Giving up

[pete199]

Anybody else here just feel like or have given up?
I mean like trying to sort your erectile problems and just accepting it, staying single and moving on with your life?
I’ve got to the stage where I am so fed up with it all. 10 years of Seeing this and that urologist, taking this and that pill, amending diet, exercise etc etc. A string of failed relationships. Shattered self esteem. Basically revolving your entire life around your dick and if you will ever be able to please a woman. A woman who probably won’t give a shit about your efforts and leave you anyway?
I just don’t see the point in it anymore. Anybody else feel this way?

[Al1962]

Not quite but I am up at 1:40am because I cant sleep because I took too long to get serious. I spent a couple months waisting time not wanting to waist her time because she is younger and then when I work up the courage I'm too late. Pills still work somewhat for me and I was considering injections and made appointment with Dr. to discuss a specialist referal today. Well sometime between today and the last time we talked it looks like she met someone at the gym. He is still married but is older and well established finacialy. What is worse is I just reconnected with a woman I have known that is my age and probably more compatable but I have left her on hold because this younger one was so stuck in my head. But I should just laugh and give up. I don't need a dick that works if I don't get serious with a woman. That is not the answer but this is definetly no fun. There guys on this forum that have had it way worse including yourself and I just feel sorry for myself. I am not afraid to admit I even have a few tears in my eyes. Yet I do have a penis and when it works at all I feel like a million bucks even without someone to use it with.
This is too funny: I told them I had no preference on Dr. just get me the next appointment. I have an appointment with the youngest best looking woman on staff. Maybe instead of starting off with diabetes and heart and etc. I should just begin with my penis.

[Lost Sheep]

Remember this: Your manhood is not defined by your penis.

Women may get excited by a good-working erection, but they appreciate a confident man who appreciates them.

Trouble is, in our society (and most, it seems) a man's confidence in himself is defined by his confidence in how his dick works. This is nonsense, but we are burdened by it nonetheless.

Your ability to woo, win and satisfy a woman is only limited by your imagination and willingness to put effort forth. Make her laugh. Make her open her eyes wide in surprize at your prowess outside the bedroom. Make her moan by means other than coitus.

Use your imagination.

[Al1962]

Don't give up and don't type at 1:40am when your mood hit bottom. @Lost Sheep is a good person to have on this forum, thank you.

[Sofa King]

Pete,

Yes I have been where you are. And after a while of accepting it and moving on, I met my wife. Usually seems to happen when you least expect it.

Sex was not a high priority for either of us. There are a lot of women out there that have problems of their own, and sex takes a back seat. Anyhow, at least with me depression became more of an issue. I thought I could just take a pill to keep it at bay until I had the implant, then all would be well. That did not happen. It was not until I treated the depression as its own thing that I got better

This all nearly cost me my marriage, but things are good again now. I don't know your history and I'm not an MD, but the other advice given here is solid imo. I only bring up the depression thing because that is what can make it very difficult to be imaginative and put forth effort to woo a woman. Hoping that is not your case.

[Al1962]

@Sofa King Depression sucks. I have dealt with depression for so much of my life so it is not about my penis so I have at least that separation of issues.

[Al1962]

So it turns out I was wrong about her finding this new guy at a gym, shame on me. Funny thing, We actually agreed to meet at a local event, not a date, just as friends. The day before I asked if she minded if I joined her. She was fine with this and said it was usually just her and her children. On the day of the event she told me to meet them at door 4. I meet her and it's her and her kids and kids classmate and classmates dad. Kids wanted pizza together downtown before event before I arrived. Dad was her ex boyfriend and of course kids are happy to see them all together and can kid and dad come back to our house after event. Wow good thing I was wrong about the new gym guy. I come to conclusions and worry too much. We are all still on good terms I just don't know if it's worth the effort or if I will give up but have that turn out to be to soon.

[pete199]

Thanks for the responses guys. I’ve had a rough 12 months since I last got dumped. Like really hit rock bottom and gave up on myself. Stopped taking care of my health and appearance, gained weight, smoking, basically looked like crap and stuck in a black hole of depression. I am finally coming out the other side now, it has taken over a year repairing my health and looking much better, but I know if I date again and most likely get dumped that I may end up repeating the cycle and I really don’t want that.
Funny thing is I am looking so much better as I now go to the gym everyday, I am getting a lot of attention off the ladies, but can’t do anything!

[Al1962]

Keep up the good work on your self no matter what.
Enjoy the attention and pay attention to them. Tell them for now you are just focused on yourself after a hard time. No more info on that even if they ask until you are ready to make the discussion and go forward or not.

[Al1962]

Sorry @pete199, I am not meaning to monopolize your post and issues.
None of this is fun and it is not getting any easier. Getting dumped is not even my problem yet. I wrap up too much time and effort into a "relationship" before I even have one. My penis does not even satisfy me so why should I subject a woman to these issues. I really need to take your lead and get serious about my health. At least I could feel better about that part of my life. Gyms intimidate me. I need to get a good plan on my own. I need to make myself an excercize plan.