Happy but scared.

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Frankenweenie
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Happy but scared.

Postby Frankenweenie » Tue Jun 25, 2013 4:31 pm

Hi
My name is Frank, and I'm scheduled for my implant procedure on July 1st Bruce Garber will be preforming the procedure. I was on the schedule for June 20th but had some blood pressure issues that warranted the reschedule.

Having said that, I'm filled with shear joy, but at the same time very scared.
I've been told that Dr Garber is one of the best surgeon's who specializes in this type of procedure, and trust me when I tell you that in and of itself is a huge comfort.

The fear stems from the unknown. But what I do know is that I'm tired of my ED coming between my sensuality betwixt my wife and I.
Here is some back story on my wife and I to fill in the blanks for you.
I met my wife while I was in the Navy, and fell head over heels for her instantaneously. She's the most beautiful creature that God has ever made, short of my children.
After a few weeks of dating, we moved in together, and short of my military obligations we were totally inseparable. It takes a special kind of person to be with a Frogman. Never knowing where I was going, how long I'd be gone, or what I was doing, other than knowing that whatever I was doing was very important.

Sex was never an issue for us, we were insatiable for each other in every way. Seven years later we were married, and still things were going great. Fast forward to four years ago.

I started to lose my ability to perform at the level she'd grown accustomed to, and it got worse over time, until she started to feel like I wasn't finding her attractive anymore.
I gave her my word that I was totally crazy about her, and that it wasn't her, but rather it was something that I couldn't explain.
I set up an appointment with my VA doctor, I tried the pills, pump, and suppositories, with very little success.
My doc was puzzled until I had my first of five heart attacks, then the light bulb went off.

I did some extensive research using every avenue at my disposal, YouTube, the web and chatrooms. I saw a doctor perform the procedure, and that man was Bruce Garber, then learned that his office was an hour away.
That did it for me, I was set to have the procedure, then had my fifth heart attack.
So there goes any chance at surgery for a whole year, got rescheduled this last time and my damn blood pressure was off

I have all of my faith that third time is charmed. And I pray the the Brotherhood of the Bionic Boners will accept me with open arms.
Thanks for reading my rant, and please say a prayer for me and my wife.
Frank
46 year old, who has survived 7 massive heart attacks, a stroke, and a coma, but as of September 4th 2013 I joined the oh so prestigious Brotherhood of the Bionic Boners! Drop a line, and we'll talk about anything.

Neisseria
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Re: Happy but scared.

Postby Neisseria » Tue Jun 25, 2013 5:16 pm

Hi! Welcome to the forum. I love reading personal stories like yours! First of all, how old are you? What did your cardiologist tell you about the heart attacks? Have you talked with him about getting the implant? If your heart is weak , adding sex could be devastating perhaps, you shoud take this into account. I don`t wont to be pesimistic in any way.
I read a lot about Bruce Garber, he seems to be one of the bests. You are in good hands. Keep updating!
28 years Old. Had been suffering most of my life because of venous leak. Got it worse by an injection that scarred my left corpora.
Implanted with a ColoPlast Titan 31/1/18

Frankenweenie
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Re: Happy but scared.

Postby Frankenweenie » Tue Jun 25, 2013 7:34 pm

Thanks for the response Neisseria
I run everything that I do by my cardiologist first, and they have given the green light.

To answer your questions
I just turned 40 this month, my heart issues stem from two major factors.
First is that I suffer from severe ptsd, and secondly my genetic makeup is not very helpful either.
But I go to the gym regularly, working on my cardio mainly, as I have a special program designed around my heart issues, and as far as sex goes, if you had to go, wouldn't any man want to go inside the best lover he's ever had? Just saying lol.
46 year old, who has survived 7 massive heart attacks, a stroke, and a coma, but as of September 4th 2013 I joined the oh so prestigious Brotherhood of the Bionic Boners! Drop a line, and we'll talk about anything.

proactive
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Re: Happy but scared.

