Cocoon: The Movie

[ThailandBound]

Who saw the movie "Cocoon"?

I have always remembered that movie and how in one scene an old fellow having rediscovered his youth was talking to the stubborn holdout about the "possibilities....about the things they could do again....about SEX!". And with that, he disappeared out the window entering into a new world, rediscovered.

I feel like that guy who has rediscovered something lost. The ability to have confidence. To have sex. And for sure, the willingness!

I've read several posts on this thread about guys whose partners have little interest for reasons both psychic and organic, and for those gentlemen, my heart goes out to you. You are here writing because you are struggling with the fact that now you CAN have sex again, with the love of your life, you want to go for it! And she is lukewarm or minimally interested. Some of the replies i've read seem to be spot on: it's about communication. And in reality, getting real, expressing in no uncertain terms what you hope for and want, can be so difficult even with a partner you've been with for many years. You'd think it'd be easier, right? After all, haven't you raised the kids, weathered the storms, stayed together? But why is it so hard to lay it out there with our most raw fantasies with the person we're supposed to be able to be most vulnerable with?

I was married first time around, 24 years, to a kind and beautiful woman. She was great in bed, as long as it followed "her script". Her body was heavenly. Tall and slender, I couldn't keep my mouth off her pussy. She would allow that. For a short time. I called it "the egg timer" in her head. After about :5 minutes she'd always pull my head up (btw i endeavored to do it just like she like it, gentle), and get on with the fucking. The part i could not communicate it seems was that going down on her was for ME as much as it was for her. I always came up wanting more. Granted, she could go longer doing 69. She also would suck cock and had no reservations about me cumming in her mouth. A spitter, but no problem there.

But there remained a certain puritan undercurrent to our sex life. Although we both were active church goers, she was the more devout one and sexual talk, naughty talk, were out of bounds with her. Nudity was for the bathtub and the bed, during sex only. I wanted to see her topless on the beach in St. Martin or nude beside our pool. She got upset when i mentioned it, "you WANT other men to see me naked?". I said it's not that I wanted other men to see her naked, "I" wanted to see her free and topless/naked in a sensuous and beautiful environment. Truly for me, it was the sensuality I wanted, and she would default to nudity = sexuality, and that puritan mindset would always prevail.

Our world views became very divergent after a time and we divorced. j

After 10 years of singledom I married (soon to be ex) wife #2. A beautiful Brazilian. With her, i discovered the JOY of COMMUNICATION! You know, most women don't want to tell you any specifics about their previous sex life, including mine. But, we agreed early on to TRY to be open and honest about sexuality. We made a discovery. That is, I encouraged her when we were in an erotic mood to tell me some stories. Her naughty encounters, with details. She was hesitant to share, and I was hesitant to hear (fearing my own jealous reaction). But, i found when the initial rush of "oh shit....YOU did THAT!?" passed and i became more than curious, but actually AROUSED (surprise to me), she began to enjoy telling me stories of what she'd done, by now knowing it was genuinely arousing. Our sexual conversations were so fluid and open that I could say things like "you know that guy you told me about? the one you would regularly suck off in his car? I want you to suck me like that right now". ....and boy, we were both off to the races.

I encouraged her to be nude on the beach, and conveyed she was perfectly safe with me. She did, and we incorporated nudity into our choices for vacation destinations. She became comfortable openly masturbating with her vibrator, and it was not uncommon for me to pop into the bedroom, see her watching porn on her phone with her vibrator on her clit. Of course, I immediately dived right in. Eventually, we tried swinging, and for a few years, that too was just awesome. We experienced and learned so much from being in such an environment of fun loving, friendly, and warm people.

The story does not have a happy ending, as along the way she became quite dissatisfied with many things. Probably among which was my ever increasing ED, which was sad i guess compared to the very young and horny swinger-guys who were ready and happy to accomodate her on a moments notice. But there were other issues. Enough said. I will always consider it a wonderful chapter in my life.

The big takeaway:

I will NEVER be with a partner with whom I have to hide my sexual interests, or with whom i have to pretend to be someone I am not. I learned from my experience with my Brazilian and from the ladies i met in the swinger world that there are PLENTY of women who truly have their own hidden desires just waiting for the un-judgemental man to come along, make her feel safe, and allow her to blossom. I am a gentle person I think. Warm and sensitive with women. But somehow, by being open about sexuality and so self-accepting, it seems to make them feel safe. Already discovering lots of nice surprises.

And back to the movie "Cocoon". And now, I'm BIONIC!

Flying the coop to my retirement in Thailand later this year Brethren!

I hope you all find the courage to communicate at the deepest levels. Sometimes, the truth is just uncomfortable. But it's always for the best. Truth, I have been told, will set you free.

