ClaytonW wrote:I think it would be useful to have some content about how wives react to their husbands sticking a needle into their dicks. It took my wife some time to get over her (natural) shock at the idea.
I've suffered with ED for over 10 years. So much so that my wife stopped wanting sex. Over the years she has told me that she was quite bothered by the lack of sex, but also could not handle my poorly responding erections. And that she did not know how to fix the situation.
About a year ago I decided to pursue penile Injections (Trimix) mostly from reading this forum. Quite Frankly (pun intended) I was hopeful but also somewhat apprehensive, asking myself if the injections would work, that even if it gave strong erections would it fix years of sex frustration for both of us from fail erections, lack of sex, etc.
Before using the injections, I tracked our sexual encounters. We definitely qualified as sexless marriage, which is have sex less than once a month.
We both acknowledged that we were in a sexless relationship and both very bothered and upset because of it.
My wife's initial response to my seeking the use of injections was wait and see.
It took six months to see the urologist. But finally I got the prescription.
On the day I brought the Trimix home, That night I asked, do you want to try it? She agreed and I injection myself. It was a starter dose, which worked about as well as viagra with the exception that the erection continued after ejaculation. I was elated, that it worked and kept the erection even though I ejaculated in couple minutes. She was ok with the sex, but expressed that she wanted a firmer erection.
My second injection, (a couple days later) apparently I missed the spot, not even a chubby. My wife was quite disappointed, and wouldnt talk with me for several days!
I then tried several solo injections, and was easily able to sustain 1+ hour erection.
My fifth injection worked, but I stupidly stopped thrusting for fear of ejaculation. The sex stopped and again she would not talk to me and had several days of silence.
That was several months ago, and despite several upsets, we are no longer sexless.
Despite now being able to have an erection that's pretty solid for over an hour, We still have several issues:
I still experience PE (premature ejaculation). My wife is/was convinced that once I ejaculate that I lose my sexual energy. Which I dont believe is true. As I feel empowered (that after all of these years of holding back for fear of coming too quickly) I can continue sex (with thrusting).
A large part of my ED was performance anxiety. However my wife also struggles with my performance anxiety, questioning will it (my penis) work? Will she be left frustrated and unfulfilled.
I still lack sexual confidence, which admittedly is not a turn on for her. Prior to us being together she had a number of partners. My only other sexual partner in life never wanted sex with men. Where as my wife was having sex with guys, before I ever learned about masturbation in my late teens.
