Implant and No Sex Wife

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Mark1974
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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby Mark1974 » Sun Jul 09, 2023 10:30 am

You guys are responding to a 73 year old man. I have no idea how long he has been married to her. According to his bio they just went through cancer together. Now I don't think she has the right to stop him from getting implanted, but this advice to leave her or cheat on her is brutal.

Have some humanity guys
Born 6/15/74. I have substantial venous leak with fairly severe hour-glassing, but no hard plaques. My urologist is sexual health expert Dr. Laurence Levine who performed a Doppler Ultrasound and diagnosed me with VL in 2020. I also have mild BPH

Witheringhog
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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby Witheringhog » Sun Jul 09, 2023 6:39 pm

Definitely not wanting to troll or get trolled, thats one of the best parts about this forum is honest opinions. Not sure how i could state if your both healthy any clearer.

For me, sex and kids is the only reason to get married, and if your wife is withholding that then its time to go no matter what age. Its not like your asking someone to hike Mount Everest. Your asking your wife to love you back. Im sure we could all think of one off scenarios or exceptions, but that is my rule the vast majority of the time. I have been married 28 years and wont put up with lack of intimacy.

Some people need someone so be honest with yourself before, and communicate very clearly how important it is to you and what you need out of the marriage. If she still doesn’t care enough then you have your answer.
49 - Coloplast Titan 22 implanted 5-2 Dr. Clavell in Houston

New_Member
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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby New_Member » Sun Jul 09, 2023 7:33 pm

Witheringhog wrote:Definitely not wanting to troll or get trolled, thats one of the best parts about this forum is honest opinions. Not sure how i could state if your both healthy any clearer.

For me, sex and kids is the only reason to get married, and if your wife is withholding that then its time to go no matter what age. Its not like your asking someone to hike Mount Everest. Your asking your wife to love you back. Im sure we could all think of one off scenarios or exceptions, but that is my rule the vast majority of the time. I have been married 28 years and wont put up with lack of intimacy.

Some people need someone so be honest with yourself before, and communicate very clearly how important it is to you and what you need out of the marriage. If she still doesn’t care enough then you have your answer.


2nd this!! The exceptions are the temporary times when she’s going through grief, depression, etc. but those are temporary, not something to be permanently expected throughout the relationship.
31 years old, sick of taking pills and suffering side effects without guarantee of getting hard
Implanted Titan Touch 22cm with Dr. Clavell 7/5/23.
Pre-Op Stats
BPEL: 6.5"
Girth: 6.1”

Post-Op Stats
BPEL: 7”
Girth: 6.2”

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Zoso22
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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby Zoso22 » Sun Jul 09, 2023 7:43 pm

I got my implant because the wife and I still like sex, if she didn’t I would not have gotten one. On the other hand if I got one and then she stopped wanting to have sex I would go have sex with someone else, “Dog will hunt”
58yr. Married to awesome wife, retired after second back surgery. PE since early 20’s, ED started around 40, back surgeries and heart problems have ruin my dick
Update; implanted on May 10th, Dr. Karpman. 25cm + RTE

Witheringhog
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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby Witheringhog » Sun Jul 09, 2023 8:16 pm

2nd this!! The exceptions are the temporary times when she’s going through grief, depression, etc. but those are temporary, not something to be permanently expected throughout the relationship.[/quote]

Exactly, and what if I decided work sucks, fuck that, not doing it anymore. What percentage of women would stick around for that… they have needs and so do we. Talking, mowing the lawn pick your list of chores you do because your wife wants it done, most men dont need much, sex and respect
49 - Coloplast Titan 22 implanted 5-2 Dr. Clavell in Houston

oldbeek
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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby oldbeek » Sun Jul 09, 2023 8:44 pm

I got an implant for me! Also was tired of peeing with an 1.5 inch dick after RP.
82, good health, RP 7-2017, all nerves taken , PSA 0.05, 4-18,, .07 1/19,.05 4/19, .03 11-21, .04 11-23, implanted 4-1-18, Infra-pubic, AMS lgx 15 cm with 5cm rte. Implant at USC Keck. Dr Boyd and Dr Loh Doyle 6.5 x 5, 800 AUS 7-21-20

Mr Timex
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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby Mr Timex » Mon Jul 10, 2023 7:05 am

It’s nearly a year since I had my implant installed. I enjoy feeling more masculine. Having always been a “grower”, I wish I had gotten it long ago.
We had many years of ED when I wasn’t sexual. Now she rarely feels like being intimate. We’ve had intercourse 5 times in the last year, using lube.
Do I wish it was more regular, even daily? Absolutely.
We’ve been married for 32 years and I won’t cheat on her, even though the thought passes through my mind regularly.
Timex, it takes a licking and keeps on ticking
Lgx Ms Ps 18x10cm
1.5cm Rear Tip Extender
Reservoir 100ml
August 1, 2022
Born in 1950, wife born in 1943
I have a vasculitis autoimmune disease, am diabetic and have heart disease.