[cbinspok]

Good luck on your next adventure, yes there are a lot of us like me who crave intimacy but have none. My wife might be good for twice a year and
I have a raging bionic hard on and no where to put it lol. Still glad that I had the surgery! Ironically she is the one that flipped backwards during cowgirl busting my cock in half creating my ed. yes in young lifes she was ok ( not eager) with sex.
Plenty of communication with always an un fullfilled promise to try again. It’s mentally exhausting.
Love my bionic boner

[Old Guy]

Nice story. Life is always full of twists and turns; the future is always unknown.
Thinking back to your teen years did you ever see yourself getting old and needing medical intervention to maintain a healthy sexual life? Modern medical science!

[ThailandBound]

Nice story. Life is always full of twists and turns; the future is always unknown.
Thinking back to your teen years did you ever see yourself getting old and needing medical intervention to maintain a healthy sexual life? Modern medical science!

I didn't see myself getting old, period.

[Lost Sheep]

Who saw the movie "Cocoon"?

I have always remembered that movie and how in one scene an old fellow having rediscovered his youth was talking to the stubborn holdout about the "possibilities....about the things they could do again....about SEX!". And with that, he disappeared out the window entering into a new world, rediscovered.

I feel like that guy who has rediscovered something lost. The ability to have confidence. To have sex. And for sure, the willingness!

I've read several posts on this thread about guys whose partners have little interest for reasons both psychic and organic, and for those gentlemen, my heart goes out to you. You are here writing because you are struggling with the fact that now you CAN have sex again, with the love of your life, you want to go for it! And she is lukewarm or minimally interested. Some of the replies i've read seem to be spot on: it's about communication. And in reality, getting real, expressing in no uncertain terms what you hope for and want, can be so difficult even with a partner you've been with for many years. You'd think it'd be easier, right? After all, haven't you raised the kids, weathered the storms, stayed together? But why is it so hard to lay it out there with our most raw fantasies with the person we're supposed to be able to be most vulnerable with?

I was married first time around, 24 years, to a kind and beautiful woman. She was great in bed, as long as it followed "her script". Her body was heavenly. Tall and slender, I couldn't keep my mouth off her pussy. She would allow that. For a short time. I called it "the egg timer" in her head. After about :5 minutes she'd always pull my head up (btw i endeavored to do it just like she like it, gentle), and get on with the fucking. The part i could not communicate it seems was that going down on her was for ME as much as it was for her. I always came up wanting more. Granted, she could go longer doing 69. She also would suck cock and had no reservations about me cumming in her mouth. A spitter, but no problem there.

But there remained a certain puritan undercurrent to our sex life. Although we both were active church goers, she was the more devout one and sexual talk, naughty talk, were out of bounds with her. Nudity was for the bathtub and the bed, during sex only. I wanted to see her topless on the beach in St. Martin or nude beside our pool. She got upset when i mentioned it, "you WANT other men to see me naked?". I said it's not that I wanted other men to see her naked, "I" wanted to see her free and topless/naked in a sensuous and beautiful environment. Truly for me, it was the sensuality I wanted, and she would default to nudity = sexuality, and that puritan mindset would always prevail.

Our world views became very divergent after a time and we divorced. j

After 10 years of singledom I married (soon to be ex) wife #2. A beautiful Brazilian. With her, i discovered the JOY of COMMUNICATION! You know, most women don't want to tell you any specifics about their previous sex life, including mine. But, we agreed early on to TRY to be open and honest about sexuality. We made a discovery. That is, I encouraged her when we were in an erotic mood to tell me some stories. Her naughty encounters, with details. She was hesitant to share, and I was hesitant to hear (fearing my own jealous reaction). But, i found when the initial rush of "oh shit....YOU did THAT!?" passed and i became more than curious, but actually AROUSED (surprise to me), she began to enjoy telling me stories of what she'd done, by now knowing it was genuinely arousing. Our sexual conversations were so fluid and open that I could say things like "you know that guy you told me about? the one you would regularly suck off in his car? I want you to suck me like that right now". ....and boy, we were both off to the races.

I encouraged her to be nude on the beach, and conveyed she was perfectly safe with me. She did, and we incorporated nudity into our choices for vacation destinations. She became comfortable openly masturbating with her vibrator, and it was not uncommon for me to pop into the bedroom, see her watching porn on her phone with her vibrator on her clit. Of course, I immediately dived right in. Eventually, we tried swinging, and for a few years, that too was just awesome. We experienced and learned so much from being in such an environment of fun loving, friendly, and warm people.

The story does not have a happy ending, as along the way she became quite dissatisfied with many things. Probably among which was my ever increasing ED, which was sad i guess compared to the very young and horny swinger-guys who were ready and happy to accomodate her on a moments notice. But there were other issues. Enough said. I will always consider it a wonderful chapter in my life.

