Delayed Ejaculation - New Forum

[SailorGA]

Paul,
68 year old man, ED is no problem. I have has a testicular implant for 15 years now.
My issue now is delayed ejaculation. I try and try with little or no sensation.
It’s becoming work and I give out. Coming to the point of giving up. I want and need to ejaculate, but the effort now prevents me from even trying. So frustrated. Any one else have a potential solution or ideas to recreating sensation.

[bldoink]

I can commiserate with you, and I do, but I don't have any miracle answers for you. It can be a challenge. Are you single or do you have a wife or S.O.? Tried any aids or toys?

[HappyAgain]

Has anyone with this problem looked at possible side effects to any of the drugs you take? Years ago prior to my implant my dr put me on a serotonin uptake inhibitor for anxiety. All of a sudden I couldn’t finish and my ex-wife was all about her not satisfying me anymore. It was crazy but I could go for an hour which made me feel like a stud. Once I stopped the medication orgasms were back. The med was lexapro I think.

[Howling8]

I’ve had it for years now and it’s gotten worse after my l implant and abdominal surgery. I’ve taken a break from masturbating and porn. Sex with my wife feels much better and I was close but no cigar tonight. Felt great though. Hopefully it’ll start happening. I can orgasm if I get myself to the trigger point but I’d rather wait for it to happen without any help from me.

[Ohifriend]

I can relate to "Sex with my wife feels much better and I was close but no cigar tonight. Felt great though. Hopefully it’ll start happening. I can orgasm if I get myself to the trigger point but I’d rather wait for it to happen without any help from me. relate to "

There once was a time when I would have an organism within minutes and my partner or wife would be lucky if I lasted long enough for her to get off. As I grew older, I learned to perform foreplay and it at least gave her a head start but rarely could I wait for her.

The karma got me the first time as my once sturdy post became putty. If I wanted a relationship, I had to be good with my tongue and fingers but suffered the indignity of ED when pills and injections failed time and time again.

Now, with an implant, I can be the stud I was. Except I am almost 70 years old and have difficulty holding myself propped up long enough to perform, and when I do have the strength, it is only my wife that is reaching a happy ending. I walk the top of the fence, hoping that on the next stroke I will fall to the other side but it doesn't happen anymore.

Could it be the implant operation has numbed some nerves? God, it feels so good having the car once again in the garage but I can seem to get over that one last hump to orgasm.

Any advice? I suggested to my wife to finish me off with some KY, that maybe the additional pressure would do it but she seems a bit insulted that I cannot orgasm inside of her. We will try again tonight. Hopefully, our sex life isn't coming to an end!

[Ohifriend]

I am responding with an update to my own post from yesterday in Delayed Ejaculation.

Last night, my wife agreed to give me a hand job and it worked. I had no trouble reaching an orgasm within minutes with her using her hand. What was different was I didn't pump myself into a full erection. It was like the old limp dick days when she would finish me off with lube after I did her with my fingers or tongue.
The implant was a painful experience, performed last May,22. I had no problem with an orgasm the first few times, but since about October I have been able to reach an orgasm just once in many tries during coitus. With my skin dildo, things end up fine for her but we both are disappointed when I don't meet her at the same place. I try to cover up my anxiety, saying it's fine. I am happy you came.

I am wondering if when fully inflated, it affects the nerves and my ability to have an orgasm? Has anyone experimented with intercourse with a less than fully erect penis to overcome anorgasmia?

[Howling8]

Happened again tonight unfortunately. I was able to bring myself to orgasm within 10 minutes after my wife went downstairs to change her clothes. Same thing last Monday. We’ve been doing Monday sex which is fine and hopefully increase once she starts hormone therapy. I’ve abstained from porn and masturbating hoping it would work. I’ll keep at it hoping it’ll resolve itself. It does feel great no matter what.

[Howling8]

Tried again last night. Aroused, fully pumped and a willing wife. We had fun, she came twice and once again I couldn't get to the trigger point with her or trying by myself. I'm trying not to masturbate without her hoping that eventually I'll start again someday. It's still fun, I just try and not dwell on the disappointment as it's a few seconds of the day when it does happen and is not the end of the world anymore. I did ask my doctor if I can take a drug holiday from my statin and beta blocker to see if it improves.

[Randalltx]

I have had that problem for a long time. Even thought it was great for awhile. Whatever you are imagining when flying solo, put her in the copilot seat and take her for a ride, but I wouldn't verbalize it just think it. Last six months or so even though it has taken me 20-40 minutes to get off with a non-functional organ, the climax has been lasting 30+ seconds and about knocks me out. Used to be I could last forever and shoot on her signal or contraction. Bodies are certainly unpredictable.

[Howling8]

Came in my wife for the first time since Sep 2021. I don't know if nerves are knitting, or it's the small daily TRT injections. Knowing I'll always be hard has changed my thinking. I don't worry about being hard enough etc... We changed up our routine too and it was great. Hope it continues. Off to New Orleans for the weekend and looking forward to vacation sex lol