full 7” with injections or with VED. Came out of surgery 5-3/4”. After rigorous exercising I’m now at 6-1/4”. I’m a little disappointed with that but the implant goes over halfway into my gland and they have never flipped even when I’m not engorged. I have been using 5mg of Cialis daily which helps a bunch with engorgement especially when stimulated. My biggest issue is my wife is not all in…. Yet!! Ok at first she was disappointed with it because it was 1-1-1/4”short and wasn’t as big in girth. she has continually said it doesn’t feel right. The wife and I have been married for 36 years, and she was a virgin when I married her, so my dick is the only one she’s ever had. I can understand when she explains it don’t feel the same or says it don’t feel right in her hand, mouth or vagina.but now after 12 weeks I sat her down and had a little chat. I explained that it never will feel the “same” ever again until she gets used to the new me. My dock gets rock hard and stays that way for as long as we want it too! So that’s a game changer as I was constantly fighting it going soft when I was on pills and never knowing how long it was going to last with tri-mix!. I feel like she’s coming around, but I never dreamed my biggest issue would be my wife! Please don’t get me wrong, she has been extremely supportive thru all 12 years of my SD issues but still occasionally blamed herself. And she was all on board and worked with me every step of the way thru the surgery and now the recovery. She is just having trouble dealing with the new me! Anybody else out there having any of these issues with their wife?

I am sorry to hear this.
I have to say that I had some of the same things happen to me and my wife of now 49 years.
After my implant almost 10 years ago, almost 6 months after the implant I remember her say that she could not feel it in her. It was about the same size as yours now. I was being somewhat lazy in pumping it hard as far as it would go because of the pain from pumping as far as I could stand it.. My implant mentor as I will call him, really chastised me for not keeping the pumping to the max every day to break up the scar tissue. So after he called me to task, I got with program to say. I began at pumping it to the maximum every morning in the shower, plus at least one more time during the day. I gained it all back. I remember one morning in the shower over a year after the implant that I actually felt a pop in my penis as I pumped as hard as I could and had been doing each day. I literally had broken up some scar tissue which increased my length to a total of 7 in.
I don't think enough can be said for post implant Pumping to the MAX every day to break the scar tissue for at least a year after implant surgery. If it becomes painful, try taking a Tylenol, but don't stop pumping it all the way till the pump is hard.
I won't get into it, but now the table has turned after my wife's cancer and her scar tissue. I am way too big for her and she cannot handle me at 100% pumped up.

[Time2Change]

I would say that my wife and I also went through an adjustment period during which she struggled with the new me.

I don't believe I lost any length or girth after surgery, and my wife has never made a comment indicating that. But she thought at first that it didn't feel natural.

It took at least four and a half months after my surgery for sex to be consistently good for both of us. When I told my doctor that at my six-month follow-up appointment, he wasn't surprised. He said it was natural for it to take a while for us both to adjust, physically and mentally, to me with an implant

I also had to relearn how to fuck right. For years, sex was very scripted and restricted in terms of positions because of how difficult it was for me to get and maintain a hard on.

Now, my wife enjoys fucking me. I pump up 100% when we have sex. And we are having the great sex we had been missing for years.

I have faith your wife will continue to warm up to the new you, based on how supportive she has been during this process.