The big takeaway:

I will NEVER be with a partner with whom I have to hide my sexual interests, or with whom i have to pretend to be someone I am not. I learned from my experience with my Brazilian and from the ladies i met in the swinger world that there are PLENTY of women who truly have their own hidden desires just waiting for the un-judgemental man to come along, make her feel safe, and allow her to blossom. I am a gentle person I think. Warm and sensitive with women. But somehow, by being open about sexuality and so self-accepting, it seems to make them feel safe. Already discovering lots of nice surprises.

And back to the movie "Cocoon". And now, I'm BIONIC!

Flying the coop to my retirement in Thailand later this year Brethren!

I hope you all find the courage to communicate at the deepest levels. Sometimes, the truth is just uncomfortable. But it's always for the best. Truth, I have been told, will set you free.

Yes, I saw that movie. {Edit Hume, not Hugh} Hugh Cronym and wife, Jessica Tandy. Truly a Hollywood couple whose marriage is vastly under estimated. I alwlays admired their marriage and their work even if they never made super-stardom.

The movie never had the sexual meaning to me that it appears to have for you, but I will tell you that your post resonates LOUDLY with me.

The freedom to be truly open with a partner is SOooo valuable. And secrets (whether one's own or one's partner's, which one knows exist even though their existennce is denied) are so debilitating.

Thanks for posting that your testimony.

[ThailandBound]

The movie never had the sexual meaning to me that it appears to have for you, but I will tell you that your post resonates LOUDLY with me.

The freedom to be truly open with a partner is SOooo valuable. And secrets (whether one's own or one's partner's, which one knows exist even though their existennce is denied) are so debilitating.

Thanks for posting that your testimony.

honestly, I’m getting my media mixed up. The scene I was referring to was actually from the “twilight zone movie“ in the mid 80s. There was a segment similar to the movie cocoon in which the scene I mentioned unfolded.

But in the cocoon movie, the actor, Hugh, John problem out-of-control kind of made the same guy point I was making in my post. As you may recall, in the movie, his reinvigoration resulted him in stepping out on his wife. One of the more dramatic scenes in the movie.

I cry if I want to focus on that particular aspect of the movie, it does once again, illustrate that old men, when given the chance, would always choose to return to the bigger of their youth.

Thanks for posting my friend.

[ThailandBound]

The movie never had the sexual meaning to me that it appears to have for you, but I will tell you that your post resonates LOUDLY with me.

The freedom to be truly open with a partner is SOooo valuable. And secrets (whether one's own or one's partner's, which one knows exist even though their existennce is denied) are so debilitating.

Thanks for posting that your testimony.

honestly, I’m getting my media mixed up. The scene I was referring to was actually from the “twilight zone movie“ in the mid 80s. There was a segment similar to the movie cocoon in which the scene I mentioned unfolded.

But in the cocoon movie, the actor, Hugh, his character kind of illustrates the point I was making in my post. As you may recall, in the movie, his reinvigoration resulted him in stepping out on his wife. One of the more dramatic scenes in the movie.

if I want to focus on that particular aspect of the movie, it does once again, illustrate that old men, when given the chance, would always choose to return to the bigger of their youth.

Thanks for posting my friend.

[Lost Sheep]

The movie never had the sexual meaning to me that it appears to have for you, but I will tell you that your post resonates LOUDLY with me.

The freedom to be truly open with a partner is SOooo valuable. And secrets (whether one's own or one's partner's, which one knows exist even though their existennce is denied) are so debilitating.

Thanks for posting that your testimony.

honestly, I’m getting my media mixed up. The scene I was referring to was actually from the “twilight zone movie“ in the mid 80s. There was a segment similar to the movie cocoon in which the scene I mentioned unfolded.

But in the cocoon movie, the actor, Hugh, his character kind of illustrates the point I was making in my post. As you may recall, in the movie, his reinvigoration resulted him in stepping out on his wife. One of the more dramatic scenes in the movie.

if I want to focus on that particular aspect of the movie, it does once again, illustrate that old men, when given the chance, would always choose to return to the bigger of their youth.

Thanks for posting my friend.

You are welcome. For the purposes of my response to your original post, which movie it was is irrelevant. What resonated with me was your appreciation of the ability to be completely open with your wife now.

Blessings on you both.

[dg_moore]

...I didn't see myself getting old, period.

Me, either, but here it is. Every new twinge gives rise to the thought "Is this the big one, finally?" So far it hasn't been, but there's always the next one.

[Old Guy]

...I didn't see myself getting old, period.

Getting Old? All I know is getting old ain't for sissies, but it sure looks better than the option.
The guy in my head is the same age as he always has been, it's just the body he's living in is wearing down.