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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby Buzzer » Mon Jul 10, 2023 8:42 am

Implated 4-18-2023. 21 cm AMS CX no RTE'S.

My wife did not go after sex for almost 15 years. It was because I could not keep it up. I turned to watching a lot of porn and masterbation. Not a great idea btw. I had no idea an implant was a possibility.

My wife caught me doing this. It was a very embarrassing. I had to share with her thar I wanted sex with her but I couldn't due to ED. She already knew that.
I informed her I wanted a return to intimacy and surprisingly she said she would like to also even though we are now in our seventies. I was relieved because the alternative was a very ugly divorce. I was pretty stupid in what i did. But sex or lack of it will make to do irrational things. I did. We then tried a VED, then injections, which all failed. The last option was the implant. That simply works and we both like it.

Had we not worked this out I would have lost over a million in assets in a divorce. That is the risk of divorce in the USA I dodged a big bullet. Any man that wants to get married should demand a prenuptial agreement with the future wife or there should be no marriage at all. If the future wife and you are cohabitating, be very careful, because in some states a former partner can have many of same legal hooks into you even iif you are not married. I also know if a woman comes to your apartment or house and leaves behind an article of clothing or even a gym bag the same risk applies. I think feminism has totaly ruined marriage. When I was an executive at my former company I never had a one on one meeting with a female without another male employee in the room at the same time. The
whole meeting was secretly recorded and door to the office was always open.

In my situation my wife belived she would not have a house to live in after a divorce. Of course I did not mention what I already knew. She would get everything free and clear and I would have to still pay for it and all the monthly bills plus alimony. I would get a cardbord appliance box. As I said if you want to get married get a prenuptial agreement where you are protected fully or break it off. Feminism in its current state is going to devolve into all women needing to be effectively whores to get any sex.

It may turn out to become a pay as you go plan

I woild consult a good divorce lawyer before I even discuus the possibility of divorce options or cheating on your wife. In a divorce all kinds of ugly behaviors will come out of your wife that will surprise the hell out of you. If you divorce her she will spend all her time focused on destroying you. Men do not think or behave that way.

Also watch what type of friends she has and hangs out with, if it is a gaggle of divorced women be on the alert.

If you have assets that are only in your name move them to a very trusted friend or relatives. Because you will lose them all in a divorce. Speaking to a lawyer before you do this is required in iny opinion. If you can discreetly withdraw some money and put it in gold coins. It is totally untraceable. Do not store the coins in the house, use a very trusted friend or relative. Do not use a lock box.I had a friend who took all his money into cash and put it in a lock box, her attorney found out about it and he lost over 800,000 as a result. This poor guy never recovered.

Sex is one of the pillars of marriage and when she takes that away from you there is
no marriage. Just two cohabitating people.

If you think you will get away with cheating. Think again, it is also likely the person you are cheating with will call your wife. Sorry not all, but most women cannot be trusted.

Bill



You could talk about having an open marriage with her. But eventually she will have conversations with other divorced women and then she will divorce you over that.

You could wind up living in a cardboard box under a bridge somewhere.
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ED for 15 years, married 49 years, age 72, wife age 70. Tried VED and Trimix both failed. AMS CX 21 cm implant installed on 4-18-2023. There are no RTE's inserted. Dr. Yooni Blair University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, MI

frank66665
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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby frank66665 » Mon Jul 10, 2023 10:10 am

a bit of humanity as someone said, we're talking about over 70 years old, not everyone over 70 is in good health, on the contrary, if the wife doesn't feel like it, there's no need to cheat on her, go to escorts when you want to fuck, you pay and the discussion ends there, you don't charge another relationship which are more headaches than benefits, a relationship costs twice as much as an escort, and they also break my balls, and then, you fuck a cool 30/40/50 year old, instead of loading up a 60/70 year old that has already gone bad, with all due respect
56, ED since 2010, pills work but not always and well, trt in progress improved but not so much, myocardial infarction january 2016, new stent september 2016, hypertension, venous on 1/23/23 titan one touch 22, no rte dottor Gabriele Antonini Italia

jwitten567
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Re: Implant and No Sex Wife

Postby jwitten567 » Mon Jul 10, 2023 3:25 pm

my doctor has asked about any issues my wife was having but i can imagine that can impact the relationship. ED is a couple's issue.

there's a lot of talk on female sexual dysfunction (dr. rubin) who could provide assistance. new meds and things (viagra for women?)
Radical Prostatectomy in 2015; failed pills, straight to Coloplast Titan in 2019 by Dr. Valenzuela in NYC, Replaced with AMS 700 CX in 2022 by Dr. Darshan Patel in San Diego, CA. Wish I jumped to an implant even before prostate cancer!


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