Postby proactive » Tue Jun 25, 2013 9:03 pm

Good luck. I just had mine done on the 20th of june. So I guess I am on day 5. Just went out for a short car ride with the wife to get out of the house for a few min. Been moving a good bit today compared to the last 4 but still spent 90 percent of the day on the couch. Takes getting use to but I am hoping that this will restore what my wife of 25 years had going just 18 months ago.
50 yr old. 21cm Titan implanted on June 20th 2013

chandlerman4649
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Re: Happy but scared.

Postby chandlerman4649 » Tue Jun 25, 2013 11:42 pm

Happy but scared,

I know what you're going through. My wife and I have been married for 40 years (anniversary this past Sunday) and since 1998, I have been dealing with ED issues. It has taken a strong push from my urologist to get me to even think about someone cutting into that area of my body but I finally got the courage to talk to him about a month ago. He has referred me to his partner who does inflatable Penile Implants and I have my surgery scheduled for July 9.

I can only think about what life will be like for my wife and me about six months from now. Hang in there and tightly hold on to the thought that very soon, you will be able to enjoy sex like you used to, maybe even better since you don't need to worry about losing your erection until you and your wife are satisfied!!!

A side note, do you know what manufacturer Dr. Garber is using (Coloplast or AMS)? My implant will be a AMS 700LGX.

Just think and dream of what your life and relationship with your wife will be in the very near future. Hold those thoughts in your head and heart and don't look back or second guess yourself now.

I will keep you in my prayers and thoughts as you face this next LONG week of waiting. I pray that your blood pressure is OK and that July 1 will be a glorious day for you.

For me there is absolutely no fear about the surgery. I am posting my story on AMS 700LGX...excited about surgery post.

Bob
64 years old. Struggling with ED for 15 years. Had AMS MS 700LGX implanted Tuesday, 07/09/13. New prosthesis implanted on Tuesday, 08/05/13 due to infection. Both implant surgeries done by Dr. Desiderio Avila Jr., Ironwood Urology, Phoenix, AZ.

bob1138
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Re: Happy but scared.

Postby bob1138 » Wed Jun 26, 2013 1:17 am

Welcome to FT Frank.
I was implanted with the Coloplast Titan in December 2007 after developing ED Post-Prostatectomy in February 2004.
The implant completely corrected my ED and restored both my sex life and the emotional intimacy with my wife.
We both love my Implant and have been enjoying to the fullest for the past 5+ years and counting.
Wishing you and your wife a lifetime of pleasure with your up-coming Penile Implant.
As stated by others, you are in excellent hands with Dr. Garber.

Best of Luck,

Bob

Frankenweenie
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Re: Happy but scared.

Postby Frankenweenie » Wed Jun 26, 2013 7:31 am

Thanks Proactive
I pray for a full and speedy recovery for you.
And thanks again
Frank
46 year old, who has survived 7 massive heart attacks, a stroke, and a coma, but as of September 4th 2013 I joined the oh so prestigious Brotherhood of the Bionic Boners! Drop a line, and we'll talk about anything.

Frankenweenie
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Re: Happy but scared.

Postby Frankenweenie » Wed Jun 26, 2013 7:39 am

Thanks Chandlerman

I've pretty much got the fear under control now, and I feel as though this will be my greatest gift that I could ever give myself or my lovely wife.

As far as the implant that I've talked to Dr Garber about was the Coloplast Titan, but he also uses the AMS as well.

Thanks for the prayers, and the inspiration as well
Frank
46 year old, who has survived 7 massive heart attacks, a stroke, and a coma, but as of September 4th 2013 I joined the oh so prestigious Brotherhood of the Bionic Boners! Drop a line, and we'll talk about anything.

Frankenweenie
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Re: Happy but scared.

Postby Frankenweenie » Wed Jun 26, 2013 7:42 am

Thanks Bob

Your words of wisdom have not fallen on deaf ears.
I pray for your continued success, a wish you all the best that life has to offer.

Thanks again
Frank
46 year old, who has survived 7 massive heart attacks, a stroke, and a coma, but as of September 4th 2013 I joined the oh so prestigious Brotherhood of the Bionic Boners! Drop a line, and we'll talk about anything.


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