How does this happen?

[Frankenweenie]

Hey guys

My surgery got canceled at the last possible moment again by Dr Bruce Garber.
Ordinarily I'd have said to hell with the surgery, but this was not the case because I realized that making love to my wife was as important as breathing to me. I will say this though Dr Garber has a good track record as far as his surgical expertise, but has little to no Bedside Manor!
Bottom line as I told him was that while this is routine to you, having anyone going near my crotch with surgical equipment is very foreign to me. He has always been kind of unapproachable, and more than a little bit cocky. But I figured that that's just the way he and others like him were wired to be.

Here's where my issues come into play.

Why didn't he come to me before the surgery to find out why the BP was so high? Was it nerves or was something else the issue, here is where the Bedside Manor would usually come into play right? Instead of canceling the procedure, and crushing my dream of being whole again.

Fast foward to a week and a half later to the second time around.
That procedure was a wash because my " cardiologists office" had given me a clearence, and on the day of my procedure, Dr Garber decided to call to verify, and spoke with someone who I'd never been seen by, by the way. Or had any knowledge of my particular case, and canceled yet a second procedure while I'm in pre op. And the way that Dr Garber handled it was very cold and uncaring.

Maybe it's me, maybe it's perception, but after the second procedure was canceled, and that coldness was still present.
I picked up my phone and called Dr Andrew Kramer, explained my situation to him.
And not only did he show more compassion in five minutes, than Dr Garber was in the previous months that I spent as a patient, but he assured me that between that point and my October date of surgery, that he would be more than happy to answer any and all questions that I have via email or over the phone. Now that is the manor that a great doctor conducts him/herself.

Wish me luck that the third time will be charmed.
Frank

[Dave92014]

I think you made a good decision to switch docs. When doing surgery around "the family jewels" you want to have a doc that listens to you and that you have confidence in. That way if any problems arise post-op you will be confident that the doc is giving you the best medical care possible.

Best wishes on your surgery,
Dave

[proactive]

I had mine done by Dr. Kramer on June 20th. He is one of the best doctors I have ever had from a personal stand point. The fact that he is one of the top 5 surgeon's in the country for this type of procedure is a bonus. I think his schedule for healing is a little aggressive for me. I am a few days past week 3 and I still have not started cycling yet, but every thing is a little to tender for me to feel comfortable doing it. My wife is vey impressed with his personality. I am only 3 inches flacid right now, but he assured me that I will be over the 5 inches that I was hoping for after I begin cycling the device and that I should be straight as an arrow as well. I was 6 inches prior to any peronies hich only showed up last fall. I told him as long as I had 5 I could work with that. You couldn't ask for a better doc and staff. Be happy to answer any questions you might have about what to expect at the hospital.

[moosicpa]

I've dealt with Dr. Kramer before. First class doc. Responds to emails faster than ANYbody that I know of. Unfortunately my insurance won't cover him, so alas I'm searching thru the VA. btw, anybody got any info on the VA? esp Dr. Sageghi in New Jersey?